Lemondrop

When Should You Make It Official With Your Practically Boyfriend? {Lemondrop}

Feb 6th 2009 3:48PM First off, let me thank you soooo much for posting about this, because it is a very common concern amongst people all ages and creeds... My personal opinion is geared mostly towards relationships between two men because I am gay, but I don't think that should make too much of a difference considering there really isn't much of a difference between a heterosexual relationship and that of a homosexual relationship...

Personally, I think it all depends on the person that you're "dating" I have had both experiences where after the first night he wanted to date me, and then there were experiences where it had been nearly three years where we had been exclusive to one another, yet never really uncovered the true nature behind our relationship. I believe it all depends on your own comfort levels, but obviously if the conversation comes off too soon, then he will tell you. Or vice versa, should he breach the subject of your upspoken bond, and you aren't ready just tell him, that as of right now, you want to get to know him better, as to better appreciate him and what he has to offer. (Giving his ego a little stroke is the best way to get him off the trail, if you personally aren't sure just yet ;- ) ...

Most of all, be honest with him, most men at least from my own experience with gay and straight men alike, they prefer and appreciate a woman who can be honest, without entirely having to sugar-coat anything. They want to be held on the same level and in the same respect and regards they would show you. A let down should be direct and honest, yet not with the same heeding of an arguement waiting to happen.

I would rely on your own personal feelings on the subject, if you feel within the first few nights of getting together and talking, that you want to become and item, then bring up the subject, should this be the case, proceed with caution. Be ready and understand that the answer you get may not be the one your want at that particular moment, but also realize that he is being honest with you about his feelings and respect them.

Keep in mind that should he say he just wants to be friends, that he may just need some time to think things through don't push the envelope, but the occassional flirtation never hurts, just to give him a reminder of what he's missing out on... ;- )

Stay strong all,
Phil