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Couples Want More Sex, Study Says {MyDaily}
Mar 26th 2011 10:53PM I knew things were taking an immediate downturn on my wedding night when my wife refused to reciprocate for my giving her oral benefits, and she only wanted simple missionary, baby-making sex. This was the same person who had been my girlfriend for the previous two years and had previously wanted any kind of sex play, and anytime day or night. Basically, she considered girlfriend/boyfriend sex to be for keeping a man interested until she got him to the altar, and after that the ONLY need for sex was to make babies. She had an agenda and failed to tell me about it until I was stuck. In talking to lots of my divorced friends, they all have similar stories about their x-wives. There are too many women out there with an agenda to use sex if it will help get a man to the altar, but then the need to continue sex is no longer there after the relationship becomes a legal contract. Such women don't really want a husband, they just want a mortgage payer, and a joint bank account sustained by another person.
Marriage is the easiest way for them to get that. And sex is the easiest way for them to get a man interested in them and keep him interested until the "I do's" are over.
'Manning Up' by Kay Hymowitz: Has the Rise of Women Turned Men Into Boys? {MyDaily}
Mar 15th 2011 1:13AM I have two statements from your article I wish to comment on..
1)
Your article states "one of the reasons that women seem to be maturing faster, or at least are ready to settle down faster, is that they have a biological clock ticking in their ear".
I believe that either gender could be ready "to settle down faster" if they knew that they were NOT expected to be the primary bread-winner. The reason men are less ready to settle down is that traditionally they are expected to be the primary bread-winner. This strongly encourages them to wait until they feel financially competent to support someone else besides themselves in order to feel comfortable with marriage. When someone knows fully well that they will NOT be the primary bread-winner, there is very little hesitation to get married as they have nothing to lose. If the marriage doesn't work out, it is the primary bread-winner who loses out. When a marriage fails divorce courts typically give the house and the kids to the spouse who is NOT the primary bread-winner, and the primary bread-winner must go find another place to live and only gets to see his/her kids on every other weekend. Nobody wants that, but most women seem to understand this well enough before marriage to avoid saying yes to marriage if the guy won't be the primary bread-winner. When this happens it's a case of "men marry for love, and women marry for money". And this happens often enough to influence the age statistics on marriage. The statisticians should also record who is expected to be the primary bread-winner but they don't. It would show the true picture if they did.
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Your article also states "On average, men are more interested in younger women, but not older women".
I believe that men will be interested in any woman who will make them feel loved. Sex is the best way possible that a woman can make a guy feel loved. Unfortunately, older women are more averse to sex while younger women don't seem to have a problem with it. Men just want to feel loved. Younger woman and more accommodating to this. To men it's a behavior issue, NOT an age issue, but women seem to want to make it sound like it's something outside of their control.
No, Duh: Young, Married, Childless Couples Happiest {MyDaily}
Mar 4th 2011 12:30AM To Joyful1 and JM.. I know not all women are like my deceptive and fraudulent wife who had an agenda to get married, get a house (and a mortgage-payer), have kids, and stop sex. But many are. I have lots of divorced friends whose wives stop the sex after a year or so, and those poor guys are near financial ruin now because of divorce and I don't want to be like them. Besides, the nest is not empty (yet) for me, and I still want to live in the same house with my kids until they move out on their own. Although they're in college, its local so they are still home alot.
In many divorces, but not all, if the nest is not yet empty, then the woman gets to keep the house and the kids, and the man has to find a new place to live, and he only gets to see his kids every other weekend. Note.. I said "many" but "not all".
I don't want that. I'm stuck. And the only thing I did wrong to put me in this situation was to say "I do" at the altar to a woman with a secret agenda. There needs to be a survey to determine how many men no longer have a sex life after a year or so of marriage. It makes men feel stuck in a loveless marriage, and is probably a key ingredient to the high divorce rate in America.
No, Duh: Young, Married, Childless Couples Happiest {MyDaily}
Mar 3rd 2011 12:03AM So.. young, married, childless couples are happiest. Well Duh!
