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While the task of delivering "The Talk" has typically fallen to the more precocious kids on the playground or our feminist, no-nonsense moms, a new study has discovered that many girls actually wish they would have had the awkward sex chat with their dads.Researchers interviewed about 250 women between the ages of 19 to 21 about how their fathers had an impacted their sex education. And to no one's surprise, participants said it wasn't much.
However, researchers did discover that many of the women actually wished their dads had discussed relationships with them, in order to get a better an idea of what really goes through a guy's mind when it comes to sex.
"They felt that if they could have been more comfortable talking with their fathers about issues around sex, they might have been more comfortable talking to boyfriends or potential sexual partners about them," Katherine Hutchinson, associate professor at the NYU College of Nursing, told Time.com. "And they wanted to know how to negotiate intimacy issues with men."
While we all cringe at the idea of talking to our fathers about how to give the "no glove, no love" speech, we'll leave it to you. Ever wish you'd gotten sex advice from your pop? What do you wish he'd -- ugh, sorry -- told you?
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Thursday 04 November
By animefan6
what do you mean why hate on others?
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Thursday 04 November
By gianna
ummm yea i dont really wanna talk to my dad about sex thats weird
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Friday 05 November
By Dinky-do
I love Miley and I think she is a wonderful young lady. Billy Ray is also a wonderful dad. Dumb people just dont get it. I know he loves his daughter and she loves him. So what else matters?
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Thursday 04 November
By Dinky
Too many sick minds in this world are talking trash about Billy Ray and Miley.
Billy Ray had a rough time making it and now the same scum bags that tried to hold him back are trying the same crap on Miley. Stand Tall Miley and be proud. You are a beautiful lady.
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Thursday 04 November
By mike
I have two tenage girls that I love vary much. What I have told them about sex is that when you choose to be active you make the change from a child to an adult. There are many resposabilitys when you move in this direction.
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Friday 05 November
By Diana
When I was a late teen I had bought a book on the psychology of sex and when my Dad saw it he freaked out and immediately assumed i was sexually active which was not true until I was about 20 and engaged to the man I would marry. Nobody talked to me about sex and we didn't learn it in school then, so I was curious of course! I would not have wanted my Dad to be sexually explicit with me as a Mom might, but I would have loved his opinion on what a man wants and maybe the what not to do and the what to dos to please a man. Mostly, though, he told me all men were looking for a free ride in the hay and beware! lol I am sure, though, sex talk with Dad 40 years ago would have been awkward to a large degree. Things are different today and I think Dads should talk about it to daughters from a tasteful perspective just to show interest.
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Thursday 04 November
By Jake
I know I wished my dad had given me the sex talk instead of showing me how it's done. YUCK! I still can't get the taste out of my mouth.
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Thursday 04 November
By Julie
Wow! I'm not exactly sure that your particular situation falls within the "confines" of the conversation... sorry 'bout your face... and your Dad. Bummer!
Thursday 04 November
By laughin
well now i know where miley got her skanky moves from her mommy but daddy is as much fault
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Thursday 04 November
By Slider
My Mother and Father both played an equal role in talking about sexual and body issues, and they worked hard to make sure I knew I could go to either of them with questions about anything. I distinctly remember, at the ripe old age of seven, looking at one of my mother's book on sex and pregnancy that was lying around while she was pregnant with my younger siblings, and asking my dad about an infrared photo of an erect penis that was inside. He was very cool about the whole thing, and throughout my adolescence I went to him with questions about love, sex, and everything in between almost as much as I went to my mom. It was nice to get both their perspectives on so many tough issues.
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Thursday 04 November
By Kate
I remember my father's version of "the talk". It went: "Katie, we need to talk about plumbing. If you flush any of that girly $h!t down the toilet, you're grounded." ... to this day, I think I'd have rather he never noticed that I was becoming a woman.
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Friday 05 November
By Rodney
".... in order to get a better an idea of what really goes through a guy's mind when it comes to sex."
