C. M. Rubin: The Global Search for Education: Women - Part 3
The Adulterous Behavior 30% Of People Won't Admit To
For all you ladies out there who thought sharing a tipsy smooch would thrill your boyfriend, think again. In a recent survey about kissing and cheating, 61 percent of guys believed that a girl-on-girl kiss involving their girlfriends would be considered cheating. In fact, almost a third of the guys surveyed would dump their girlfriends for dipping a toe into sapphic waters. Perhaps drunken girl-make-out sessions are a bit like stripping -- guys love to see girls do it, but they don't want to see their girls doing it. The guys in this survey admitted that they wouldn't be able to trust their girlfriend after a kiss with anyone, male or female, and a girl-girl kiss would make them question her sexual orientation.
Maybe it's best if we leave the kissing for people we're actually attracted to, instead of making lady liplocks a parlor trick for men. If you want to make out with a girl, ladies, do it because you want to make out with a girl, and figure out some other fun sexy tricks to keep your man on his toes. It's 2010, and that particular trick is played out.
What do you think? Have you ever made out with a girl to turn a guy on? What's your take on why straight women make out with each other? What crazy new things can we do if girl kissing is off limits? Tell us in the comments!
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Monday 22 November
By Alicia
It all depends on the guy and the girl's sexual orientation, whether or not it's cheating. Honestly, if I were dating me, I'd consider it cheating because I'm openly bisexual, but that's my story. If a girl were usually 100% straight and kissed a girl to turn on her boyfriend, then I'd think he was probably over-reacting if he didn't at least sit down and have a long talk with her before dumping her.
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Monday 22 November
By Nickolas James
See a lot of girls believe that kissing another girl isn't cheating when in fact it is. most of what a person hates or is hurt by with cheating is that the person experiences sexual pleasure with another person and there isn't a soul that can say that kissing isn't sexually stimulating. I found an article where the question is posed: would all woman cheat if they could? I personally do not know but I do know kissing other girls is cheating by far.
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Tuesday 23 November
By dannyfrom504
cheating: nope.
hot: you betcha.
never had a problem with any gf fooling around with other women. i usually prefer to be present when it happens. but if i learn she went out, got a little drunk and kissed some girl, it just didn't register. i personally think men that think it's cheating have self-esteem issues. but that's just me. ladies...kiss away, but please let me watch. lol.
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Saturday 27 November
By from925
You think its a self esteem issue? I tend to think its disrespectful people like you with misguided morals that pressure ladies into thinking they have to do acts like that in order to impress or please men.
Any female that makes out with another girl only when their drunk is seeking attention. My rule has, if its okay for my girlfriend to kiss other girls, then it better damn well be okay for me too.
Friday 03 December
By dannyfrom504
@from925. yes, you read it right- "self esteem issue". which your feather's all ruffled response indicates. last time i checked, everyone's allowed their own opinion, that's why the site ASKED us to chime in and opine. now, if your lady kisssing another girl would bother you so much, then set said boundaries with your gf and god bless. but, i'm curious: would you walk down the street holding a male friends hand? i'd guess no. but women can and it's just not a big deal. my point is, women are more touchy feely towards each other and this can be exacerbated with booze. 2 girls can kiss and never think of it going beyond that. so to me, i don't see it as cheating. i think it's kind of sexy.
Thursday 25 November
By Render
Part of the problem with the impromptu, drunken, sapphic action is that many men don't actually look at the gender involved ... they look at the all-too-common, post-feminist, "hey, guys can do it so why not me .... no of course I don't remember treating those guys with contempt" lack of self-control, judgment, and discrimination demonstrated in slapping lips with an equally drunk person. If you'll do it with a girl, you'll probably do it with a guy as well, and you'll clearly be so wrapped up in the excitement of it all, you'll certainly not bother with a condom (no worries about fertility or disease here, oh no.) So, if you wanted to make your male significant other wonder who else you're swapping spit and other bodily fluids with every time you step out the door, by all means, guzzle a tray of jello shots and suck face with the hot chick.
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Friday 26 November
By Molly
Um, it's cheating if you kiss somebody else. The End.
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Sunday 28 November
By Jasmine
Of course it's cheating; if my boyfriend kissed another girl I'd consider it cheating. If I kissed another girl he'd consider it cheating. I'm pansexual and I've dated a woman before the man I'm with now. It might be "sexy" for guys to watch girls make out, but don't forget that it's not innocent fun.
If guys/girls don't want their girlfriends to cheat on them with (other) men, then why is it alright for them to cheat on them with women?
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Saturday 27 November
By V
Cheating is a subjective term; it refers to doing something to abuse the faith your partner has placed in you. Not everyone puts the same standards to their partner; some people might enjoy swinging while others only work monogamously. There isn't a black and white answer - you have to talk with your partner.
As for the fellow who thinks that guys who consider it cheating for their lady to kiss other ladies have low self-esteem, you do realize women can have genuine relationships, correct? It's not just a parlor trick for your benefit; they can love one another and be self-sufficient without needing a man at all. It sounds to me like you don't believe that fact.
Regardless, cheating does not imply self-esteem issues, jealousy does. Not being jealous involves trusting your partner, betrayals involve having that trust shoved down your throat and having your hope killed.
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Monday 29 November
By zuki800
Even if it is sexual stimulating, its just two girls having fun. As long as I am still the romantic involvement I wouldn't care if she went over and did the deed without me, its just sex. Girls have at it and enjoy it.
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Saturday 27 November
By MyGirlKissesGirls
My girlfriend kisses girls all the time. She has been doing this for years. What's the problem?
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Saturday 27 November
By MyGirlKissesGirls
My girlfriend kisses girls all the time. She has been doing this for years. What's the problem?
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Sunday 28 November
By dmiami
As long as I get pics, video or voyeur visitation, I am fine with it.
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Sunday 28 November
By Kevin
I don't really know why.....but I find 2 girls kissing rrrreally hot!....even if it she is my girlfriend.....I wonder if it would be different if I were married?....mmmm.
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Sunday 28 November
By Kevin
I don't really know why.....but I find 2 girls kissing rrrreally hot!....even if it she is my girlfriend.....I wonder if it would be different if I were married?....mmmm.
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Sunday 28 November
By kochevnik
This is the emasculated emo male page. If there were a country exclusively filled with these eunuchs, I'd gladly volunteer to pilot the Enola Gay over their sad, virgin micropenises and make the world a more patriarchal place.
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Sunday 28 November
By zroya
yeah, i have had chicks make out with me, and then i realise they are only using me to bait men. its pretty shallow behaviour.
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Tuesday 30 November
By luna
"Cheating" is defined between you and your partner and your personal standards of what constitutes it. For my husband and I, me being bisexual, it is a thrill for us to put other girls in the mix so to speak, and it does go much further than kissing for me and the girl. He doesn't have too many rules on what he can and cannot do to her. I have no jealousy issues. I'm hot and I know it and he's not going anywhere. This was all my idea as I'm bi and love the touch of a woman, so no "parlor tricks" here... no forcing of anything. Now that said... if he was with someone behind my back for more than just shared sexual pleasure, to date or even to have a one nighter without me knowing... that would mess with me emotionally. I have thought long and hard (hee!) about this, and I know that maybe not everyone is like us. But we are very happy this way and hurt no one. And there are people out there like us, we just don't tell the world about it. To each his own, for real.
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Wednesday 01 December
By Chris
I ended up making out with a friend of mine at the last party I went to... both of our boyfriends were really turned on!
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Wednesday 01 December
By TomH1803
girl on girl kissing is out of bounds for many Christians so it's a big problem. the same for guy on guy kissing
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