Women lose some of their interest in sex at the altar, then if they have any interest left after a year of marriage, then they lose some of that after each child, until the inevitable.. many women lose ALL!! interest in sex after they have had the last baby they want.
In a boyfriend-girl friend relationship it is pretty obvious what it means when a woman decides that the sex is over forever, yet married women seem to think this is perfectly fine AFTER the "I do's" are over and after they've had the last baby they want. It's an agenda, and one that all men should ask their partners BEFORE they get to the altar if that is their partners secret agenda for AFTER marriage.
Here's my situation.. before marriage my girlfriend had all the same interests I had, including sex anytime day or night. After the "I do's" were over she made it very obvious on our wedding night that the ONLY sex from that point onward was going to be for making babies, so any sex-play of a hand or oral kind completely disappeared from our lives even though it had been a big part of our boyfriend-girlfriend relationship before marriage. Her interest in sex totally disappeared after the last child was born back in the early 1990's. If she had communicated to me that she had such the agenda to end what was her "great acting job" during our boyfriend-girlfriend relationship I would NEVER have married her. I feel deceived, defrauded, and scammed. Nobody deserves to be deceived like this.
For those who want to generalize that I must be an obese, do-nothing, person around the house let me set the record straight. I am very fit and athletic while my wife was the one who let herself go and gained 100 pounds since marriage. I was the more active parent in our childrens lives. I fixed their lunches in the mornings, and drove them to school on my way to work each day, and picked them up after school. My wife liked to stay up late each night watching TV and so she was still in bed asleep each morning when we left the house. Now the kids are in college, and my marriage is more like having a female house-mate who has nothing in common with me. Marriage sucks when women are deceptive and misrepresent their true interests to a guy just so they can get him to the altar.
'Spousonomics': Is Economic Theory the Key to a Happy Marriage? {MyDaily}
Feb 22nd 2011 1:11AM There needs to be a survey of married men asking if they still had a sex life after the first year of marriage is over. There's a saying that if you put a coin in a jar each time a couple has sex during the first year of marriage, and then take a coin out the jar every time after that, that the jar will never be emptied. In my marriage this would definitely be true.
It seems to be such a common behavior pattern that women quit having sex a year or so after marriage when the novelty has worn off, or after they had the last baby they want because they think married sex is only for baby-making, that you'd think marriage preparation classes would address this issue.
Marriage preparation classes should educate everyone about these common BAD behavior patterns and then ask every participant if they have such an agenda for quitting sex after marriage. It would help lower the divorce rate if they did because for most men, a sexless marriage is a loveless marriage, and men probably would reconsider if they knew their partners agenda was to give them a loveless marriage after a year of marriage or after the last baby was born.
Another thing that would help would be for those womens magazines that publish articles about "How to ensnare Mr. Right and get him to the altar", would print something telling its readers that if they behaved in the manner suggested in the articles and actually got a man to the altar, then in all fairness to the man they ought to continue that same behavior AFTER marriage or else the man will feel deceived, defrauded, and scammed.
Women seem to know when they are in a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship and are having lots of sex, that it might end the relationship if they decided they are done having sex for the rest of their life. For some reason many women think such behavior is fine AFTER getting married, ie. they decide they are done having sex and ignore that they are deciding for their husband that he too is done having sex for the rest of his life whether he likes it or not.
Are Single Mothers Raising Their Daughters to Be Single, Too? {Lemondrop}
Dec 3rd 2010 11:49PM Well TT.. I like your quote..
"I will never bow down to the guy. I will be the biggest b**ch and he can take it or leave it... I will expect a whole lot more out of any man I get involved with again... they will treat me like a princess and nothing less."
My thoughts on that..
There are too many women who feel the same way you do, but are so bent on catching a mortgage-payer and life-support system for a joint bank account that they won't be honest up front and make your same statement to their man BEFORE they get they poor guy to the altar.
Instead, many women sneakily keep that as a big secret from their man during the boyfriend/girlfriend stages of the relationship, and then SPRING their true AGENDA on him AFTER they got him to the altar.
