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Two conflicting studies on relationships have been released, and the only thing they've proven is that asking science for advice is a lot like asking a room full of your drunk girlfriends for dating tips -- opinions vary, plus all that white wine is giving you a headache. According to a study from the University of Iowa, casual hook-ups can often lead to serious relationships. At the same time, a study conducted by the Social Science Research Journal says the reason you suck at online dating is because you keep hooking up with the people you meet. The one thing that both studies (sort of) seem to agree on is that casual dating is a quick route to Lonesome Town.
The good news is, no matter what your approach, you have scientific data to prove that yet another failed relationship is not the fault of your lousy personality.
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Wednesday 25 August
By But
A strongly believe that a relationship should reach a certain level of maturity before sex is introduced. I'm not saying the sex would not be nice on the first date, but it is insane to go that route. The relationship will most probably end right there and then as at least one of the two would be satisfied and feel that they have accomplished their goal - time to move on now...
There is so much more to a relationship than sex. Just imagine what the sex would be like if you are just dying to have this woman, but you decide to wait for a while (preferably until married -although not always possible). For heavens sake you don’t even know where this person has been before, STD’s not too mention AIDS. Okay, you’ll probably say “I can like too use condom” – but how do you think some people get pregnant even with using condoms. There is ALWAYS a chance my man. Religion does have a lot to do with it as well.
It all comes down to one thought: Are you really prepared to live with the consequences of your actions? I myself just could not get past that question.
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Wednesday 25 August
By rosana
Education (things like knowing how to spell or properly arrange a sentence, you know, as an example) also has a lot to do with it.
More, usually.
Friday 27 August
By tomas
well, it seems to me, that it's the same study, you're referring to. just to different angles...
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Friday 27 August
By Robbins Mitchell
First date?....well,I'm no pushover....but i can be had.
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Saturday 28 August
By Patrick Carroll
My first wife (ok, sorry) and I went all the way on the first date, and had a marriage that lasted five years.
We are still (20 years later) occasionally in touch. Though, you know, not actually *in touch*, since she's in SF, and I'm in the ATL. Thank God.
YMMV.
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Saturday 28 August
By Katty
Patrick why don't you try online dating?
Go to etalk311 dot com. That's where I like to go. :-)
Saturday 28 August
By Katty
Why not spend some time to get to know each other from a safer distance? Did you see the conviction in Germany for knowingly infecting someone?
I will have some fun with the guys online first.
We can have a very good time and get to know each other before we even meet. One of my favorite places to meet hot guys is at etalk311
Just google and you will find many hot men and sexy women too if you want for fun and pleasure and maybe even more! Online dating is great so far!
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Wednesday 01 September
By Vaguely Crazy
Normally, I would not advise it. However, I had sex with my husband on our first date. Felt like a whore later, but it didn't hurt our relationship as far as I can tell. I'm now 30 weeks pregnant with our daughter, so he doesn't get it much anymore... and he's STILL happy with me!
Sex on the first date does not ruin a potential relationship, in the right circumstances. Other times it is a terrible idea. No wonder science can't get it right- there is no real answer to the question!
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Thursday 23 September
By Heather
If the relationship ends, no matter what you did or didn't do on the first date is irrelevant. The relationship simply wasn't meant to be.
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Friday 24 September
By jj
Go into it open minded. See if there are sparts...follow your heart.
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