Is The New 'Bachelorette' Engaged?
'In Fantasy Land, We Teach Our Kids Abstinence -- And They Listen'
Conventional wisdom -- and Hollywood -- suggests that the morning after a romp with a stranger, we should slink out as discreetly possible, hope nobody on the street catches our eye, and chalk it up to another accidental night. However, Crushable quotes a woman who poses a different perspective on one-night stands. She says, "Is it really THAT weird to not be uncomfortable the next morning? What the hell's wrong with snuggling for a while when you wake up? Does EVERYBODY avoid the person when they run into them later?" It got us wondering: Do you feel awkward and embarrassed the next morning? Or can you just talk to the guy and leave, no walk of shame necessary?
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Tuesday 21 September
By Jen
I've had a few one-night stands. In the morning, I wake up, be pleasant (whether that means snuggling, talking, or just a kiss goodbye if he's not done sleeping), thank him for a good time...and then I do the I Just Got Laid Parade all the way out to my car.
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Tuesday 21 September
By miss Liv
KUDOS to you.. more of us should be this way.....
Friday 24 September
By creative one
Im nothing like u jen. I was wondering dont u ever get scared of that Stranger your with? or a Disease? Im sorry but u should grow up, girls did that stuff in college and its time to mature to motherhoood
Tuesday 21 September
By MissZ
I honestly don't understand how people continue to have one-night stands with so much disease (and uncurable, terminal disease like AIDS) out there. I think television shows make casual sex out to seem more common than it is, at least I hope so. Sure there's no guarantee that just because you've known someone for a few weeks, months, years that they are not going have something, but you're not helping your odds any to sleep with someone you just met.
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Tuesday 21 September
By bambi
as a women who has a few one night stands under her belt, i see more problems in being ashamed of your actions than enjoying the event and the following morning. i have always felt comfortable in mornings after a nice romp with a new gentleman because i made the decision to get naked knowing what i was getting into, thought of the consequences and felt comfortable in my own skin to put myself in that situation. its important to know who you are and what you want out of the exchange. i feel like shame from one night stands stems from societal beliefs that a woman isn't supposed to "get some" in that manner. my thoughts? get it girl.
as for missz's comments about sexually transmitted diseases - thats just another topic for societal shame. strong, intelligent women understand that in sleeping with another person it is important to always use protection, ask questions and get tested regularly.
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Thursday 23 September
By Nay
I agree totally! If you are going to play a big girl game, put on your big girl pants and act like an adult. If you are grown and you make a decision and you are wiliing to not only enjoy it, but claim it with no shame.... do you boo!
I don't see the shame, two adults making eachother feel good (hopefully, lol).
The shame comes from the girls who drink too much or take drugs and then end up in a situation that makes them feel ashamed of themselves.
Friday 24 September
By The"other"bambi
Im just concerned because im also known as Bambi
but we are nothing alike
I dont do strangers sex or shadow sex, u do.
so could u get a diff sname.
Tuesday 21 September
By bambi
as a woman who has a few one night stands under her belt, i see more
problems with being ashamed of your actions than enjoying the event and
the following morning. i have always felt comfortable in mornings
after a nice romp with a new gentleman because i made the decision to
get naked knowing what i was getting into, thought of the consequences
and felt comfortable in my own skin to put myself in that situation.
its important to know who you are and what you want out of the
exchange. i feel like shame from one night stands stems from societal
beliefs that a woman isn't supposed to "get some" in that manner. my
thoughts? get it girl.
as for missz's comments about sexually transmitted diseases - thats
just another topic for societal shame. strong, intelligent women
understand that in sleeping with another person it is important to
always use protection, ask questions and get tested regularly.
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Wednesday 22 September
By cece
Usually alchohol or drugs are used before the one nighter occurs, The hangover makes the morning after unpleasant & adds to the feeling of regret.
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Wednesday 22 September
By rosanna roberts
Remember, when you reach the end of life's journey, they say that it's not the things you did that you regret, it's the things you didn't do.
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Wednesday 22 September
By Sarah
I have had a one night stand. It didn't involve sex, but morely cuddling and making out and sleeping together. It was my ex, so I knew him. The next morning, I felt like a piece of sh*t. I was supposed to take him home before I went back to my boyfriend's house, and I completely ditched him there. I wish I wouldn't have done it :/
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Thursday 23 September
By bravo
I can imagine that your disdain for the "one night stand" has more to do with the cheating aspect than the actual shame involved. It wasn't really a one night stand when it was someone that you already been with.
Thursday 23 September
By Heather
One night stands. Nothing to be shameful about. Humans are sexual creatures. It happens. One just needs to remember to be careful, use protection! Now, I'm not advocating that a person use one night stands as their relationship status...lol, but having them is not the terrible thing people make it out to be. I have felt no shame in mine. Both partners are getting something they want out of it, and if you feel shameful the morning after, well, you did something else wrong then! Like, one of the two of you were actually in a relationship, or something like that. It's early, I can't seem to explain myself very well. LOL
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Thursday 23 September
By Annie
I've had two one night stands. They were both great. Good looking men, good sex, good times. One was a rriends friend who happened to be at a party I attended. Another was a co worker who I hadn't seen in a few months when I ran into him at a coffee shop. I of course used protection. It was nice to be able to enjoy myself and not have any strings attached. I say go for it, but be smart about what you're doing. Make sure someone knows where you are, use protection, and have a backup plan/escape route in case things get sketchy.
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Thursday 23 September
By Meow!
Most of them I have not regretted...I don't think a woman or a man should sit around pretending to be a virgin while waiting for Mr./Ms. right. As long as someone isn't a big fat liar pretending to be all in love with you in order to get you in to the sack, fine...If you think you may regret a one-night stand, then don't partake.... But remember to be safe about it too. I had alot of fun when I was single and often enough I saw the guy again...I am very in love with my husband of 13 yrs.(together 17) and don't feel like I missed out on anything... Just another thought...are women more likely to have one-night stands if they had strict parents and couldn't get out much as teenagers?
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Friday 24 September
By therealbambi
Im sorry girls but I dont do any "dirty stay outs" or one night stands, sex with a stranger seems just that strange. Im a classy girl who is waiting for something real,
and soulfull. I just dont feel that urge... and i find that risk to be dangerous. You might wind up with anasty disease and a br bad reputation.
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