Lemondrop

So, Slate's XX blog posted a pretty good rant from Lauren Bans in response to Courtney Love's assertion that foogly girls are better in bed cause they try harder. Lauren thought that this was "frat boy" logic and not very feminist of Courtney to say.

Spoken like somebody who didn't go to prom with a relative!

Sorry, Lauren, but we homely holmeses are better in bed -- because we have to be. This is just Science Fact.

It's adaptation, the same way that those of us who had limps or extra teeth or facial eczema growing up are all really funny now. I mean, I won't lay my best moves on anybody I'm not that into, but if I sleep with a dude who's out of my league, who I want to see-again-slash-date, I'm going to bring my sexual A-game. It's the same way that busted dudes make hilarious Tumblrs and broke dudes with no social skills learn to play drums.

Sure, lots of pretty girls are great in bed, and I get that Lauren is just trying to say that we shouldn't judge women based on their looks -- whether we're pretty or we have neck stretch marks and googly, Cookie Monster lazy eyes.

But she also writes that "the misogynist pretty-girls-lie/ugly-girls-try theory assumes that women in both camps are opening their legs mainly for enjoyment on the part of men." Saying that girls who aspire to be really good at sex are only thinking of male pleasure is ridiculous. If a guy reads "She Comes First" and spends a lot of time learning about the clitoris, he's considerate. You wouldn't be like, "Oh, he's just doing that to please the girl." You'd be like, "Awesome, he's just doing that to please the girl." It's OK to want to get a guy off in a way that is memorable and impressive! What are you supposed to be doing, staring him down and growling, "PLEASURRRRRE ME"?

Additionally? Courtney Love is crazier than a wolverine in a sleeping bag, so we probably shouldn't take much stock in what she says. But I agree with her on this one.