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Why Being Called 'Mrs.' Is Never OK {Lemondrop}

Jun 11th 2009 11:41AM Traditional to Korean custom, the woman keeps her maiden name, and is still referred to by that, but only as "Ms./Mrs. Maiden name" versus "Miss Maiden name". Her husband is still "Mr. Whomever" and their children are given their father's last name.

I'm an only child, and grew up between the Korean and American cultures. I realized early on that my father's legacy would essentially disappear from under his name when I married. My husband, being the enlightened and wonderfully understanding man he is, even offered to take my maiden name as his last name when we married. (He's the second out of three sons in his family.) Eventually, we decided it was best for me to take his last name, as he was in the military at the time, and I legally changed my name: Given name, maiden name as a middle name, and married last name. This was to honor my paternal grandmother who also did the same.

Point being, it's not so much the "medieval" practice, but your perspective on it. I never viewed taking my husband's name as being a backwards and troublesome practice. Nor, did he see taking my maiden name as too forward thinking. What tempered our decision was what was thinking of other ways to honor and remember the names and families we came from. On the other hand, once you marry, aren't you creating your own legacy? Why start it off with an irascible attitude about a name? Marriage is about compromise and understanding, shouldn't that be the spirit in which you consider the name you're taking?

Oprah Loses Cocker Spaniel Puppy, Other in Critical Condition {Blackvoices Main}

Mar 19th 2009 8:51AM It's sad this happened, but it usually happens when puppies are bought from puppy mills and not vaccinated soon enough.

Lesson: Vaccinate your puppies as soon as possible!!!

Do attractive couples have more girls? {ParentDish}

Aug 9th 2006 10:44AM It seems that everyone is forgetting that a study focuses on a LARGE grouping of people and one control group. This large grouping is also selected by certain criteria that they're looking for: Greco-Roman/Classical features and symmetry, physique, eye color, hair color, etc.

But, what this also means is that though the STUDY shows and average - a sweeping generalization based on a group of results based on criterion - this average does not apply to everyone. THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS TO EVERY RULE!!!

And, if you still chose to get your knickers in a twist over someone's scientific findings that may only lend a small understanding to the workings of Mother Nature, the issue is not the STATISTICAL, VARIABLE information provided. Rather, it is the insult to the ego delivered by a cold, calculating, and indifferent study.