Liz has the perfect man -- with the exception of one thing: He can't cook worth a damn. Based on the popularity of "Top Chef"–esque shows and the female vote, it's socially acceptable -- encouraged, even -- for guys to man the stove. So why can't men seem to find their way around a kitchen?
One possible explanation is their lack of education on household duties growing up. Like Liz, Q
says her fiance and his twin brother were spoiled by their mother, who took on all domestic chores in the family. "His mom didn't allow him to do anything. She even came over to our house and folded his laundry once!"
Plenty of readers also expressed their outrage at Liz for being unappreciative of all the other qualities her husband offered.
says, "I'm amazed how many commenters are bashing the author of this article. It's obvious the woman is extremely appreciative of her husband, as is I'm sure she feels if her husband also cooked, it would just be too good to be true. I'm envious of her! And she's right, not too many men can cook. But then, not too many take up the slack on all the other stuff."
agrees with Liz, saying, "She's right -- a guy who can cook or is willing to learn is very sexy. A man who is willing (without being asked) to clean, wash dishes, do laundry, go grocery shopping, plan lunches and dinner for the week is a real keeper."
Speaking of real keepers, we found one buried among the comments: says wjrnfla
, "I do almost all of the cooking at our home ... Easter was a boneless leg of lamb with a fresh herb garlic rub, scalloped potatoes with gruyere cheese and steamed asparagus with a dollop of sour cream horseradish sauce, served with a nice cab."
Though that particular husband may not have qualms being the head chef of the house, Dan Rudez
feels differently. He warns fellow men against picking up a spatula: "The more you can cook, the less it seem as though your partner is interested in cooking." Plus, he claims to have discovered a growing trend of women who "intentionally avoid the kitchen to avoid being the stereotypical 'Leave it to Beaver' mother type."
Another male reader admits to being a stranger to the kitchen -- but he has no desire to develop any culinary skills, either. Cooper
says, "I'm sure my wife would love it if I could help out with some meal prep, but it's just not in me. I don't ask her to weld or cut firewood or replace electrical outlets, and she doesn't ask me to cook. It's a team effort, and we play our respective positions pretty well."
Tell us! Do you or your husband do most of the cooking in your household? Do you wish he cooked more?