Hate to say this but as a guy myself I can.What really goes through a guy's mind.....IS sex...all the time! As soon as we hit puberty and take our second look at girls that is all that runs through our brains.Ohh sure there are a few guys where that's not true but for the rest of us....yes I"m sorry to say but sex IS the main thing on the brain all the time.You can down me all you want but it's the truth.
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Friday 05 November
By GRACE2STAND
The talk that fathers need to have with their daughters (at about the age of ten, since puberty is happening much sooner, these days) is about the value of PURITY.
ONLY a father can give his daughter a man's perspective. Only he can tell her what it does to a man to see a woman dress and act provocatively. Only he can tell her what is proper attire and behavior.
Only a father can assure a girl that she will attract a man of good character if she dresses and behaves like a respectable lady, and how much better that will be for her, than if she attracts a man sensually.
Some fathers have actual ceremonies where they give their daughter a "purity ring." (The one we chose had three pearls: A large one in the middle, to represent the purity of Christ, and one on each side, to represent her purity and the purity of her future husband.)
We hope that every time she looks at it. she will remember to place great value on her own purity AND the purity of her future husband.
During the ring ceremony, the father tells his daughter how precious she is to him, how much he values her purity; how much her future husband will value her, if she shows that she values herself... (The last part of the last chapter of Proverbs is a good reference for this.)
Only a father can give his daughter a vision of the fact that the foundation of a
strong marriage is the person she
God the Father said in Deuteronomy 29 "Oh, that there were such an heart in them, that they would reverence Me, and keep all My commandments always, THAT IT MIGHT BE WELL WITH THEM, and with their children, forever!"
This is the heart cry of every good father, and his children need to hear it.
Even if he has wrecked his own life. Even if he has to write these things to her from a prison cell, HE IS HER FATHER, and she needs to hear these things from him.
Never underestimate THE POWER OF THE FATHER.
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Wednesday 10 November
By sanford
Thank you for your comment. It looks like you know the Lord Jesus as your personal Saviour!!
Friday 05 November
By cqdeed
I still remember my sex talk with my dad (mid sixties). He asked me what I knew about sex. The onus was now on me. I said I felt I knew enough to get along. He said I needed to be aware that most girls that got into a family way would pick out the partner they like best and blame it on him, and that I should do my best to avoid such situations. Then in a round about way he let me know if I was too embarassed to buy condoms to let him know and he would buy them for me. That's it, now I was prepared to deal with the world.
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Friday 05 November
By bluenorther
Men have fared no better with advice from our dads.
The only insight I received from mine was "If you want to know what a girl will look like when she's older, look at her mom."
Boys are being raised by WOMEN, not men! It's no wonder so many of us are so screwed up.
Today, there's a whole genre of online dating gurus and Pickup Artists, with knowledge and tips that didn't exist thirty years ago.
Even the worst of them are better than what I received, which was nothing.
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Friday 05 November
By Thomas
I love how many of you are commenting on the picture of Miley and Billy Ray instead of the actual text of the actual article. Go look a pop-up book or something and leave commentary to actual readers please.
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Friday 05 November
By frank
It is rumored that Miley controls her father through threats of disclosure, of his inappropriate behavior with her.
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Friday 05 November
By TTREXXX
DADS CAN HELP BY TELLING THEIR DAUGHTERS WHAT DIRT BAGS ALL BOYS ARE UNDER THE AGE OF 18...AFTER 18 AT LEAST THEY CAN GET CHILD SUPPORT. FOR THEIR MISTAKES AND UNDER 25 THEIR ALL MISTAKES BAR NONE. THAT'S THE REAL MESS.
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Friday 05 November
By Alicia
Honestly, I just would've liked my dad to be that interested in my life. I'm kind of glad he never tried to give me the talk because my mom gave me information, my dad would've just been, "fornication's a sin, don't do it, don't get pregnant." But I started dating at 13, brought home a college boy at 16 and had many relationships in between and afterwards and my dad never cared. Dads need to take a interest in what their daughters are doing, the boys they are bringing home and their future. I spent years in therapy trying to figure out why my dad didn't love me enough. Save your daughter some money, men, and give a damn.
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