There are many reasons, both pro and con, when considering whether to wear The Skinny Jean. Off the bat, I can call to mind their ability, when paired with heels, to make my 5-foot frame look deceivingly long and lean, but, admittedly, they are a disadvantage when attempting to execute a standing back tuck. What I have never considered when donning pants in the morning -- before today -- was whether the tightness of my jeans would prevent me from being raped. Or, if I were, whether they would prevent those charges from sticking.
Yeah, you heard me: Over the weekend, an Australian jury acquitted Nicholas Gonzales of rape, due to the fact that the female plaintiff had been wearing skinny jeans at the time.
The story goes that Gonzales, 23, invited said acquaintance, 24, up to his room to listen to some music, at which time he pushed her onto the bed, pinned her down with his torso, and stripped off her jeans, before sexually assaulting her. The defense attorney posited that it would be "difficult for skinny jeans to be taken off by someone else unless the wearer [was] assisting, collaborating, consenting."
The jury agreed. During the trial, they wanted to know more about "how exactly Nick took off her jeans" in order to make their decision.
"I doubt those kind of jeans can be removed without any sort of collaboration," read a juror's note.
Gone are the days of "If the glove don't fit, you must acquit." And so long, Twinkie Defense! A new bizarre (and, most notably, successful) "reasonable doubt" for all those unlucky rapists has arrived. And this is not the first time the words "skinny jeans" have made a cameo in a rape case, either.
Recently, a Korean court overturned the sentence of a man previously convicted of raping a skinny-jeans-clad woman, whereas an Italian court upheld a conviction despite the victim's skinny jeans. The official ruling from the Supreme Court of Appeals in Rome was that "jeans cannot be compared to any type of chastity belt," no matter how snug they may be.
Grazie, Italy! I have heard the "Oh, she was wearing a miniskirt with her thong hanging out -- she was asking for it" defense before, but I never thought I'd live to see the day where it would devolve to include this strange denim caveat.
Hear me loud and clear on this one, folks: I don't care if you're wearing nothing but DENTAL FLOSS, let alone a miniskirt or skinny jeans, no one and I mean NO ONE -- sex worker or librarian, man or woman -- should be expected to, pressured into, or downright forced to engage in any type of sexual activity, for any reason whatsoever, without their express consent.
That being said, I know there are some crazy women out there who poke holes in condoms to get pregnant and blackmail men for their own gain. I don't presume to know what it's like to be a man and, upon taking a woman home from a bar, wonder if she might slap you with a subpoena the next morning.

My main problem with this whole Skinny Jean Consent thing is that it completely misses the point: They're saying that because he could not possibly have removed her pants by himself (clearly it would take an astrophysicist, The Hulk, or 10 of his closest friends), she MUST have been on board for the alternative to "listening to music." But I say even if she DID help him take her pants off, it does not mean she was consenting to have sex with him. You can say "yes" to one thing but still express a resounding -- and completely admissible-in-court -- "no" to everything else.
"Hey, baby, do you want to listen to some music?"
"Why, yes, that sounds delightful!"
"You know, I think your skinny jeans are cutting off the circulation to your ears. You'll hear much better if you take off your pants."
"Oh, you are so smart and kind, you big smart man, you."
Seriously, did everyone else besides me miss the after-school special about rape? Just because I go "down under" on you doesn't mean I'm consenting for you to sleep with me afterward. Even if I've specifically said to you that I'm ready to go, I'm allowed -- at any point -- to change my mind and say a big fat N-O to you putting your shrimp on my barbie. Even if we're already back at your place, and I'm out of my skinny jeans and your didgeridoo is ready for action. (Yes, the insanity of this acquittal has reduced me to terrible Australian euphemisms.)
I will pull it back together to say this: Until (frighteningly) recently, rape cases hinged on whether or not the victim had physically fought back against his or her assailant. In the event that evidence of physical resistance was absent, it was usually ruled that the sexual act was consensual. In the last decade or so, prosecutors have finally been able to prove lack of consent by presenting the victim's verbal objections.
Bottom line: "No means no" isn't just something funny you say to your friends when they try to get you eat your own boogers; it is the crux of many women's cases. Ultimately, the reason Gonzales walked is because a room full of people felt that a woman's outfit was prohibitively difficult to remove. I call bullsh** and so does Veronica Wensing: The chairwoman of the National Association of Services Against Sexual Assault told the Sydney Morning Herald, simply, that a woman's outfit should not be an issue in alleged rapes.
