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Sunday 04 April

By basketpam

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Will someone please explain to me why brides to be get this idea in their head that the entire world must bow to their demands. I, along with other immediate family members, own a retirement community. As part of this community we have a very lovely community building with the most gorgous fireplace in a 10 mile radius and overall, it's the nicest place to rent in our little local community for a function. Over the last 3 years more and more we're renting this out for all sorts of functions. I have started to come across some of what the world is now calling a "bridezilla." These are women who come up with some of the DUMBEST, UGLIEST, and STUPIDEST ideas ever conceived for a wedding reception since the dawn of time. They make the craziest demands of what they want from us, which I usually won't agree to, and basically drive everyone around them nuts. Why??? Has the quest to have the most unusual,or the most memorable, or the wildest, or even the tackiest wedding, or sometimes all of the above, overtaken all thoughts of common sense in today's bride? Is this what they preach in all those expensive bridal magazines? I've had women want us to take down our expensive custom made drapes because they don't match her color scheme. I've had family members remove ALL the items that belong to the community out of furniture in the room because they don't like it being there, they've taken my staff's food they keep for lunches in the refrigerator and dumped it on her desk because they want it for THEIR food, even though they're not entitiled to be using these appliances for their function. I've had to start charging a rather large fee, per keg, to be allowed the priviliage to bring one in because they don't know how to clean up after it and it usually requires an entire day to scrub the floor the next day. I have to remind these people that they have come to me, to rent a retirement center community room and NOT an event center. If you want an event center where they will cater and let you do anything, then you go and pay a $1,000 or more. In our facility for what you're paying, what you see is what you get, and you live with it. What is it about weddings that cause the bride and all the people involved with it to forget even the smallest common courtesies? The brides and families become rude and demanding. We had one of our own resident couples celebrate their 40th wedding anniversay by renewing their vows. The wife made all bridezillas who had ever come before look like a sweet little pussycat. I've never in my entire 48 years ever had a woman be so demanding and fussy. She wanted WEEKS to decorate for this stupid event of her. She wanted us to cancel other people's reservations so she could have more time to get ready for her event. We had to actually tell her no, and then she was mad about it. She told people what to wear to their function. She wanted everyone dressed color coordinated with her color scheme. Want to hear one of the best things? This "ceremony" the couple had must had lasted well over an hour. During that time she had NOT provided ANY seating for her guests. Everyone had to stand through this entire ordeal. Many people were well over the age of 50 here. She even custom made trash boxes to match the decor for her theme. And the crazy part of this entire thing, I didn't think it was anything all that special. I've seen functions 50 times more elegant, tasteful, beautiful and classy. But yet, you would have thought Queen Elizabeth was getting married that day instead of her from the way she acted. All I want is for someone to tell me WHY people get like this? Isn't the only thing that's REALLY important the day of the wedding is that the bride and the groom actually end up married? Sure, you want your guests to enjoy themselves, but at what cost? And many times, I think the bride goes so nuts about things that she makes the guests actually very uncomfortable and instead of remembering this day as a happy and wonderful occasion, they remember it for all the nutty and crazy things about it. How everything was so picky, no one could be comfortable. This bride here, I hope she's one of the family that spends time behind bars. Our society in America has become so self-centered, self-absorbed and so indifferent to the needs to others that it doesn't shock me in the least we're quickly swirling down the old toilet bowl. There was NO excuse on the face of this earth fo a woman to act this way about a dress for a wedding. And what's worse, is for members of her family to actually go so far as to destroy property for her. What decent respectable person ask a loved one to do something that could land them in jail? NONE! The only way this behavior is going to change is if ALL people and facilities that deal with brides begin to fight back so to speak. When brides begin to make outrageous demands, kick them out. Tell them enough is enough. Also, having lots of money to throw around should NOT give someone the power to be rude, hateful or mean to ANY staff or consultant dealing with wedding arrangements. This payment has NOT made you the master over a slave that you can abuse for your own needs. I think this country needs to start reminding women that this idea of your "dream" wedding and all these fantasies one has is NOT a ticket to make everyone's life around you a hell for the months it takes to plan and execute a wedding. And you want to know the very worst of it, after everyone survives all this with bridezilla, 3 years down the road the marriage is often over and divorce is around the corner and it's all been for nothing. So you potential grooms, if your fiance has turned into the wedding planner from hell, maybe you should run like hell. If she's this crazy just planning a wedding, what's she going to be like when all the REAL stresses of a house, a job and 3 or 4 kids REALLY makes her nuts. Maybe it's time we tell the bridezillas, if you can't handle this, maybe you're not ready for marriage. Boy I bet that would calm quite a few of them down. The world needs to stand up against these nut cases, for no amount of money in the world is worth trying to keep these customers happy. Trust me, I know.

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