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Waiting for a Guy to Propose? What's Wrong With Doing It Yourself? {Lemondrop}

May 28th 2010 11:15PM Thank you SO much for this article. I get so annoyed and angry when I read articles and comments from people saying women shouldn't propose to men. Seriously, WTF is wrong with people? We don't like in the 50s!!! Every time I read an article in which a woman's whining about how her BF hasn't proposed (like those insane engagement chicken articles), I want to say to her "well, why don't you propose, then?" I would absolutely propose to a guy. In fact, I had a plan to propose to the last guy I dated. In the end things didn't work out long before we reached that point (I realised we really weren't suited for each other and broke up with him).

If a guy had a problem with me proposing to him because I'm a woman...then he's not someone I want to spend the rest of my life with! I don't want someone who's not for equality, end of.

I have a hyphenated last name that's a combination of my parents' last names. They both have the same hyphenated last name, too; when they married they wanted to share a last name but my mom didn't want to just take his name because they thought it was a sexist tradition. Throughout my life, people have been asking me what I'll do with my last name when I get married. (I remember people asking me this when I was 9 or 10!) I tell them that if I get married, I will figure something out with my husband to be, but don't intend to take my husband's last name. I'd probably keep my last name, or we could both figure out some creative way to combine all the names. I've had friends tell me that with this attitude about my last name I will never find a guy who wants to be with me (because men want you to take their name, according to them...I've also had a few guy friends say they'd be 'insulted' if a girl didn't want to take their name). Well, I'd be insulted if a guy didn't respect my wishes and tried to insist I take his name. I wouldn't want to be with a guy who did that! Seriously, I cannot believe how many times I've had this conversation in this millennium! WHY are we still debating if women should propose to a man or should be obligated to take his name? What century do we live in? We don't live in a Jane Austen novel, people!

P.S. I LOVED that video of the valedictorian proposing to her BF. I saw it a few days ago and planned to retweet it but never got around to it. When I saw it, I thought "you go, girl!" I thought it was awesome that she proposed to him at graduation, too; very fitting considering they were valedictorian and salutatorian.