As she so astutely put it, ''Any piece of clothing can be removed with force.''
Virginia Clarkson writes for It's Not Okay to Look, where she and her co-editor G. Cecile Cooper, dish on dating disasters, male fails and general romantic follies as experienced by two Brooklynites in search of Mr. Right.












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Wednesday 05 May
By Hannah
Yeah, because... "getting paid more, holding more positions in public office, and opening jars, like, WAY easier" is TOTALLY worth being falsely accused of rape... or the other horrible things men have to deal with.
Women bitch so much about how hard it is to be a girl, and how men have it SO much better. But I really think it's the other way around... or at the very LEAST, even.
My dad was accused of sexual harassment at work, and just be she "said so" he lost his job. It was obviously proved later that he didn't do it, but it didn't matter. His reputation was already tarnished. My cousin, the nicest guy on the planet... was accused of rape by some chick with a grudge. That too was proved false, but only after he got kicked out of school and lost his girlfriend.
ANY TIME a woman says something, it's automatically assumed that she is telling the truth and the guy is lying. Have you ever watched Law and Order SVU? lol They are tossing guys around in the interview rooms, yelling at them, humiliating them. And when it ends up they are innocent, they barely even get a "sorry".
Not to mention the whole domestic abuse thing. Women are aloud to hit/slap/smack/kick/throw dishes at men whenever they feel like. Your boyfriend tells you he cheated on you, you slap him. Some guy calls you a bitch, you punch him. And society says that's ok. Society says he "deserved" it. Remember the SNL skit of Elin Woods beating Tiger with a golf club? But of course, if a man lays a hand on a woman for any reason, he automatically goes to jail.
If a woman even SAYS a man hurt her, he goes to jail. Or at the very least... gets beat up by her brothers/friends/dad. Or is labeled as a bastard for the rest of his life. With or without proof.
THAT'S sexist.
Or how about the classic "it's always the man's fault" line. When a couple fights, who gets to kick who to the couch? I have never heard of a woman getting banished to the guest bedroom.
I mean, look at Hollywood. Anytime you see a movie where a man hurts a woman, he always has to crawl through broken glass, make some huge gesture, and beg for forgiveness to get the girl back. But when a women messes up, all she ever has to do is say "sorry". Example, The Devil Wears Prada. Anne Hathaway turns into a selfish bitch and completely forgets about the people who care about her. And then she just has lunch with her ex, and it's like nothing ever happened. No meaningful "I was so wrong" speech, no grand gestures... just happily ever after.
I would take low pay and fewer job prospectives over never getting the benefit of the doubt, always being assumed as the villain, and having to work harder to make up for my mistakes... any day.
That being said. I think this whole "jeans" thing sucks and is completely ridiculous.
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Wednesday 05 May
By allie
WOAH!!! are you serious, i have been sexually assulted and gues what nothing happened to the guy, NOT A DAMN THING!! mainly because he was such a "good student" and "never caused trouble before" even though i had friends who he did it to also.i told my school because my friends chickened out and the only thing they said was to "stay away from him". seriously i did not have a grudge against this guy, i didnt even know him. also my friend was almost sexually herrased by a goodlooking guy she was on a date with and charges were let go, get this, he was good looking and she was plump so she should have been happy about it. they didnt say it out right but he was let go. even some of his guy friends said that. i think what your missing is the point of what she is trying to say, a women has the right to say NO! no matter what it is her right. and yes sometimes the world can be sexist the other way around im not denying that, some women lie about rape and they go to jail for it as they should. im just stating that sometimes guys do get away with stuff they shouldnt at all, for whatever reason. that is not right, that is what shes trying to say. i also feel sorry for you if you would not like the same rights as men because you think they have it harder, because to me we are all equal and deserve equal, no matter what
Monday 10 May
By Louie
Gosh Hannah,
It clearly says: Add A Comment, not write a whole article. And what's with that stupid catch phrase: That said. Even the author of the original article used the phrase. It's so dumb. We know, that was said, why do we have to be told, that said? I can't stand it when people use or overuse catch phrases to make them look intelligent. If they were really that intelligent, they would come up with their own original words, not catch phrases that so many other's use. That's like salt and peppering every sentence or answer with, totally, or exactly, fantastic. Be original people, stop copying other people. Who knows, maybe one of your original "Catch Phrases" will catch on and be like totally overused.
