Like moisturizer with built-in sunblock, having your date take his place on the street side of the sidewalk as the two of you are strolling along isn't exactly essential but, you know, it can be nice.If nothing else, you have a built-in shield that keeps you from getting splashed by a jerky driver who considers speed limits mere suggestions, getting clocked in the head by some idiot with poor depth perception who's transporting 2-by-4s out the window, or getting nabbed by potential kidnappers screeching up next to you in an unmarked, late-model van. Just saying.
But what we really wondered was: When did this charming custom first emerge?
Can you imagine the conversation at that point in the date?
"I'm really looking forward to this drawing and quartering, Young Gawain."
"As am I, but, oh my, you seem to have some excrement on your petticoat."
Romantic! Later, the danger was getting one's trussings splashed by a runaway horse and buggy, but the idea remained the same.
Thankfully, today such hazards are fewer and farther between. So does it really still matter if a guy walks on the outside of the sidewalk? Even among etiquette experts, opinion on this burning issue is divided. While Miss Manners assures us in her tome "Miss Manners Guide to the Turn-of-the-Millennium," "When they are walking outdoors, American ladies take the curb," formidable etiquette expert Emily Post counters: "These days, it doesn't matter who is walking on the street side of the sidewalk." Do we smell a prim and proper slap fight brewing?
In a recent poll, 48 percent of modern American woman felt that a guy not walking curbside is by no means a deal-breaker, though they did think it was "sweet" if he did.
What do you think: Should the custom go the way of horse and buggies, or does it still make your modern-day heart skip a beat?
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Tuesday 16 March
By rachel
As a little girl growing up and still to this day, (i'm now in my late 20's and married) my father always insisted that he walk curb-side beside me. I wish more men were as "classy," for lack of a better word, as my Dad. I had to train my husband to do this along with chewing with his mouth closed.
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Tuesday 16 March
By Fullt Est
I don't care for some modern rationalization that can 'release me' from being a gentleman. Did Emily Post miss the lesson on the proper care of a lady in the company of a gentleman? The Men who don't 'get it ' are doomed to be ordinary men and are likely ordinary in many other regards. We don't do good turns to expect good 'returns'; we do it because the protective nature of caring for another person compels us to. It is sad that many women automatically release their man from this minor form of respectful consiration may deserve only what they have settled for and the other cause belongs to the man who does not show his lady that he cares enough....to show it.
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Tuesday 16 March
By Fullt Est
I don't care for some modern rationalization that can 'release me'
from being a gentleman. Did Emily Post miss the lesson on the proper
care of a lady in the company of a gentleman? The Men who don't 'get
it ' are doomed to be ordinary men and are likely ordinary in many
other regards. We behave like a gentlemen but not to expect good 'returns'; we do it because it is our sacred duty to be protective and caring for another person. It is sad that so many women automatically release their man from
this minor form of respectful consideration; they may deserve only what they
have settled for. It is a sad development that some men will not be able to model for their sons those courtesies which simply allow them to be more of a man.
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Tuesday 16 March
By JOHNPOTOCZAKCCA
theres more to the whole walking on the curbside thing yeah we do it to protect you from getting splashed. But more over we do it to protect our girl from danger.
Like for instance if a car were to jump the curb we as men can push you to the side and away from harm even if that means risking our own lives
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Tuesday 16 March
By marjorum
When I was a little girl before I was in school my Dad had a traveling job with GE that required him to be all over the country for 3 weeks to 2 months in a single place. We lived in hotels ( there weren't any motels then.) Every night after dinner, we went for a walk through whatever city we happened to be in. My Dad was always on the curb side. If we crossed a street, he would always resume his position on the curb, my mother in the middle, and me on the inside. There was never a doubt that my Dad loved my mother very much. Their marriage lasted 55 years until he died.
