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According to new wiener stats, more and more American parents are choosing not to circumcise their sons. While the Center for Disease Control says the numbers aren't definitive, The New York Times calls it a "steep decline," one that's possibly due to anti-circumcision Internet activism and increased public outcry against female circumcision. And here we thought it was just hippie moms and all the dudes we've dated who are like, "Well, I'm Jewish, but I'm not JEWISH-Jewish."
But lets get down to brass tacks! Brass penis tacks that is! What does this mean for us, the American lady?
Based on the following conversation, we realized some of you may not really have much experience with uncut men. The anonymized exchange below is anecdotal evidence that women in the United States have become pretty accustomed to the bespoke penis. (Although, really, only one of us should have to be anonymous, because only one of us should have to be ashamed about her primeval lack of knowledge of the the human foreskin.)
Anonymous Editor 1: I wish we could we get somebody to write a first-person essay about the difference between being with an uncircumcised guy and one who is.
Anonymous Editor 2: Wait, what difference?
Anonymous Editor 1: Um ... don't know?
Anonymous Editor 2: You've NEVER been with an uncircumcised guy?
Anonymous Editor 1: No. I have a thing for Jewish guys. Have you?
Anonymous Editor 2: Dude, I went to school in Vermont. There's no "difference"!
Anonymous Editor 1: You don't have to ... "unroll" anything to it?
Anonymous Editor 2: No! Jesus, it's a penis, not a manual transmission!
So tell us, intrepid readers! Do you have a preference? Do you think Anonymous Editor 2 is wrong and that there's actually a "difference"? Let us know, because when it comes to wang, we are ALL anthropologists.
Don't worry -- we'll keep you anonymous.
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Friday 20 August
By Bethanyui
I've never seen an uncircumcised penis before until I changed my friend's son's diaper last month. My fear is that I'll be with a guy who isn't cut and my shock will hurt his feelings...
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Saturday 21 August
By Chaud_Froid
I find what you said remarkable because I am the exact opposite. I'm wary of circumcised men, because I don't want to hurt them. I think their penises are maimed, and inferior, and certainly not normal. Which brings me to my point - it is not normal to be so revolted and disgusted by something that is natural. What I am suggesting is that any woman who gets so offended by the sight of a foreskin, even on a little baby, has been severely culturally brainwashed. She's undergone so complete a conditioning that, in the end, she is just plain horrified by the foreskin. She'd like to see it cut off of every man in the world. After all, it was a dreadful mistake of nature that needs to be corrected, surgically - right away after the child is born. And God help her if she has to have contact with uncircumcised men in her life. They will make her so feel so uncomfortable, even fully clothed.
These kind of women are totally unfamiliar with the foreskin, so naturally they're are petrified of it. They have no idea what sort of pleasure - no, orgasmic transcendence is a better way to put it - it brings the guy who owns one, or his partners. They don't know what it's supposed to look like, how it works, or what it does. Their attitude and ignorance is so bad it reminds me of something white people thought during the Jim Crow era about black people - that they had tails. I would bet that that's what these women think about uncircumcised men. That men who have foreskin also have tails. They are really and truly frightened.
Now, if you defend yourself by saying that you are not prejudiced, but simply have a preference for the cut penis, then I ask you: what preference does a male infant who is about to be circumcised have? Huh? Do you actually think that any person other than that baby, that individual, can answer for him, can speak with authority about what he wants for his penis? So now maybe you can begin to see that your prejudice (yes, yours) perpetuates this abuse, this bodily assault, of male infant circumcision.
Sunday 22 August
By Bethanyui
@Chaud_Froid
I NEVER said I was scared or turned off by an uncut penis. All I said was that all the men I've been with have been circumcised. When it comes down to it I honestly don't think it would bother me and I've even decided that if I have a son one day, I'd have him kept in tact.
I don't have a penis preference. How can I if I've never been with a natural man? I think your response was rude and hateful.
Sunday 22 August
By kate
The penis is perfect exactly as it is. Leave it alone.
Friday 20 August
By emilymccombs
I only saw one uncircumcised one in my extensive wang-touching career, and I unfortunately associate it with uncleanliness. It was probably just that one guy who didn't know how to wash right, but you only have to get food poisoning once to hate seafood forever, you know?
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Friday 20 August
By Liberty
Brava, Brava! Well said, darling.
In my mind, I now associate uncut weenies with food-poisoning. :)
Friday 20 August
By LittleMissOpinionated
I've been with both cut and uncut men. Mostly cut, but I must say, those that were always great in bed. Now that's not to say that I prefer uncut men... this may seem a contradiction, but at the end of the day, I am more into aesthetics, and like it all out where I can see it!
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Friday 20 August
By sanrita
aside from visually, there's no difference! at least, i don't think you're supposed to do anything. DUR!
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Friday 20 August
By KittyKat
cant imagine that anyone would wanna wang with something so grubby as an uncut weeny.....
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Friday 20 August
By MinnesotaMommy
I've been with both & as far as sexual sensation goes for us women, there is NO difference. I didn't find the natural men "dirty" either. Natural men (or 'uncut' to most Americans) are definitely more sensitive down there and I mean in a GOOD way. When it comes to intimacy, I'd much rather be with Mr. Au Natural. :)
It's a shame that the natural American men are frowned upon still. All of the men I know who are natural and American born, didn't have a choice in the matter and were born with health issues where circumcision wasn't an option. (Heart defects, premature, etc.). Given the choice as an adult, NONE of the men I know would undergo circumcision. OUCH! Had I given birth to any boys, they would be natural as well. Circumcision may look "pretty" but when you think about it, it's plastic surgery for a penis. o_O And when it comes to baby boys, they don't even have a choice...
