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Were you one of those kids who was tormented by a mean girl back in junior high? Well, consider yourself lucky. That's right. Lucky. See, psychologists from UCLA recently conducted a series of experiments on the effects of mutual dislike among girls using a pool of 2,003 girls in sixth grade -- you know, that wonderful time of life known as the start of puberty. And hazing by women who make the Heathers look like cream puffs.
What they found is that girls who were hostile right back to their frenemies were regarded among peers and teachers as more socially competent -- i.e. they were more admired and considered more popular.
According to Melissa Witkow, a psychologist tied to the study, "When someone dislikes you, it may be adaptive to dislike them back." The idea is that this type of non-shrinking-violet response actually preps young people to recognize and weed out bad seeds as adults.
Of course, it's never too late to start dishing it back. After all, we all have one of those co-workers.
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Saturday 29 May
By DGB
Nothing wrong with sticking up for oneself, is there?
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Monday 31 May
By danny
i don't know what you are talking about.there were never any girls that were mean to me.i didn't concider myself a hunk,but i was a jock,and played football on the state champ team.i mostly hung with the other jocks and cheerleader types,but knew most of the over 800 classmates in my grad years.it must be a generational thing.
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Tuesday 01 June
By terri
well no wonder
Monday 31 May
By Jenna
For the guys posting how the girls didn't pick on you, this article is about how girls picked on other girls. Not how girls picked on guys. Just to point that out.
I did get picked on... actually, I bullied. And these days, that stuff isn't tolerated because it can become so much more. The girl that tormented me took a chair and used the metal legs to beat me in the legs on the way to our first band concert. Yeah, not joking around. Then she flat out knocked my feet from under me after school in the lunch area. I finally went to the office and let them know what was going on. They ended up hauling us both into a counselor's office and after asking us to both write down what had happened, they gave us both detention! Girl didn't have a mark on her from me, I red marks all over my legs, and I get in trouble with her. After that, I never again said anything to a teacher.
I'll admit that I wish I had turned around and beat the crap out of her, but I was told that if you were caught hitting another student, they arrested you. A big change from where I was going to school before that. Bottom line, a girl getting picked on in school is a life lesson and most girls get picked on by someone eventually. Just as long as it doesn't turn into bullying.
Tuesday 01 June
By Brian
Your a dunce!!!!
Tuesday 01 June
By Andiy
WOW. i don't belive this article its fake. ur the lucky one! :)
Tuesday 01 June
By kevin
What is this article about anyway? Firstly, I am not sure the author really knows what he or she is talking about. Second, its like all these ideas that are just thrown out there with nothing tying it all together.
Monday 31 May
By Sara
This article is crap. The term "Frenemies" implies that you are friends one day and enemies the next (you know, that friend that drives you nuts but you love her regardless). If you are being "tormented" on a daily basis by a girl at school that is not a frenemy....that is just an enemy and it doesn't make you more popular to be constantly picked on by that person. The one good thing that comes from it is you develop a thick skin....that's it.
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Monday 31 May
By sara
you beat me to the punch. it's just trying to use a "hip" word without any idea what it means. what I love is danny's comment about how he wasn't picked on by girls. b-cuz ur a guy genius! alpha girls don't pick on guys they try to hook up with them
Monday 31 May
By joe
I won---------------bah hah
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Monday 31 May
By kelsey
Um, no, being TORMENTED daily in junior high is not something that makes someone "lucky". Terrible things can happen after kids are tormented, so I can't believe an article would be published saying that is something that should be desired.
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Tuesday 01 June
By Andie
I know! i can't belive it either! i get picked on every day by girls and guys and makes me wish i wasnt so lonly it even makes me cry.
Tuesday 01 February
By Crystal
I do that and they think I'm the biggest b*tch. I don't care though. It is what it is.
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Monday 31 May
By eclectic pandora
I do it and I get called all sorts of things. I don't care though, if I didn't things would be a lot worse than they already are. C'est la vie.
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Tuesday 01 June
By Andie
WAIT A MINUT WAIT A MINUT! U PICK ON PEOPLE!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! what do u find it funny fun cool? u AINT GONNA DO THAT ANY MORE! Cuz if you were the one being bulled like that then NO DUH there gonna pick on you! wow u shoulda thought of that erlier!!!! lolz
Monday 31 May
By DJSH
I was one of the so called girls who was picked on by girls and boys during grade school. It used to hurt my feelings as well as my heart to hear the taunts and name calling. But as I got older it slowly stopped and I changed schools. At one time I thought those kids were just plain mean but now I thank God for those kids, they taught me to have a thicker skin but they didn't make me a hard hearted or bitter. Instead now when I see others being bullied I step in and say something to both sides. I depend on God to help me through the hard times and to help me forgive others no matter what they have done to me.
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Monday 31 May
By Deanna
I was one of the one's that was tormented on a daily basis. It doesn't make you anything but scared, unhappy, and certainly not lucky. Finally, after I was a junior in high school, I started standing up for myself and people finally left me alone. Don't ever say that someone is lucky for being tormented in school, because it is not, nor will it ever be true.
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Tuesday 01 June
By Sue
Amen Sister! Know where you're coming from! I was in the same boat - and you're absolutely right! I wasn't one of the "popular" kids so just about everyone thought I was fair game. There's nothing lucky or fun or anything about it and it can really screw you up for life!
Monday 31 May
By UNLUCKY MORE LIKE IT
yeah, this article su ck s. i was one of those girls that were TORMENTED because i developed breasts before the others, and then someone found out that my grandparents had adopted me and that was it until highschool. i got threatened ,picked on, things stolen from me, pushed up against a fence, ganged up on until one day in highschool i grew up, and pushed back and it ended there. i finally stood up for myself, got back in their face , threatened them back i figured the worse if i had to fight someone bigger then me is that sure i would get hurt but i wouldnt go down without EFFING them up pretty good too. thankfully i never had to physically fight anyone and by 12th grade it was all done and over with but before that it was he ll on earth. and now i hate women. my husband cant figure out for the life of me why i have such a low self esteem . im almost 40 been married 20 of those years and everytime i see a woman with cleveage hanging out even if its at a family function i get an attitude. it completely screwed me up mentally and i try really hard to like other women especially for my kids' sake so they can go over to other peoples houses but i hate crowds, i hate to deal with people and i hate other women. though if you met me on the street you wouldnt be able to tell because i would
try and be nice to you. i cant go to social functions and when my friend has her church gatherings like cookouts and stuff i try and go and leave feeling miserable.. yeah real fr iggin lucky aint i
if i could go back and do it all over i would go back and kick some dairie aire
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Tuesday 01 June
By Haley
I have the same problem. Though, i am only 18, I don't like going to social functions and it takes a lot of effort for me to get along with other girls because of my low self esteem. This article is most definately crap.