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Tuesday 16 March
By Thom
How unfortunate that chivalry, while not dead, is apparently highly unappreciated. Is it any reason that men have stopped being chivalrous when the reactions from women tend to be either nonchalance to downright derision. I still open the door for others (when I can) and continue to hold the door for both sexes if possible. Amazingly, fewer and fewer even say "thank you". Most seem to parade right on in pushing someone down who is making the attempt to be nice. It is a sad commentary on the way society is slipping.
While I agree that perhaps some of our actions may no longer apply, they certainly do make life more tolerable. Life becomes more and more dog eat dog, when we forget which fork to use when eating from the can.
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Tuesday 16 March
By Lisa
I was so glad to see this article. I've been with my husband for 5 years and he always walks on the street side of a sidewalk for my protection. He explained the purpose to me, but I had not seen it in writing until this article. So glad to hear that others do this as well. Is it expected of men these days? No. Is it a really sweet gesture? Absolutely. I'm a professional woman who can take care of myself, but it's still nice to know that someone's looking out for me. Here's to all you gentlemen out there!
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Tuesday 16 March
By gavin
Honey, We are all happy that you finally found a man who would do you. We are even happier that you are taking care of all of his friends as well. Please spend more time with these guys who are much older than you admit and away from these forums.
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Tuesday 16 March
By dave
Women should walk ten feet in front of the man, in case of landminds
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Tuesday 16 March
By cact25
This is definitely out of date. I was taught this when I was young and it made sense then. Now it makes much more sense for the woman to be streetside as you are more likely to be grabbed by someone in a doorway or an alley, than by someone ina vehicle. Streetside is safer for the woman.
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Tuesday 16 March
By sean murry
i was taught by my dad to do this i always do it for my girlfriend.
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Tuesday 16 March
By BC
It's the shame of our society that the little courtesies are falling into disrepute. Emily Post missed the mark when she said it didn't matter. Miss Manners totally blew it by stating that "American ladies take the curb." My mother (widowed mother of 5 boys and a girl) taught us that a gentleman walked on the curb side to protect the lady from being splashed by passing vehicles. She taught us that gentlement hold the chair for a lady, sat the lady first, and held doors for others. Some years ago I held the door for a woman who approached it at about the same time I did. She haughtily proclaimed "You didn't have to hold the door for me because I am a lady." I told her "I didn't. I held the door for you because I am a gentleman." When someone extends to me a small courtesy such as that, I always smile and say "Thank you." Having developed the habit of extending these courtesies at a young age, it is second nature to me.
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Tuesday 08 June
By Tammy
I like him to walk on the curbside so I can have a clear view to windowshop. ;-)
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Tuesday 16 March
By Judi
I have three daughters, 23. 28 and 30. They grew up with a step dad that opened the doors for them, pulled out chairs and offered a hankie if they cryed. They expect men now to do the same, and surprisedly....lots of guys out there have been brought up by their dads to do the same. In exchange they have have some very beautiful, self supportive and loving girlfriends. Good things never change.
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Tuesday 16 March
By Beverly
A man who feels protective affection toward a woman will subconsciously place her on his weaker side in order to have his stronger side free to protect her. A man who is just interested in feeling her up will place her on his stronger side. So says the most practical female in the world, a.k.a. My Mother. LOL
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Tuesday 16 March
By Grace
I share the same views as JoeV & Mickey , which was taught to the males in the family back in my country (Puerto Rico). When the man finds himself on the in side he says "Let me get on the curv side so they wont think I'm selling you"... Very gentleman like if you ask me!!!!!!!
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Tuesday 16 March
By Steve
I was raised as a gentleman...and taught to walk on the street side of the sidewalk. However, in this day and age of 'drive by' shootings...I'm rethinking my position.
Hey, I'm just sayin'......If she isn't willing to take a bullet for me.......
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Tuesday 16 March
By gs
walk?
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Tuesday 16 March
By Chaz
My father taught me many courtesies to accord women. Protecting them from hazards of traffic was one of them. I will always respect what he taught me.
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Tuesday 16 March
By Ray Troxell
I have no hearing with my right ear, so I stay on my companions right regardless of curbs.
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