Hungry for sex advice you can trust? Each week the resident sex experts at Good in Bed will answer your most burning question. Go on, ask 'em anything. Your Sex Question: What's the deal with the new morning after pill, Ella?
What Anna From Good in Bed Had to Say:
Emergency contraception -- what a lovely thing! First, let's clear something up: The "morning-after pill" is really a misnomer. Emergency contraception (E.C.) -- like the new Ella pill just approved by the FDA -- works within five days of unprotected sex; Plan B, which currently exists, works within 72 hours.
What are the differences? Ella is available by prescription only, and it blocks the hormone necessary for pregnancy to occur. Its effectiveness is the same on any of the five days you might choose to use it.
Plan B is available to folks over the age of 17, "behind the counter," without a prescription. It's one pill, and it's basically a high dose of the hormones that are in birth control pills, so that it prevents an egg from being released. You use it when plan A fails, like when a condom breaks, you forget to take your regular birth control, non-consensual sex happens -- that sort of thing. And the sooner you take it, the more effective it is.
E.C. isn't something you'll want to take often. It disrupts your cycle, there can be side effects, it's expensive (around $40), and, well, wouldn't you rather have a more regular and surefire way to make sure you're not going to get pregnant?
So, let's say you've had unprotected sex. You're going to want to get to the pharmacy and get E.C. as soon as possible. It's effective within 72 hours, but the sooner you take it, the more likely it is that it'll work. If you're already pregnant, or a zygote (sperm + egg) has already been formed, it's not going to cause a miscarriage. This is not the same thing as the abortion pill, the one that causes a miscarriage.
It also doesn't do anything to protect you from sexually transmitted infections, so you're going to want to get to your doc to get tested once enough time has passed. Two tips: First, if you're having sex with men, it's a good idea to have a packet of E.C. around just in case, so that you won't have to stress out and run around looking for it if your usual contraception ever does fail; second, go ahead and talk to your doc about the best birth control for you. It's always more favorable for plan A not to fail than to have to resort to Plan B.
Anna is completing her master's in public health with a focus on sexuality and health at Columbia University. She has an extensive background in safer sex, HIV and STI prevention, and reproductive rights. She has worked with youth and women of all ages, with a focus on empowering others to take responsibility for and control of their emotional and sexual health. She received her undergraduate degree from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, where she created and implemented the now-annual Orgasm Awareness Day. Anna can be reached at Good in Bed.












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Sunday 19 September
By Tex69
I havent had sex with my wife in 15 years. wanted to find a girlfriend but was
to ashamed and thinking I was to old at 69. masterbation is much easier but now erection is the problem. maybe vigara could help and then there is
all the other things involved with other women and all the sex contact out there and heart ace. ? am i crazy.
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Monday 18 October
By Rick
I had sex with your wife and she is fine.
Sunday 19 September
By jo
Why haven't you had sex with your wife?
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Sunday 26 September
By That Guy
I bet she's got a big dreadlock in the hair down there that makes penetration impossible.
Sunday 26 September
By jo bob
Well one thing for sure That guy", your wife sure does and stinkkkk
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Sunday 26 September
By Kay
Hey Tex69, you may well be crazy to have gone without sex for 15 years (excluding maturbation), nonetheless, it is done. It probably seems imprudent to divorce at this point but you also do not need to be in the position of feeling bad about yourself. I think you should tell your wife you intend to be open to a lover given the lack of physical relations between you two. You should however, give her the opportunity to be that lover. I would give a time table of one month; after which if you meet someone, so be it.
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Saturday 02 October
By River Running Dry
Tex69
I feel for you. When I had lost weight at one time I wanted to try and have sex with my husband. He said no! I want to watch you get off. What the ....I let his gutt get so big I can't even get on top. I feel for you. I miss the closeness. I will keep you in prayer please pray for me.
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Saturday 02 October
By well
ya no wat i like cherrys big cherrys
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Friday 08 October
By MaryAnne
Married to someone who will not have sex with you for 15 years...boy, does that sound familiar. I am "seeing" a man in the same situation, have been since 9 months after he was married. I'm single, so don't accuse me of adultery, that's his badge to wear. AND, I do believe his wife knows he screws around on her, if she doesn't, she is totally brain dead. I do not understand why anyone would stay in a sexless marriage if they enjoy sex...unless it's because they have no spine or are afraid to lose "things" in a divorce? I gave up my half of 8 million dollars in my first marriage for my freedom and have never regretted it one minute. This man says he loves me, but I don't buy that. He loves what we have in bed. For me, it's just good sex...her loss is my gain!
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Thursday 14 October
By DOGY
fornication is still sin sister. that tough is between you and the lord,my hope is that you would go to JESUS ofr wisdom on your life.
Monday 25 October
By gina
Dear Maryanne,if you know you are having sex with a married you are an adultress!Just because you're not the one wearing a wedding ring doesn't make you innocent ,maybe you should look up the definition of adultry.As for his wife,how dare you presume to know what she does or doesn't know .If you really believe all this bullshit you're pouring out ,you my dear are the one who's brain dead.Walking away from money to get your freedom would be commendable if you hadn't tarnished it by becoming a heartless,sex-crazed bitch.Someday you're going to be the one being cheated on,then you'll see just how wrong you are right now.I feel sorry for you.
Monday 18 October
By Rick
I had sex with your wife and she was fine with it
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Thursday 28 October
By Sickuout
Cum see if I will be fine with it
Tuesday 19 October
By Abigail
I've been married 6 years and with 2 kids, our sex life has gone way down. I am now in a no-strings attached relationship with a married marine with 4 kids. We are in a marriage that seems empty, emotionally but cannot leave because of our kids. As he says, he goes home into an empty hole, a shallow existence... being together, a few hours, gives us a little bit of excitement, something to look forward to in between sadness.
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Monday 25 October
By gina
Dear Abigail,as unhappy as you say you are with your husband ,I wonder how you'd feel if you found out he was cheating on you too.F.Y.I.-there is no such thing as a no-strings relationship.One of you is going to get hurt,and if don't you're spouses will.I left my husband because he cheated and I have 3 kids.It wasn't easy,but if you think you're staying in a loveless marriage for your kids ,you're wrong,I was too.It' better for children to come from a broken home than to live in one.What knid of example are you setting for them.Cheaters ALWAYS get caught,and it ALWAYS gets ugly.I don't know how old you're kids are now,but eventually they will find out what you've done.How are you going to face them?They won't care that you're husband wasn't satisfying you in bed,they're only going to see how much their mom hurt their dad.Are you willing to lose the respect and possibly the love of your kids for a few hours of excitement,is he?