I know. It's hard to believe. But a recent study from Penn State has uncovered that way more guys than you'd expect find emotional betrayal a bigger deal than sexual infidelity. Yes, you read that right. We are talking about MEN here.Popular belief until now was that women suffered the crushing blows of an emotional affair much more than men, who considered you getting it on with someone else a Class A offense. It all goes back to evolution: Men learned that they had to be vigilant about whom you had sex with because they could never really tell if a kid was theirs, while women sought an emotional connection with a guy who'd commit to sticking around and raising them.
According to the study, this theory still holds true, but it's not so black and white. In fact, a man's personality (rather than his ego) plays a bigger role in how he experiences jealousy. The researchers found that men who were secure in their attachments to women -- i.e. not commitment-phobes -- were more likely to get jealous over emotional infidelity. In other words, we're talking about men who basically think like we do. Now we just need to find them.
What would hurt you worse: His having sex, or cozying up to someone else emotionally?
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Monday 31 May
By derfiniw
My boyfriend and I just had a conversation about this. I told him it would hurt more if he cheated emotionally, but he kept insisting that cheating was cheating, and either way, it would hurt. I guess in a sense he's right, but at the same time, being physically invested in someone is like having a f*ck buddy, and being emotionally invested falls more along the lines of relationship statuses.
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Wednesday 28 April
By TheVanityAffaire
I really cant put either on a scale to say what is worse. I think I would get angrier in the moment about physical cheating but emotional is much deeper, it took time for things to develop even if it was innocent at first. Physical cheating could've been that one weak moment, emotional is that weak moment has been spread out over time until the barrier fell completely and feelings began to happen. Both though are dealbreakers for me, I couldn't stand knowing my bf/husband was with someone else or loved someone else.
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Sunday 02 May
By singlekent
I am surprised - but I have felt that way for a long time. Unfortunately, I have no one to cheat on me. Surprised - I'd rather have a good emotional relationship than a perfect non-relationship.
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Monday 03 May
By Elle
Emotional infidelity seems to sting men more because they realize a woman's heart is now caught up within or around another man.
Most men believe, when you have a woman's heart, you now have control over her, and therefore she's vulnerable to be taken from you.
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Tuesday 04 May
By Morning Eggs
You can't compare... too many factors involved: Who was it; when was it; what was going on between the two of you.
My ex cheated on me a dozen times... the worst one was the one he was 'dating' and not just a one-night stand... but that was the one I could forgive. We were in a baaaad place and people slip when they have feelings.
But the cheating to 'feel wanted' instead of ending things with me was the deal breaker... sick!
JUST DONT DO IT... if you are tempted... decided whether the temptation is something you want and then either end it with your 'other' or cut out the temptation. Duh!
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Friday 07 May
By V. Riley
I've been cheated on emotionally, and as a guy who has never had a problem with commitment (actually, I prefer it), it nearly destroyed me emotionally, too.
I sometimes wonder if it would have been better for her to just F the guy, and if I would have gotten over it sooner (the relationship still would have ended).
But I think one of the hard things about it, is that since it wasn't physical, it can easily be justified in the other's mind(s) that its NOT cheating. So you not only get the trauma of being cheated on, but also the insult of them completely denying it, and actually believing that they're in the right. Doing that completely denies your emotions and feelings of being hurt... and adds insult AND another injury to an already hurts-like-a-mofo-injury.
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Friday 07 May
By Danielle
definately having sex with someone else would tip me over the edge..i would be beyond devastated....at least if it was just emotional, it could be a friend, whereas sex is usually more than a friend...i would feel that i wasnt pleasing my man well enough
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