Lemondrop

Charity Case: The Advice Column Where YOU Give the Answers {Lemondrop}

Sep 18th 2008 5:14PM I think the first place to start would be the old "on-again, off-again" thing. That right there is always a huge red flag for me. If this girl was at all stable to begin with, she'd have the wherewithal to know when to call it quits.

Secondly, a girl who will cheat on her boyfriend, grey-area or not, doesn't sound like someone who's really, truly ready for a committed relationship. I've had my share of crappy relationships, but I've never cheated, and would end the relationship if I really had that urge. Sounds like she needs the attention of a man, and you're feeding it to her.

And last, I hate to say it, but are you sure that you're ready to be in a relationship?? Because a guy who doesn't think he deserves a girl who puts stronger values on a relationship than this girl seems to, doesn't sound like someone who can bring much to the table.

Cheating is ugly, and it says a lot about a person who would make a decision to do so. If you date her, don't be shocked when she does the same thing to you.