We've all been there: You come up for air during a heavy makeout session and feel a distinct burning sensation ... on your face. Thanks to Loverboy's adoption of the rugged men of "Lost"'s unshaven aesthetic, you've got yourself a case of razor burn worse than when you first tried shaving your legs without water. Love hurts, yes, but it shouldn't be threaten to ruin all of the hard work of your Proactiv regimen. So what's a tactful but smitten woman to do when a dude's facial hair causes her pain?
Advice expert Alanna Kalb, author of the upcoming book "Stuff Every Woman Should Know," has this to say: "Much like wearing lumberjack plaid, beards make men feel masculine. And men like to feel masculine." In other words, it might be your skin at stake, but it could also be his manhood, so broach the subject with sensitivity.
"Consider your reasons for wanting it gone," Kalb says. "If it's the beard-burn that's bothering you, but it actually suits him, request that he condition it daily." If it's just stubble, well, maybe you skip morning sex until he's had a chance to deal with the regrowth.
In all seriousness, if the situation is dire, consider gifting him a fancy razor (Philips will introduce the very Star Trek–sounding Bodygroom Pro BG2040 in April) and some good-smelling shaving cream, along with an ultimatum: Say adios to the beard or kiss these lips goodbye. Hopefully, your kisser will outrank his stubble on the parabola of importance.
Besides physical pain there are, of course, cosmetic reasons you might wish to intervene in his grooming routine. Thanks to the magic of hormones, men are at liberty to sport all manner of preposterous facial hair. From the egregious and ubiquitous soul patch to the Abe Lincoln, opportunities for guys to look like weenies by growing bizarre things on their faces abound.
"If he looks ridiculous (and, God forbid, the beard is starting to act as a pantry for assorted foodstuffs) state kindly but unequivocally that it needs to go," says Kalb. The thinking being that often we "assist" men with poor fashion sense by replacing offensive items in their wardrobes – so why not expand that role to his visage?
"Someone needs to make sure he doesn't become Creepy Beard Guy," cautions Kalb. "As the woman in his life, that job has your name on it."
What do you think: Is painful facial hair something you can live with? Is it polite to ask that he mow his face for the sake of your psyche and your skin?












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Monday 29 March
By Rachel @ Tech Coquette
Beard burn is annoying, but I'd rather get burned from a sexy lumberjack's beard than a hipster mustache... just sayin.
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Monday 29 March
By kiersten
I thought I had herpes because I broke out with a disgusting rash all over my lips right after I started dating my boyfriend. I went to the doctor, and he asked me a few questions and determined it was his beard that was giving me the rash! My guy was really nice about it -- I explained the situation and he offered to shave it off, no questions asked. Of course, he cheated on me a few months later, so it didn't really matter in the end. Moral of the story, beards can cause a LOT of pain and discomfort...but so can douchey boyfriends.
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Monday 29 March
By Jamie
Ouch. I've dated a couple guys that I've had this problem with. Interestingly, neither of these was a guy that actually had a beard. Their general morning stubble was just painfully scratchy. I dated one for quite a while, and went though the lengths of getting him some Burt's Bees shave cream (before he just shaved with water because he wanted to be organic) to help soften the stubble, and even offered to get him a shave mug, soap, and brush because I heard using a brush led to a closer shave.
I won't say that the stubble was THE cause of our breakup, but it certainly didn't help our intimacy at all. Between a red burning face from making out, or not being able to relax when he was, ahem, under the sheets (you think stubble is painful on the face!)....Things were just uncomfortable.
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Tuesday 30 March
By Cecilia
OMG I've been trying to get my bf to shave regularly for like, months now. I hate having to go home with my face throbbing, and having irritated skin the next day. Not to mention the slight peeling since my skin is already so sensitive. Oh and also, going home to a painfully traditional mother and trying to hide the redness kinda sucks. Good grief boys, get it together.
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Tuesday 30 March
By shavereview
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Wednesday 31 March
By chrissy
My boyfriend likes to rock the small chin beard/ soul patch/ chin fuzz. It gives a masculine feel to his baby face. He is allowed to have that and I really like it on him, however, when him and i are spending time together, the rest of the stubble has to go. Getting poked in the face by a four day old mustache is not fun. I even bought him a nice razor and a special conditioning shave cream called coochy. The name is ridiculous but never before has he had such a smooth shave. The stubble is dirty looking and painful. Get rid of it.
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Wednesday 31 March
By Single City Guy
I had this issue creep up. I realize that there's a lot of truth to this - as you've mentioned maybe using cream or conditioner to help. I've also learned that trimming before seeing a person you're going to date can make the situation worse.
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Wednesday 31 March
By Mary
My BF is Turkish, so yes, the five-o'clock shadow facial hair caused a problem (I'm a very, very fair skinned Northern European type) but he took no offense. He loves my soft (due to never going in the sun) smooth, pale as hell skin, so he shaves before make out sessions. It was bad in the beginning: during a bad patch of cold, cold weather, and loads of snow, my face was totally red! I explained to him I had been through this in college with a Greek guy. It's all resolved now. Just tell the guy. He will not be offended. Guys loves soft, feminine skin.
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Friday 02 April
By Chrissy
I am a beard-o-philiac, rare I guess from the sounds of it. I love my man's facial hair and the different ways he experiments with his look. So sexy! If a guy wants a beard, what's the big deal? If the tables were turned, say for example, he was complaining about your foundation rubbing off on his clothes, would you stop wearing makeup?
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Tuesday 06 April
By not so bad
i always swore that all my boyfriends would be clean shaven because i could not imagine kissing a guy with a beard....but my current boyfriend has a beard and a mustache and its okay....i think its the fact that he takes a lot time to condition it and keep it trimmed which makes it not so bad :-)
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Tuesday 14 September
By Jen
lmao...even before we got married i would tell my hubby to save or i wasn't kissing him, straight out. no beating around the bush, so to speak. now he has to be clean shaven for work (new policy) and saves every other day. on his days off i he gets a reprieve but if it get too scratchy for me i'll say something fast.
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Monday 11 April
By Nick
I normally grow a light beard or goatee. My wife has all of a sudden decided she hates it and is listening to some web sites advice like this of no kissing or nookie till he shaves. I'm thinking of leaving her because this is making no one happy and I look ugly as hell without facial hair, seem to make a lot of faces that remind me of the simpsons without it. It really knocks my confidence down to not have it. Great advice, for ruining a marriage... Thanks, and hopefully you other women out there don't listen to this crap. Not if you value your marriage and your spouses mental well being.
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