Wednesday 25 August
By MariJane
My boyfriend is "uncut" and there is nothing dirty, nasty, or gruby about his penis. Just as for women, daily personal hygiene up keep is all it takes--uncut or not.
Friday 20 August
By JackieNO
Wow, I think you don't know what you are opining about and are operating on myth. When my natural penis is erect, it looks about like what a cut guy's does. SOME Women I had sex with did not even notice I am natural (it was always erect and we used a condom).
Anyway, shame on you for wanting men to lose pleasure parts for your cultural bias. About 20000 fine touch and stretch nerve endings are what is involved and they are unique. Once cut off that whole source of sensation is GONE. They make sex better for the guy and they do not result in premature ejaculation -- instead they give feedback and help with timing. Also, with no condom, there is a dynamic action several partners said is wonderful and more intimate -- connected.
I think an opinion that natural is somehow bad is not based on good information. Those that whant men to have natural pleasure parts CUT OFF, well how about if men wanted that from you?
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Friday 20 August
By momof4
When a natural penis is erect, the foreskin slides back, so you can't even tell a difference. The uncut guys that I've been with were much slower and less "jack-rabbity" in bed. Because of that, I've left my sons intact.
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Friday 20 August
By Carla
First, the proper terminology is "intact," "natural," or "normal" - NOT "uncircumcised."
Second, having sex with a circumcised guy is like being poked with a broomstick. It's painful!
Chopping off a fundamental part of the sexual organ has MANY negative effects on the man's sexuality. The foreskin has a PURPOSE: without it, the guy needs rougher sex that hurts the woman. He needs longer strokes that pull out lubrication, resulting in painful friction and irritation. He needs harder pounding, resulting in "bladder beating" and internal pain for the woman. A mutilated man has an on/off switch instead of an accelerator. Much less fun!!!
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Friday 27 August
By Lovereaction
You took the words right out of my mouth.
Friday 20 August
By Uncut
"I only saw one uncircumcised one in my extensive wang-touching career, and I unfortunately associate it with uncleanliness. It was probably just that one guy who didn't know how to wash right..."
Keeping a foreskin clean is a lot easier than keeping female genitalia clean: pull back, wash, and rinse. It's much more likely for an uncircumcised man to run into a woman with "cleanliness" issues, than it is for a woman to find a foul foreskin. Nature intended the male glans to be moist and lubricated before sex; just the same as the vagina, if you think that makes uncut men "unclean", then you must think you are unclean also.
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Friday 20 August
By Daniel
I've been with guys who have both, there's not difference. I was with a women who had all of her labia removed because her family had it done. There's really no difference. I am uncircumcised, uncut, it is natural, the way God made it. Jewish people and people who circumcise take the Old Testament much to seriously. Most of the world is uncut. Yes, it is true, that uncut penises can be "disgusting" because they are not properly cleaned, but that only makes up 5% of those who are. I wash very well both my boyfriend and my girlfriend love it, and he's cut.
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Friday 27 August
By North
Circumcision was a way for folks who didn't have a lot of fresh water for washing to keep their penises from getting disgusting.
Infection or inflammation of the foreskin affects about 10% - 14% of uncircumcised boys, while inflammation of the "glans" or "balanitis" is twice as common in uncircumcised children as circumcised and greater than times as much in adults.
Urinary tract infections occur in about 1 in 100 uncircumcised boys in the first year of life, and 1 in 1,000 in circumcised boys. There is also an increased risk of inflammation and infections of the foreskin and glans in uncircumcised males.
Some of this can be passed along to female partners.
Do males have to wash more if they're natural? Of course they should, but they aren't going to be any dirtier than a circumcised male, just more at risk of getting sick.
Friday 20 August
By Mr_A
I find this topic entertaining.
As I am sure there are fine details, that when analyzed mean a little something about how good a man is in bed, but when it comes down to it, I doubt whether being circumcised or not is that big of a deal. Then again, I'm not a woman and the above comments suggest otherwise.
I'm a straight male, natural. I have never had an issue with my package, when it comes to sex or even oral receiving. Most hadn't noticed. The rest didn't care. Whether or not being natural made a difference in performance is debatable.
In all honesty (and you can take my word for it or not), the only complainer I've had was my first time. Other than that, happy customers, repeat visitors. Now, of course, we can argue women lie about how good it is all we want, but I've never asked for opinion, and as noted, repeat visitors. I'll leave it at that.
The cleanliness thing is something that could be a concern. But, if he's not clean, dude needs to take care of himself. It's relatively no different than a vagina, in the sort of cleanliness sense that we are referring to (not including the differences between men and women organically). I would go so far as to argue that if the dude is not clean, natural or circumcised, you're gonna know it. It's going to smell, taste and feel... funky. Just the same as a broad who... doesn't take care of herself.
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Friday 20 August
By Attismum
The vast majority of men in the world have normal, natural, intact penises. They work perfectly, they are clean, they don't suffer any problems. Sex was intended to involve a foreskin, it has several purposes and simply works better. How it looks is irrelevant, you can't seriously suggest that holding down a baby and ripping and cutting off parts of his penis is acceptable because it's pretty. It's a travesty, a human being should be entitled to keep all of their functioning body parts.
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