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Last week The New York Times covered what it really means for you to be 20-something in 2010, coining a new life stage called "emerging adulthood."

What, you might wonder, is an "emerging adult"? Well, The Times said, you 20-somethings today look a bit different from the 20-somethings who came before you. You're not hitting the usual life markers (college, job, marriage, mini-mes) in a traditional order. Or on time. Read: when your parents did.

Overall, they concluded, 20-somethings have a certain "failure to launch": You're moving back home, taking your sweet time choosing a career, and marrying years later than Americans ever have.

But is that bad -- or just life as we live it today?

We asked Lemondrop readers for the truth about what the decade between 20 and 30 means to them, and over 1,000 of you told us.

Jessie Rosen, 27, gave us her response in essay form: Dear NY Times, Here's Why I Haven't "Grown Up." Love, a 20-Something. Many of you willingly spilled your guts. For a no-holds-barred look into the secret fears of 20-somethings, click here.

Below we report our findings on 20-something life: how many of you live at home, how many of you are married, and how many have live-in lovahs. Read on!

Love and Marriage: Is Living Together the New "I Do"?
What The Times got right: You're getting married older. The average age of marriage, they report, is now 28 for men, 26 for women. In our findings, only 13 percent of 20-somethings were married. And here's how the rest of you are faring: The NYT didn't really address the romantic concerns of singletons.

-- 28% are having a hard time meeting Mr. Good Enough, let alone Mr. Right: You described yourselves as "perpetually single."
-- 19% are currently dating.
-- 38% are currently in a relationship; of those, 28% currently live with their significant others.
-- 13% are married.
-- A scant 2% are divorced.



Friends and Lovers: Where (and With Whom) You're Living
Two-thirds of 20-somethings spend at least some time cohabiting, said The Times. What we found: Living in sin is rampant. As is moving home. In fact, an equal number of you live with your parents as with a live-in lover.

-- 28% of 20-somethings are currently living with their parents.
-- 28% are living with a significant other.
-- 26% said they live with a roommate or roommates.
-- 18% currently live alone.


I Haul, U-Haul: How Often You Move
 According to The Times, one-third of people in their 20s move to a new address every year. What we found: Indeed, you're rarely living without cardboard.
-- The average 20-something has changed addresses five times this decade.
-- Fewer than one in five of you (16 percent) have only moved once; only about a quarter (26 percent) have moved once or twice.
-- More than three-quarters (78 percent) have moved at least six times.


To MBA or Not to MBA: When to Be Done With School?
 The Times didn't report on your education levels, but we found you a highly educated, highly motivated bunch, with over 1 in 4 considering grad school.

-- 4% of 20-somethings' highest education is a high school degree.
-- 34% are currently in college or have completed a two-year degree.
-- 41% are college graduates; of those, a quarter are considering going on to get a grad degree.
-- 21% had completed grad school.


And when it comes to your dream job, you're not inclined to settle and just stay put: The average 20-something has already had six jobs this decade; more than half (57 percent) have already had five or fewer.