Think you've had an online dating nightmare because you ended up across from a short Costanza when his profile promised over six feet of Clooney? Consider yourself lucky: One British divorcee ended up losing over $90,000 to a guy she met on Match.com.Brenda Parke, a flight attendant from Sussex, England, joined Match.com last December and started chatting to a "successful Dutch businessman" by the name of Bradford Broad Cole (Is it just us, or is that name an immediate red flag? And it's definitely not Dutch.) over emails and phone calls.
While Cole didn't ask Parke for money directly, he did recount some sob story about his young daughter being injured in a hit and run and needing surgery and told how he was widowed, estranged from family and friends and already maxed out on bank loans. Having successfully guilt-tripped Parke into paying for the "operation," Cole then worked his magic to get her to fork over even more cash for his "business expenses." When he never showed at Birmingham Airport, where they were meant to meet up so he could repay the loans, Parke realized she'd been duped.
And we thought the fact that we always pick up the beer tab was bad.
So, is Parke the dumbest person ever or a victim of "romance fraud"? Speaking to the Daily Mail, she admitted, "I am fully aware how utterly stupid I have been and appreciate there is little, if any, chance to get my money back. However, I have always considered myself to be a bright and intelligent woman. If I could be manipulated and reduced to 'a puppet on a string' because of this man's subtlety and supposed sincerity, then there are millions of vulnerable people out there just waiting to be abused by a very professional and consummate actor. It is so cunning and amazingly well done that I am reeling with shock at my own vulnerability. I urge dating sites to take far more responsibility for who they allow to advertise on their websites."
Parke is now spreading the word about "romance fraud" online, and according the Mail, police believe that Brits are losing tens of millions of pounds as a result of scams by con men targeting the emotionally vulnerable online. So, if you're a fraudster in need of a quick financial fix, you know where to go. We wonder what those smug eHarmony users will say about this.












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Tuesday 13 July
By sancansing
I don't know...he would have had me raising my eyebrow at "Broad Cole"....seriously?
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Wednesday 14 July
By www.419legal.orgblog
Thanks f or this information and post . But i really wonder that
romance fraud is booming up in online crime world , thus
which conning the innocent people . There people must be aware of such
cyber crime and avoid falling to it.
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Wednesday 14 July
By hey its that guy
a suspicious mind is a healthy mind, indeed.
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Thursday 15 July
By nodevout
oh please. this lady has no one else to blame but herself, not the dating website. everyone knows these sites are crawling with creeps and scammers if not full of them. grow a brain!
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Friday 16 July
By Gia
I've loaned money to "friends" who never showed their face again. Clearly this woman made a mistake as we all do...expensive lesson. But I agree we have to be responsible for our own actions.
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Friday 16 July
By deidre
I agree. Yes she was stupid. I dont care if you are hanging off a building and Im the only one who can save you...if I have never met you even for coffee..not one dime will leave my hands for anyone I chat with online.
"I love you, you are truly the woman of my dreams, I have been waiting all my life for someone like you to come along. Being alone for so long I have been afraid to let my heart go to someone. But you are my light at the end of the tunnel. My daughter and I will be able to start anew...."
SEE HOW EASY THAT IS TO TYPE?...LADIES QUIT BEING SO DARN DESPERATE ONLINE!!!
Friday 16 July
By Pat
They have socialized medicine uthere so why would one pay for an operation???
Friday 16 July
By Ralph DeMattia
Where in the world did a flight attendant get $90,000.00 to fet fleeced out of in the first place?
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Friday 16 July
By kaden
I joined a date service on line,I refused to put up picture said i am not over weight,not ugly ,just want someone to like me for me,after 8 weeks and hundreds of emails,I expected questions like, what do i like to do,all i got was you have a manufacturing co,how much do u make,do u have any family, or ex husband, out of maybe 1000 people ,only one person wanted to meet me in a public place for lunch,so I WOULD FEEL COMFORTABLE AND SAFE, conclusion we have a lot of bad people out thier be carefull, both men and women.my girlfriend did same thing only she worked at Wallmart,I had my own company so it is all about money.
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Friday 16 July
By RON
Bright and Intelligent? I think not. Nutty as a fruitcake is more like it. Come on.....if someone told you their daughter was injured in an accident and they didn't have the money and/or the insurance to cover the bill would you actually hand them over the money for it or would you write a check to the doctor or hospital? Pay the bills certainly.....if you have the money and are so inclined but man look at the bills before considering paying them.....and if she had so much money to give him...why on earth would she not have traveled to the Netherlands to be with her "lover" and his daughter while she was going through this supposed operation. Bright and Intelligent my ass!!!!!!!!!!!
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Friday 16 July
By joan
I agree with Ron,Anyone can charm anybody with "words" ,As soon As he mention he was estranged from Family and friends(Redflag) plus "maxed out his bank loans"(Redflag). she should of done a back ground check on his Butt. Ive met few people online some were weird and most was decent but i used common sense never trust anyone keep your guard up at all times tell a friend where your meeting and have them near by if your not sure .well if she gets her $90,000 back shes lucky but i doudt that happen he wouldnt gotten 10 bucks from me . hope this was a wake up call for her .