Monday 10 May
By Georgia
Most of your examples are from TV or movies. They have scripts. Those specific instances you described didn't actually happen in real life. Therefore, I don't think it's valid for you to use those as points in your argument.
Not to say that what happened to your father and cousin aren't completely unfair.
But, women have always been the underdogs. I'm not a feminist or anything, but that's the truth. They have been, and probably always will to some degree.
Monday 10 May
By elle
Then go have a sex change. You already whine like a little girl.
Monday 10 May
By Lynn
Skinny jeans are easier to remove then regular jeans. They are usually stretch jeans and do not go fully over the hip (the rise is usually lower). I can take mine off without opening the button.
Tuesday 11 May
By Uh
Right, "at least even". Never mind that women statistically make 75 cents for every dollar a man makes and frequently face discrimination and the threat of physical harm because of our culture that encourages and socially sanctions the lowered status of females. It's very unfortunate your father and friend were falsely accused, but statistically, 90% of rapes go unreported, only 60% ever make it to prosection, and false reports of rape occur less often than false reports of car theft, in terms of validity. What you're saying is a statistically anomaly compared to the reality of sexual assault. One in three women in her life is sexually assaulted before the age of 40, and given how many rapes go unreported, this is a light estimate.
But I should probably stop trying to reason with someone who uses a fictional TV drama as evidence of reality...
Monday 10 May
By Mets
Ummm dude, you should be gay and not go around chicks at all because you sound like really bitter.
You would be doing chicks a big favor if you become gay.
Monday 10 May
By Whitney
Hannah, I'm not sure your grudge, but first of all, that's not the case in all situations. Women are NEVER allowed to hit men, that's domestic abuse as well.
Regardless of your past situations, your comments had nothing to do with whether or not a woman wearing Skinny Jeans meant she obviously consented.
I've never banished the boyfriend to the couch. If I'm pissed at him, I'M the one who chooses to go elsewhere. And in Devil Wears Prada, I'm TOTALLY with Anne Hathaway's Character. Her career, or a boyfriend who doesn't understand what she's doing. I found her boyfriend to be unwilling to bend. Yeah, in that film she shouldn't have flaked on his birthday, but he should have understood it was because of her job. I've missed my boyfriend's bday and he's missed mine because of work. There's nothing you can do about it sometimes. You'll learn that when you start working. Quite honestly, If I were Anne's character, I would have NEVER tried to go back to that guy. He and his attitude weren't worth it.
Tuesday 11 May
By Travis Webster
omg, i have been saying this same exact damn thing forever. u are so right in everything u just said
Tuesday 11 May
By Tim
Hannah...I could not have said it better myself! I was just having that very same argument with my girlfriend today!!!
Tuesday 11 May
By James
Obviously u are angry about what happened to your family members so u are biased. Are u saying that rape is ok just because your your father and cousin may have been falsely accused? U seem to be in support of the acquital of the man in this "skinny jeans" case, but how do u know that he is being falsely accused? Is rape something that simply doesn't happen, or does it only happen to women to wear dresses or skirts? The fact of the matter is that if the woman was able to put the jeans on, by herself, then he most likely would be able to remove them. It's not a 2 person job to put on jeans. Also, she may have been too affraid to resist. She may have been scared that he would physically hurt her even more severely, than the rape, so she may have given in. Not everyone responds to fear in the same way. Some women would have fought and may have successfully gotten away; others would have fought and would have still been raped, and possibly beaten up badly. Some women would be too scared to do anything.
And even if she did take off her jeans it doesn't mean that she consented for him to insert his penis into her. Maybe she wanted to do other sexual acts but he then decided that what she had agreed to was not enough. The defense "what was she doing in his apartment, in the first place" doesn't work, because sexual assault is about the absence of consent to sexual acts. It doesn't matter if she was naked in his apartment or even if she told him that she wanted to have sex; she can change her mind. In the same way, a man can change his mind. This is only fair. What if a man or woman goes over to someone's house and the intention is to have sex, but suddenly one of them feels ill and no longer wants to have sex(whether the man or woman). What if one of them discovers that the other has an STD? Or what if one of then has changed there mind foir another reason? The fact is that just as man can refuse to have sex with a woman, a woman should be allowed the same freedom. In regard to domestic violence, women can go to jail for physically abusing men. It is illegal to slap or punch a man, even if u are a woman. This isnt about one sex against the other or who has it harder. Both sexes have some advantages and disadvantages. However this is about rape. It's not ok whether it be a woman or aman getting raped. Victims of sexual abuse tend to experience enough shame and fear, as is. It's not fair to be insensitive to the fact that rape is something that happens a lot. A lot of women never report it because of shame and fear. One who does report it should be taken seriously. If she is lying, which happens sometimes but relatively rarely, then she should go to jail. Otherwise she should not discredited on the basis on what she was wearing.
