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We tell our best friends everything ... but guys would rather confess their misdeeds to someone less judgmental. According to a poll of Illicit Encounter users, 43 percent of women who have an affair confide in a friend (and 15 percent confide in multiple friends). Men, on the other hand, prefer to confess their transgressions to randos. Just 6 percent of guys polled said they would tell a pal if they cheated. Oddly enough, twice as many said they'd tell a stranger.
According to a relationship expert, men have different kinds of friendship and are wary about sharing anything with their brosephs that could leave them vulnerable. Women, on the other hand, would not talk to strangers because they feel they have no way of trusting them. You know, because they're strangers.
Overall, only 28 percent of women don't let somebody know when they've had an affair, as opposed to 77 percent of men.
Would you keep a secret like that to yourself, or would you at least want to tell your favorite bartender? (You know, if he wasn't the culprit.)
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Friday 17 September
By Lisa
Of course not, it would make them look like a male prostitute. Men are very good at hidding things.
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Saturday 18 September
By Alicia
Not to mention, if his friends like and/or are friends with his wronged SO, they might bail. That's what happened to my ex. Granted, all his friends place huge importance on loyalty and got to watch me be destroyed, so he came out looking like a royal ass, as far as they were concerned.
Saturday 18 September
By Boz
"hidding" things?
Friday 17 September
By Lisi
Randos???
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Friday 17 September
By Bill
So what do women do after an affair? Women like my ex who slept with her boss and decided she wanted a divorce 1 week before our 14th anniversary?
She abandonded our only child and he abandonded his 3 kids. I know they must be proud to be seen with each other!
Friday 17 September
By Dick
What's a broseph ??
Saturday 18 September
By veronica
Broseph: synonym for "bro" or 'brother'. Had to look it up myself. Why do writers have to choose such obscure words? I can't imagine telling anyone about an affair, unless it was a guilty conscience and you just couldn't keep it to yourself anymore (thats what psychiatrists are good for). I would be even more scared that the partner blabbed it to the world.
Friday 17 September
By Hurtful
Affairs are not funny, and I am tired of them being taken lightly. They destroy families, a persons sense of self worth, they are the cruelest thing anyone can do to their spouse and family. Pure selfishness.
Finally people are recognizing that the cheater is the one with the issue instead of adding more pain and guilt to the spouse that was betrayed. There is something lacking or broken in a cheater, and also the affair partner that thinks this is ok to do to families and children.
Cheating turns my stomach
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Saturday 18 September
By Alicia
Cheating makes everyone sick. It's a horrible, awful thing to do to anyone, especially when there are children involved. I'm sorry you felt that cheating is being taken lightly, but I sincerely doubt anyone in the Lemondrop community feels that cheating is less than serious. It takes a twisted person to betray someone they claim to love and have made promises to and I'm sorry if you've experienced this pain.
Saturday 18 September
By ajschrod
Extremely well said, Hurtful. Realizing that spouses who don't turn out "like expected" are nevertheless the same person you loved and married, and still deserving of your devotion is absolutely necessary. Religion can help, but is not necessary to maintain a decent, monogamous relationship--all it requires is a lack of selfishness.
Saturday 18 September
By the truth
Hurtful, I believe that when people have affairs its because THEY MARRIED/MADE A COMMITMENT TO THE WRONG PERSON but they won't admit it. Its usually out of fear that they don't admit it. They know they will hurt or disappoint their partner or others if they were to admit it and do something about it (get divorced/out of the commitment) so they don't. But of course this denial of the truth leads to emotional or physical affairs, how could it not. Marriage/a commitment is sacred but if its to the wrong person, (i.e. for the wrong reasons) ITS NOT. People get married/make a commitment to the wrong person for all the wrong reasons--fear of being alone, unplanned pregnancy, 'friendship love' (it lacks passion and a spiritual, emotional, mental connection with their partner), guilt ('we have been dating a long time i guess its time to get married,' etc.) or pressure (everyone i know is married, i guess its time i got married)--there are so many more reasons, too many to list. I believe a affair is symptom of these wrong reasons people get married/make a commitment they shouldn't, to person they shouldn't. Its never as simple as someone being bad or good. I use to think like you once until i experienced something that opened my eyes to this truth...people are not just to be categorized as bad or good. I have never had an affair but I know now the reasons they happen are not as simple as bad or good.
Saturday 18 September
By Sharon
men cheat and women cheat and it is becouse they are lacking something with that someone they are married to.I have found alot of women are b-tches.They feel they have the right to boss there husbands around be little them in front of others and make them feel like they are low as low.I know alot of men that do the same thing and why?Does it give you both a rush or what.We all cheat for a reason men try and try to make there wives or girlfriends happy and sometimes no matter what they do it isnt enough and the same go for women with there men.I think before you get married you should be able to see if things are right and say hey maybe we better wait a little while longer but no we have to start planning that big day and that day comes and a couple yrs down the road or sooner you are questioning yourseleves hey maybe we should have waitede.The only person that gets hurt is the one being cheated on and the other spouce if they are married.Wake up people we should get married today.
Thursday 23 September
By zx2x9
Wrong there is nothing necessarily wrong. Just a good shag. Life and people change so not need to waste time on an dog.
Friday 24 September
By Beverly
Amen! could'nt have said it better myself.
Sunday 31 October
By Sexisjustfun
It is not realistic to expect two people who love each other not to EVER stray. Especially if one partner is denying sex as a punishment. That is the WORST THING YOU CAN DO TO YOUR PARTNER. When you said "I do" I don't think it meant faithful as in "my dick or my pussy will never touch anyone else's even if you refuse me sex."
People cheat- or better said "stray" for a multitude of reasons. Usually because they are not getting the love and attention at home. Simple as that. You women who treat your men so shitty. Instead of bitching why don't you learn how to give a proper BJ instead. I bet he'd be grateful and do just about anything you want. Even if you do the right things, infidelity is not the end of the world. Geez! Get over it and move on!
Saturday 18 September
By brachm5
Where's my email about Lindsay Lohan; you said you would send it!!!
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Saturday 18 September
By brachm5
Men cheat because they are married. If they weren't married it wouldn't be cheating. ergo; Marriage is ridiculous. You cannot expect 2 people to never want to have sex with anyone else until they die, just because they are married. If you are not into doing it anymore because you are bored, or just need a change, get a divorce. Be honest......don't be a snake.
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Saturday 18 September
By Brenda
It has to be said....because you obviously dont know...YOUR AN IDIOT!
Saturday 18 September
By A.S.H. Brown II
@ brachm5
that immature, selfish attitude is why we have such a high divorce rate. Marriage does put a damper on the sex life--if the couple allows it. Do you really think people who are in love but just go into a slump in regards to sexual intimacy should just get a divorce?
Do you throw out your your grill lighters when they run out of fluid?
see the correlation in the analogy?
people act like such spoiled children nowadays.
"Waaauugh, this marriage isn't FUN anymoreeeee~! I want another!"
Monday 20 September
By Shane
Well, I for one will be celebrating my 29 wedding anniversary next month....Sex is only one part of the relationship...and like everything else, practice makes perfect. Our relationship is better now in every department.
Cheating is all about ego...we all have the same basic parts...so if its got "boring"...then you only have yourself to blame.