Saturday 17 July
By Brenda
You are so right about everything that you said. There was so many redflags that she should have kicked him to the curb. I have done the online dating thing and I can tell everyone this..........Yes there are alot of con's out there. Use caution. I did, I met one that tried to live with me on our first date.........He brought his clothes and everything. I said what the hell is that? Don't think so buddy. I called his family and they told me to RUN everything that he told me was a lie. He owned nothing not even a cell phone or car. He was riding around in his dad's car saying it was his. He is 47 years old????? He lived in RI and now my friend said he is on a dating site in Florida. Good place for him but I feel so bad for the one that feeds into his lies.
Friday 16 July
By qudam
With today's technology - there should be some kind of internet security that can re-trace e-mails to catch these thieves - even though we should be careful about giving our hard earned money to people we do not really know - we should also be able to track them down after the fact and put them in jail. Some of us just are trying to do the right thing and others are doing the wrong things - and should be put in jail. Why should this crime be any different than robbing the local bank - put these people in jail and maybe some of it will stop.
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Friday 16 July
By Morgan
Maybe asking more pertinent information that allows a potential background check would be appropriate. If you can't find inf. about the person, you need to be wary of everything. Who would just transfer $$$$ to someone...anyone...how desperate was this person to find love...jeez! Now everyone knows her name and where she lives...embarrassing...but brave to warn others that could fall into the trap!!!!!
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Friday 16 July
By crksr
When I feel like I need a little romance, I get off my butt and go out looking for it.
Sure, even in person you can never be certain that the person you meet is an honest one. That is why you do not go giving money out at the first request you receive. Unless, of course, what you want is some quick sex in exchange for some cash. (Make sure you do not overpay.)
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Friday 16 July
By Zilly
Looking for love in all the wrong places? The F.B.I. has said that on-line dating is a easy way to meet people, but also a dangerous one. The Better Business Bureau has received thousands of complaints against on-line dating scrams and expect thousands more as time goes on. The first priority of an on-line dating site is to get your money - get real - after that you're on your own. Listen to your instincts, for the most part, there're always right - the heart has no clue. It's a known fact - there are more women looking for men on dating sites. Some sites are even willing to cut subscription costs when they fear that a man may not be renewing his membership. If a relationship eventually becomes serious leading toward a future life time together - pay the money and hire an investigater - you'll never regret it. I've been on a few various sites and found photos to be old and info to be misleading - it just wasn't worth it anymore. Then out of the blue I was fortunate to meet someone nearby, through friends, who turned out to be the Love of My Life! TIP: Ladies proceed with caution when pursuing a "fisherman" living in the deep southwest Texas coast. His profile states he will move from his resort living condo for a "special" lady --------hmmm. Good luck and happy hunting.
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Sunday 18 July
By coffeebreak
I had a friend who got mix up in that Nigerian Scam...oh they promised her love, said all the right things she wanted to hear, sent her pictures(they were in Nigeria sitting at a desk)...they asked her for money, she couldn't send them something she didn't have...but they stole someone's identity and sent her bogus money orders (at the time she didn't know they were bogus) they told her to cash the money orders send most of the money to them and keep the rest for her troubles...she did this about a dozen times...also she was sent an email telling her that a check for 30,000.00 dollars would be sent to her...that she should cash it and send about 25,000.00 to an address in Nigeria and she could keep the rest...so she went to the bank, the bank kept it for 10days and said it cleared and she could get the money anytime she wanted...so she did...but she never sent them any money(they threatened her life)...they also stole credit cards and bought merchandize and had it sent to her home and then she would send it from her home to an Nigerian address...well the local police caught up with her...she wasn't charged with a crime...but she still got into alot of trouble, also the FBI was involved because the Bank came back and said the check for 30,000.00 was drawn on a closed bank account...so she had to go to the local office and talk to an agent (I know because I drove her there) she took them all the info she had on them...and told them about the last two money orders she got each for 1000.00...she sent 1400.00 and kept the rest...the agent asked her if she was a moron...those checks were legit, that she should have kept the money...after all that she eventually was cleared and didn't have to pay back the money to the bank because the bank is the one who made the error...
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Friday 16 July
By nancylynna
What a fool. I'd be ashamed to admit it.
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Friday 16 July
By Lynne
Hi, I have been almost scammed by 3 men claiming to be in Africa drilling oil. I didn't fall for their dubious lies. One said he needed a tool for work, another said he needed a work permit and the last said his son was sick.All of these reasons came after they told me how much they loved me and blah blah blah flowery talk. I checked it out on a search for romance scams and sure enough the work permit and the sick son or daughter were there. So be careful as always and men can be scammed too by these fraudulent hussies.
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Saturday 17 July
By Rhonda
I don't think that ANYONE should judge this poor woman. It's easy to sit back and label her as "stupid" or "desperate", but she was trying to fulfill the most basic of human needs--she wanted to be LOVED.
These guys are PROFESSIONAL con men...they do it all the time--and I'm sure they've conned their share of MEN as well as women.
I was on MySpace until I started getting emails from men who claimed to be widowers with children (usually a 'daughter'--guess they think women are more likely to 'fall' for a man raising a girl on his own). Because I teach English, I have NO TROUBLE recognizing English that's been written by someone for whom it is a second language. I reported these men to MySpace. When it happened again and again, I deleted my MySpace page.
Don't judge, people..."There but for the grace of God..." It can happen to anyone with a good heart.
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