Lemondrop

The Orgasm Loop: Self-Help that Really Helps {Lemondrop}

Sep 25th 2008 6:43AM Okay, so that's great....but here's my question. Why is it that we keep getting more and more articles about ways that women can give themselves pleasure because "we all know our lovers don't always make us feel that way."? Why not a new article in every "Men's" magazine every time you turn around about how guys can finally do "Right" by their lady (or The ladies, if that's where they are) in the bedroom. Why does it always have to be about the woman taking responsibility for her own pleasure? I can assure you that the way most women see it, we've been socialized to believe that the MAN'S pleasure depends on us too! Sooo, I'm supposed to be doing this, that and the other thing to make sure that my male partner gets his....... ALL while I'm breathing a certain way, thinking of a certain image and imagining this "loop" of energy? I think that most of the time....I'll just do as the author is and continue "Enjoying so much myself." When it's time for me to choose someone to share myself with in that way, you can bet I'm gonna pick someone who can give me that big O without any special techniques or tricks.

Having said all that though, I will admit that the first time I heard the statistic of women who've never achieved that....I was stunned and I was also infinitely sad for those ladies. Taken in THAT vein, then heck yes....give them all the help you can think of and all the articles that they need. But, in the same token, I think that the articles I imagine that would direct men how to do that FOR their partner would be mostly about awareness and compassion as well as sensitivity and focus which could be the thing that the ladies who aren't able of have never had an orgasm need most of all. I just don't get why the "burden" is ALWAYS on the woman's shoulders, right up to and including your orgasm! If I've got to be the one to make it happen, then what's he doing there anyway? Oh yeah...because sex between to committed, consensual adults is the best thing since sliced bread and saying that...so is a partner that is just as committed to my pleasure as I am to his. All the really great men I know personally feel that they get their biggest joy out of seeing the lady their with experience pleasure. And for those ladies who aren't with a guy like that??? Start looking!! They exist and they're worth it....