Like moisturizer with built-in sunblock, having your date take his place on the street side of the sidewalk as the two of you are strolling along isn't exactly essential but, you know, it can be nice.If nothing else, you have a built-in shield that keeps you from getting splashed by a jerky driver who considers speed limits mere suggestions, getting clocked in the head by some idiot with poor depth perception who's transporting 2-by-4s out the window, or getting nabbed by potential kidnappers screeching up next to you in an unmarked, late-model van. Just saying.
But what we really wondered was: When did this charming custom first emerge?
Can you imagine the conversation at that point in the date?
"I'm really looking forward to this drawing and quartering, Young Gawain."
"As am I, but, oh my, you seem to have some excrement on your petticoat."
Romantic! Later, the danger was getting one's trussings splashed by a runaway horse and buggy, but the idea remained the same.
Thankfully, today such hazards are fewer and farther between. So does it really still matter if a guy walks on the outside of the sidewalk? Even among etiquette experts, opinion on this burning issue is divided. While Miss Manners assures us in her tome "Miss Manners Guide to the Turn-of-the-Millennium," "When they are walking outdoors, American ladies take the curb," formidable etiquette expert Emily Post counters: "These days, it doesn't matter who is walking on the street side of the sidewalk." Do we smell a prim and proper slap fight brewing?
In a recent poll, 48 percent of modern American woman felt that a guy not walking curbside is by no means a deal-breaker, though they did think it was "sweet" if he did.
What do you think: Should the custom go the way of horse and buggies, or does it still make your modern-day heart skip a beat?
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Monday 15 March
By Laura
um... seriously? (a) I wouldn't even notice if a guy did walk on the street side. Unless of course we crossed the street and he switched sides on me or something. (b) I've never heard of this and (c) even if I did notice, no - it wouldn't earn him points. I'd probably be more pissed than anything.
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Sunday 04 April
By izityermove
Pissed? Because he cared enough to be considerate? Wow! You know, not every kindness means that you, as a woman, are disrespected. Hope you stay single so as not to reproduce and infect your ill-fated daughters with your venom!
Monday 15 March
By Mark
Laura, really?! You would get pissed off if he tried to walk on the curbside? I can understand not caring but why in the world would this anger you?
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Tuesday 16 March
By Jennifer
I am lucky enough to be married to a true Southern gentleman who always walks on the curb side. Early in our relationship, I questioned why and he explained that he wanted to make sure he protected his sweetie. AWWWWWWWWWWWWW
Now I know the real reason...he did not want me to smell like sh$%.
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Tuesday 16 March
By Ian Tripps
Jenn,
While I was not aware of the archaic reason for this courtesy, I was taught a gentleman walks streetside to protect a lady from puddles or traffic, etc. It is one of the things a father teaches a son on his way to manhood, like how to light a ladies cigarette or how to kiss. Unfortunately, we are living in a bastard society where boys never learn what a man REALLY is. They get their cues from "Jersey Shore" which is a disgrace to Jersey as much as the Sopranos. Gotta go but glad you have a real man in your life. Treat him well. Tripps
Thursday 18 March
By obscure323
@ Ian Tripps: Well Ian, we also live in a gold digger society in which these traps nowadays don't know how to be REAL women either. As far as I'm concerned, the curb thing is stupid. We live in a post-women's revolution society so I figure she has just as much right to get wet or hit by a car as I do. I don't know about u fools, but I would not die for some random chick on a date. The flip side to this is my wife, of course. I open doors for her, not because she is a woman, but because I love her and it's one of the small things I can do to show her that. Sexism goes both ways everybody! Women=Men
Wednesday 17 March
By Robbie Greenway
Then I must Still Be A Southern Gentleman....Cause I Have Been Doing That For
39yrs. and still opening doors to let a lady go first.
JUST CALL ME OLD FASHION......But I stiil do
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Tuesday 16 March
By Mike
A man should walk on the side that has more danger. If in a city that has narrow sidewalks and lots of dark alleys then walk next to the alleys if the sidewalk is wide but the street has a lot of traffic or is wet walk next to the street.
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Sunday 21 March
By Jenny
Best reply so far!
Tuesday 16 March
By Joe V
44 and was raised to walk on the curbside, open doors, offer my seat, ect..
I am so glad I am married because I would be lost in todays world where it is not the norm but the exception. Even if my wife is fighting with me I still open her door or walk curbside. There is nothing worse then going to open a ladies door and she is offended at your efforts.
I always thought of it as a sign of respect toward woman since they are truly God sent!
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Wednesday 17 March
By Charlie
How I deal with opening doors for feminists (those who say something negative about my actions)
She: I can open my own doors.
ME: I didn't open the door for you, I did it for my mother, grandmother, my wife and my daughter as I was taught as a young boy that is what real men do for ladies.
Wednesday 17 March
By Veronica
Reading this article and it's comments...I am even more appreciative for the male friends that I have. They all for the most part do the same (and I'm under thirty!). It's refreshing to hear men taking so much care and pride when it comes to the women in their lives, or just women in general. I've seen so much disrespect in my time that when I'm NOT with them, it's like night and day. I would much rather have a man hold the door for me than to let it hit me as he knocks me to the side and jumps in front(at which point I showed him a thing or two :-D).
Tuesday 16 March
By Mickey
There is also another spin on this tale. Loose women of the night were also working at the time. The boss would walk on the inside to show off the wares he was trying to sell. If the woman was not loose she walked on the inside away from curbside to show that she was married, proper or spoken for and the gentleman walked the outside to provide protection and let others know she was not available.
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Tuesday 16 March
By Joe V
Actually Mickey, that was the version I was raised on by my father. Interesting share, thanks!
Tuesday 16 March
By H. Hill
This was the reason my father gave me as we walked down a sidewalk one day years ago, he pulled me over so he could be street side and told me a lady never walks curbside....lol
Tuesday 16 March
By Richard
That is exactly one of the things I was taught plus the protection and courtesy reasons others describe
Tuesday 16 March
By AZ_QT
I agree 100%. I remember my dad telling me exactly the same thing. In fact, he even told us that walking closer to the curb, even if you're alone, could be perceived as if you're 'putting yourself out there'. My husband was raised to think the same way.
Wednesday 17 March
By leolux10
Hey Mickey! You beat me to it! XD I was always taught that a man should never leave his woman walking curbside, because it gives the image that she's up for grabs. No woman wants to be "offered", or even feel that way.
I practice this act of chivalry all the time. It's a "man thing".
Thursday 18 March
By ron
agree,but in those days you could tell whether a woman and the boss,was different from the others by their actions!
Tuesday 16 March
By The Truth of It
The man should keep the woman on his left side if he is right-handed, and on his right side if he's a southpaw. Why? Because if danger comes, it's more likely come in the form of another man than inadvertently flung poo, and our hero must be able to draw his gun unimpeded. Any questions?
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