To reiterate this point again, even if she did consent to sex, she could change her mind. If u were having sex and it was very painful or the guy started calling u demeaning names(so u became very uncomfortable) should u not have a choice to end the sex? If u consented to oral sex, does it mean that u consented to everything or anything?
Tuesday 11 May
By Lauren
The United States has a 16.2% conviction rate for sexual assault. I'll pay attention to your exaggeration of false allegation once the system takes rape as seriously as you purport to.
Tuesday 11 May
By Elizabeth H.
Don't blame the woman for getting raped. Blame the rapist for committing a crime.
I reported my rape, got the rape kit the next day, did everything right and still failed to get a conviction. I didn't know his roommate was out and went upstairs just to use his bathroom. He claimed it was consensual. I had bruises the police "forgot" to document. The jury let him off due to lack of conviction. Someone in the courtroom told me I sounded too angry and that's why nobody believed me. I would kill him if I could. Rape is the same bodily violation as murder.
Tuesday 11 May
By Ainsley Little
Why does our society defend rapists so fervently? Because 90% of sexual offenders are heterosexual men? My rape never went to trial. My friends never reported their rapes. My support group has nearly 30 members and maybe 3 of us got convictions after our attacks. A woman's stepdad got 7 years. A date rape that left another beaten got under 3 years. Where do all of you live that the cops respond to every rape allegation and believe the survivor 100% of the time and the guy always goes to jail? I've been in a few different groups because I move a lot and most of us never saw anyone punished beyond ourselves.
Tuesday 11 May
By distasio
Hannah, does it mean anything to you that your examples of men having it rough came from scripted television or assumptions? (Are women still pretending to be weak and letting their partners feel like big men for opening a simple JAR?) According to RAINN, the Rape Abuse Incest National Network, at least 60% of rapes are never reported, and of those that are, only 6% of rapists go to jail. In 2003, that last year this stastistic was gathered, 9 out of 10 rape victims were female. BOOHOO MEN HAVE IT SO HARD BECAUSE SOMETIMES WOMEN LIE ABOUT RAPE. Guess what? Men lie about rape too. Mostly that it didn't happen. Why don't you seem to care about that? Let me guess, YOU have never been raped personally, Hannah.
Wednesday 12 May
By Jeff
Hannah you stupid idiot. Statistically, false rape accusations occur no more often than for any other crime. But do we hear arguments that a robbery victim really voluntarily gave the money because the victim didn't end up shot or stabbed or otherwise fight back? Or was asking for it because was walking in a bad neighborhood wearing expensive clothes and looking rich? Or that the convenience store shouldn't have left that cash drawer within grabbing reach of the front of the counter. Is suppose the equivalent of this skinny jeans argument would be - "Well, they had such a good lock on the door no burglar could have gotten in unless they opened the door voluntarily." Real life isn't like TV and the movies. In real life no one would want go through the Sh*t rape victims have to go through, which is why so many never report it, and why many give up, back down, and recant even though it really happened. And then if they have the gits to hold out all the way to trial, they often see the whole case go into the crapper because of idiots like you and the idiots on that Aussie jury. .
Thursday 13 May
By Madness
Dude, do you live in the 1960s or something? The next time you get hit up-side the head by a woman, call the COPS and see if they are gonna say something like "well, she IS a girl, she gets to do that" no, she doesn't. Domestic violence works both ways and can be punished both ways.
Let's face it, hollywood isn't really a good thing to base real life off.
p.s. if you are with a woman who starts throwing sh*t instead of talking to you when she is angry, run like the WIND, that's one abusive bitch.
Thursday 13 May
By ELT
When you look like Anne Hathaway does, you never have to apologize for ANYTHING. EVER. Sorry but them's the rules...
Thursday 13 May
By Bette
Wow, Hannah. You've really bought into the whole "it's the woman's fault" thing, huh? Then, on top of it, how could you end this whole rambling nonsense comment with "I think this whole 'jeans' thing sucks and is completely ridiculous"? And please use real examples, not those you see on television. Hint: not every television show is based on reality.