Lemondrop

Guys Fake It -- a Lot (Here's Why) {Lemondrop}

Oct 11th 2011 7:27AM No, every guys is in control of his own orgasm, so is every woman, whether or not they want to take responsibility for it. It's nice to have a partner who helps but nobody can really make anyone else feel anything that they didn't *want* to feel in the first place.

It's unreasonable to expect anyone to perform on demand. If one of you is excited and the other isn't, fine you can play along but faking it is a lie like any other and should be replaced by healthy communication.

That isn't to say that you have no role in helping your partner get excited. If you're excited and they aren't and they fake it though, then they're robbing both of you of that opportunity to improve your intimacy, not just robbing themselves.

Ask him what he likes. If he's too self-conscious to admit it, try some really ridiculous things which don't involve his penis. When he realises he's not going to get off that easy (lol) he may be more willing to be honest.