Remember that scene in "Pretty in Pink" where millionaire crybaby Andrew McCarthy picks up poor, pouty Molly Ringwald at work for their first date and he's like, "Do you want to go home and change first?" and she's all, "I already did ..."? OH, SNAP. That's just embarrassing for everyone involved, and it pretty much sets the tone for their tortured affair.
It also brings to mind the question of what to do when one member of a dating duo is dressed for a night at the opera while the other is wearing something more suitable for a late-night emergency run to Wal-Mart.
Generally, it's good practice never to leave the house for a meeting with that special someone wearing any of the following:
1) Anything you'd wear to bed, the car wash or the gym
Yes, there are dates that call for T-shirts and jeans. (Bowling, anyone?) But unless you're waxing pickup trucks as part of a charity car wash during your date, avoid jean shorts, your disintegrating Chucks and your favorite threadbare T-shirt. This also goes for "lingerie-inspired tops" (nobody's buying that) or anything terrycloth/bedazzled across the butt. It's not to say that these things don't have a place, but there's nothing worse than feeling under-dressed if spontaneous plans take you someplace where flip-flops would be frowned upon.
2) Something you'd wear to a wedding
This isn't a hard and fast rule, and if you know you're going someplace where it's appropriate, it can be fine. But be sure to do your research -- say you meet a guy at a tapas bar you've never been to, thinking it's the perfect excuse to get another wear out of that silk cocktail dress. But when you arrive, you realize it's more of a taco joint than a tapas place -- and everybody else is wearing hoodies and jeans. Do your recon work, check online reviews of the place, and ask around before you overdress.
3) Shoes that make you walk like a jacked-up stripper with bunions
Always make sure you can actually get around on your wheels before your take them for a spin. This doesn't just go for high heels -- this goes for pinchy flats or just-a-bit-too-big sandals that you bought online that make you endlessly flat-tire yourself. What if he suggests an après meal gelato and you end up having to walk eight blocks to get there? Your feet might well be bloody stumps by that time. Bloody stumps: not hot.
4) Any article of clothing that unzips, slips or bursts open unexpectedly
Yes, this seems like a no-brainer, but we all have that skirt that breaks hearts but occasionally unzips of its own accord. Anything strapless? Probably not a good idea either. Because you will spend all evening hiking up that tube top. Do yourself a favor and jettison it from your first-date arsenal completely.
5) Anything you haven't worn before
It's incredibly tempting to just run to Anthropologie after work to buy something off the rack because you suddenly hate what you wore to the office. But you have no way of knowing if this dress has a loose button, or if there's some ridiculous ruffle you didn't notice, or if when you sit it suddenly reveals the tops of your upper thighs. Stick with something you've road tested.
The point is, plan ahead. Sure, any guy who freaks out over what you wear probably isn't worth the trouble, but hey -- if you like the guy, you can only score points by dressing in a way that says, "Hey, I've put some thought into this, because this evening is something I've been looking forward to, and it's important to me." It's the polite thing to do. Dressing appropriately and in a way that makes you feel put together and confident only sets you up for success.
Your best bet: Think of the date like a job interview: You want to look like yourself, but even better (if that's possible). Find out where you're working (eating, drinking, bowling) and dress for yourself, but crank it up a little. And if he shows up for the date dressed in frayed cargo shorts, well, maybe you didn't really want to go to try that fancy hotel bar (or see him again) anyway.












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Wednesday 12 May
By bglynns
The best answer is "Panties and a Bra"!
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Wednesday 12 May
By Tom
Corect answer if you really want a second date.
Wednesday 12 May
By franplatt
"3) Shoes that make you walk like a jacked-up stripper with bunions"
This is good advice regardless of where you are going, or with whom. Nothing is worth "bloody stumps," and women should always be prepared to "walk eight blocks" - or run away from some jerk, should the need arise! When men start having to wear something as painful as stiletto heels in order to be considered attractive, then and only then will I consider wearing them too.
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Wednesday 12 May
By John
Here's a valuable suggestion for what NOT to wear on a first date. NEVER wear a T-shirt that says, "I'm with Stupid".
Just an idea.
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Wednesday 12 May
By Marie
Am thinking the first one is pretty much a no-brainer! This article just had to be written by a man/men. And, number 2.....why the hell not? Living in New York, there are tons of places we go on Saturday nights that I would definitely wear to a wedding! Number 3....well, I don't really know what a "jacked up stripper looks like"....(if there is such a thing! ) Number 4....Yikes. that kinda narrows things down just a pinch! Having tons clothes, not so sure I have much without zippers, etc. Number 5.....damn, there goes my chance to buy something new!!! Although, my gorgeous hunk of a hubby would be thrilled!
Again, this article just had to be written by men!
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Wednesday 12 May
By Marie
John,
Your comment was/is hysterical! Nor should the guy wear it either, although, it would be pretty damn funny!
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Wednesday 12 May
By rose
Your article on whats is proper to wear on a first date did not include any top that shows what you ate for breakfast, when you bend over. Too much cleavage is asking for trouble. yes it is !
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Wednesday 12 May
By Angiebaby
To wear or not to wear? Here are a few more ideas:
Wear underclothes... under your clothes.
Don't wear flip flops.
Avoid orthopedic shoes.
Wear clothes that fit, not jeans you have to lie flat on the bed to button & zip.
Don't wear neon colors.
Wear a girdle if your dress is a size 10 and fits perfectly, except over your size 12 belly.
Don't wear a wig that isn't glued down.
Don't wear your not-so-back-in-style satin harem pants. Even if they were a gift. (Like when I was in my young teens my dad's girlfriend brought me a gift back from Las Vegas - a beautiful, pink, long sleeved, stretchy blouse... with EXPENSIVE written across the chest in rhinestones.) Some things you just shouldn't wear in the first place.
Don't wear clothes that are not clean.
Do wear clothes that are wrinkle free.
Don't wear your old boyfriend's jacket. (Bad conversation starter, plus a jinx)
Do wear clothes that cover the tat of your ex-girlfriend's name.
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Monday 09 May
By Savannah
You mean to tell me that it's not considered "hot" to wear some old white orthopedic shoes with the strap across them? damn the luck! lol best comment of them all!
Wednesday 12 May
By Cal Orey
If you wear lots of jewelry you'll look like a "material girl." No jewelery? Down-to-earth and confident.
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