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Weight can be a touchy topic, no matter who's talking about it. But what happens when it's your significant other who brings it up? Over at TheFrisky, a reader wrote in about her boyfriend taking issue with her shape and size. It got us wondering -- is it ever OK to voice concern about a significant other's body weight? Tell us: Has weight ever been an issue in your relationship?
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Tuesday 02 November
By Fyndy
This is such a touchy subject....if you know that the person is bringing it up because they are seriously concerned for your health, or you already have a health condition and you are eating very unhealthily, not if they're bringing it up because they don't like the way you look.
I had an ex who was trying to get into the wrestling scene. Believe me, he was an all around big guy, but that never bothered me. What bothered me was when we started exercising together and he would take jabs at ME. I'm 4'11, and weighed about 118-120lbs at the time, which was mostly muscle (I gained 7 pounds of muscle while with him) so it wasn't like I was GAINING fat, I was gaining muscle. But he had the gall to ask me one day why I still had a little "pooch". My stomach was perfectly fine at the time, but like most women, I had a little extra around the tummy, nothing major. I was so pissed off I didn't speak to him for a week.
So while I think it's not right to comment on a person's size, no matter if they gain weight while you're with them, if you have a serious legitimate concern over their health, maybe suggest doing something together that includes exercise.
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Wednesday 03 November
By Ariel
I guess if my boyfriend had gained a lot of weight & I was really worried about him I would say some thing. And I think I would want him to do the same for me. But if he were to say (or imply) that he would be happier with me if I was two sizes smaller, I'd smack him & pack my bags. I don't think you should date some one who doesn't think you're beautiful the way you are, you'll always be second guessing things, you'll always be worried that he'll cheat, & you'll never feel good about yourself if you do.
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Thursday 04 November
By Candice
I am a fuller-figured lady, size 9/10, 150 lbs at 5'4". My boyfriend is tall and lanky. Now, don't get me wrong, I want to drop a few lbs., but that's up to me; if my boyfriend ever told me that he'd like me better skinnier, or that he wants me to lose weight, I'd snap his skinny neck and have sex with a new, more accepting boyfriend on his grave.
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Friday 05 November
By Laura
Candice, you just made my day!