When two dudes fight over Bridget Jones in a fountain, or when she careens ass-first down a fire pole, I think all of us single ladies can have a good chuckle and go, "Ha, I've so been there!"So when we read about a study by the U.K.'s More magazine that found 40 percent of British 20-somethings worried their lives resembled Bridget's, Lemondrop HQ was all confused. Here in America, we don't worry about being pathetic and single women in our 30s, because we're too busy laughing at pathetic single women in their 30s!
But could we American gals be worried about growing up to be Liz Lemon the same way that women in England are terrified to grow up and have sex with Hugh Grant?
Possibly! After the recent hubbub surrounding Tina Fey on the lady Web, we had a half-hearted debate about whether Liz Lemon was, indeed, bad for single women. (Slate ventured that, as "a fabulously successful, married woman with a daughter, [Tina Fey's] obsession with the pathetic single woman is just starting to feel a little mean," while Feministe helpfully pointed out that Fey hasn't been single "since the Clinton administration.")
Being upset that Tina Fey is married and her "30 Rock" character is a lonely single is sort of like being infuriated that Steve Carell isn't actually a hapless middle manager or a Pennsylvanian. It's a show! But it also merits mentioning that Fey spent the majority of her recent appearance on SNL in sketches like Brownie Husband, where she literally replaced a spouse with baked goods. Kind of offensive, especially when you factor in the small matter of her allegedly making the move from writer's room to cast member only after she lost a bunch of weight.
Is this the reason why the 20-somethings More surveyed said the ideal age to get married was twenty-f**king-six? We know lots and lots of wonderful, normal-ish single women in their 30s who aren't obsessed with marriage or Tagalongs. So while the Bridget Jones / Liz Lemon trope is certainly alive and well in comedy, we wonder if it's a real-life phenomenon or just a comedy schtick that's getting a little shopworn.
The Backlash, in Links ...
+ Tina Fey Doesn't Own All the Funny (XX)
+ The Tina Fey Backlash (Broadsheet)
+ On Tina Fey (Shakesville)
+ Leslie Knope, Liz Lemon and the Feminist Lessons of NBC's "Parks and Recreation" (Newsweek)
+ Time to Check in With Tina Fey's Feminism! (Feministe)












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Sunday 23 May
By BonnieB23
Well, actually, what is the point of waiting to get married until you are in your 30s? Being married is great! Why delay it ?(and maybe pass up the love of your life because you are not ready yet) No one is ever "ready". There will always be a flicker of doubt (especially the older you are).
I simply do not understand why it is better to sleep with a bunch of guys you are not going to marry, get your heart broken several times and break the hearts of others. Is this really productive? What is the great fun in that?
While being married to a person you really love is way more fun. And it is more productive because you KNOW you are working together toward goals that benefit you both. If you get pregnant 'no big deal' you just deal with that in the ways that people have for all of time. ( and perhaps be a bit more careful about birth control if you don't want a whole "bunch" of children)
Of course women in their 30s begin to realize that their fertile time is dwindling ...It is a fact that it is harder to become pregnant as one ages. We all know that. So for those who know they really want children, it is a constant buzz in the back of the mind. It won't go away, because it is the truth. You just have to tell the truth to yourself.
What exactly IS the reason for waiting to get married later in your 30s or 40s?
We were designed to marry and give birth earlier than that. Why fight nature? There is plenty of time later to improve your career and re-invent yourself!
Never mind what your friends, contemporaries and certainly not what some television 'mythical character" says. What is YOUR truth? If you can know that you will be much better off than most.
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Tuesday 20 April
By TW
Bonnie.
Since you are "assuming" that being single in your thirties is some wanton choice people make because they are not married, Im going to "assume" that you are in your late seventies and grew up with a mother who cooked and cleaned in a dress, apron and high heels.
Being someone in their thirties, I will not speak for EVERYONE, but only for myself. I was in a 10 year relationship, which did not work out. I have BEEN ready for marriage. I am not "sleeping around". And NO I dont necessarily want biological children. So what in your, obviously professional, opinion is the "truth" that I need to tell myself? Having your heart broken and breaking hearts is much more normal to me than, feeling like I settled or creating a union with someone who is the first one to propose.
Im appalled by your ignorance. Your comments are so antiquated and bigoted that I actually feel sad for the children you will raise to think the same as you do.
You as a woman, should not be on the side of bringing down other women who choose ,or dont choose, to do with their lives what they please. Especially, if the choices that they make arent compromising you or your family in any way.
Obviously, you are intitled to your opinion. But it is a very disappointing one to hear.
Wednesday 21 April
By charlyfranky
Jeez TW ~ take a chill pill..no wonder he didn't ask for your hand..
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Friday 23 April
By carmen
NO, NO, NO, I am not afraid to die alone. As a matter of fact it think I'll welcome it. I have three kids, So I guess REALLY being alone is out of the question,(one of them will come through) But a Man, Guy, Dude, Please. I welcome the day I can lie down in bed and either NOT feel aroused or arouse Someone else.
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Friday 23 April
By carmen
******To Bonnie*****-- Please you're going to pop a vein. Chill out. And Yeah, Since you're NOT sleeping around, I'm sorry but maybe you should (a little bit at least) Get some of that anger out. Very Hostile Girl. I'm sorry I don't know you BUT.........
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Friday 23 April
By carmen
SORRY, That last comment was to TW.
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