Men don't like being scammed like that. It makes them feel defrauded.
If single mothers are single because they defrauded their spouse, and then raise their daughters to believe that that's the normal way life is supposed to be, then I can clearly see why their daughters will follow that same pattern. It's because the daughters grow up thinking that's normal.
Are 'Pretty People' More Likely to Give Birth to Girls? {Lemondrop}
Dec 3rd 2010 9:35PM Regarding.. my hypothesis that the mans sense of masculinity, self worth, on-top-of-the-world attitude influences his reproductive tendency to produce males.
I should add that politicians are deceptive in this observation because even though they may rise to high levels in the political arena, this may be a result of their ability to make others think actually they know what they are talking about, and when they don't, it WILL affect their self-esteem.
Are 'Pretty People' More Likely to Give Birth to Girls? {Lemondrop}
Dec 3rd 2010 9:09PM This is just an observation of a seemingly noticeable pattern.
It appears to me that a mans sense of masculinity, self worth, on-top-of-the-world attitude is what makes for male babies, and lower self esteem in the man is what makes female babies. A good example would be that military fighter pilots and corporate CEOs predominantly have sons and sports people like the heavyweight boxing champ George Foreman. I have also seen many less notable men with high on-top-of-the-world attitude follow this pattern, and to me anyways it still seems to be a noticeable pattern.
It would be a good Phd dissertation to measure scientifically if there were a true correlation between the mans sense of masculinity, self worth, on-top-of-the-world attitude and his reproductive tendency to produce males.
What Men (Really) Want in a Woman Will Blow Your Mind {Lemondrop}
Nov 15th 2010 11:42PM I think your interpretation of 'hearty meals' is all wrong. It does not mean 'voracious appetite'. It means good healthy food as opposed to eating bon bons or twinkies or a half gallon of ice cream in place of a healthy meal.
Can you explain who has time to not blow-dry their hair. How does NOT doing something take any time at all? Sounds like female logic.
As for the 91% who want a girlfriend with a high sex drive, I think this also includes AFTER the I do's at the altar. Too many women think that sex is only important in the girlfriend/boyfriend stage to keep a guy interested, but once they get him to the altar, they think they can forget about it except for when they want to make a baby. And women wonder why men are reluctant to go to the altar.
I realize that some men want a stay-at-home house wife, and others want a career oriented wife who can help pay the mortgage. I seriously doubt there are many people who think someone can be both of these at the same time.
Why Marriage Grows 'Stale' After 10 Years {Lemondrop}
Oct 31st 2010 10:36PM It's not 10 years. It's 1 year.
There needs to be a survey of married men asking if they still had a sex life after the first year of marriage is over. There's a saying that if you put a coin in a jar each time a couple has sex during the first year of marriage, and then take a coin out the jar every time after that, that the jar will never be emptied. In my marriage this would definitely be true.
It seems to be such a common behavior pattern that women quit having sex a year or so after marriage when the novelty has worn off, or after they had the last baby they want because they think married sex is only for baby-making, that you'd think marriage preparation classes would address this issue.
Marriage preparation classes should educate everyone about these common BAD behavior patterns and then ask every participant if they have such an agenda for quitting sex after marriage. It would help lower the divorce rate if they did because for most men, a sexless marriage is a loveless marriage, and men probably would reconsider if they knew their partners agenda was to give them a loveless marriage after a year of marriage or after the last baby was born.
Another thing that would help would be for those womens magazines that publish articles about "How to ensnare Mr. Right and get him to the altar", would print something telling its readers that if they behaved in the manner suggested in the articles and actually got a man to the altar, then in all fairness to the man they ought to continue that same behavior AFTER marriage or else the man will feel deceived, defrauded, and scammed.
Women seem to know when they are in a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship and are having lots of sex, that it might end the relationship if they decided they are done having sex for the rest of their life. For some reason many women think such behavior is fine AFTER getting married, ie. they decide they are done having sex and ignore that they are deciding for their husband that he too is done having sex for the rest of his life whether he likes it or not.
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