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If one of your friends is bragging that she "had sex" with some guy, bear in mind you might actually not have any idea what she's talking about before you give her a high-five.According to new research from the Kinsey Institute, nobody can agree on what "sex" actually means. A representative sample of men and women age 18–96 was asked whether the fact that a man was wearing a condom, or a woman had an orgasm, determined whether an act was sex or not sex. There was no consensus.
Gender did not matter much, but age seemed to make a big difference. For instance, only 77 percent of men age 65 and older would define penile-vaginal congress as "sex." (Really? What would you call it, Old People?)
Overall: 95 percent of respondents define sex as intercourse, but only when there's ejaculation. (If a guy doesn't get off, only 89 percent believe it's real, live nookie.) 81 percent considered anal sex intercourse. And an average of 72 percent of men and women considered giving or receiving oral sex "sex."
So maybe the next time you ask somebody how many partners he's had, you might also want to ask exactly what his idea of sex entails. Even if he's 96 and should really know better.
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Friday 05 March
By rickkgoh
Sex is considered of any kind of penetration, either from oral, anal or vaginal. Kissing and caressing in naked should only be considered as love play
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Saturday 06 March
By Kenneth Marino
I wish my now wife had been told that only penetratiion was sex. I guess that answers the reason that young girls are giving blow jobs. If they know that they cannot get prego, it is okay. But does that mean that a man forces you sister, daughter or other female relative give him a BJ, cannot be charged with rape?
Sunday 07 March
By Joe Chicago
All I have to say is, "I did not have sexual relations with that woman..."
Saturday 06 March
By victoria
I'mma say on here what I say to all my friends that are clearly confused about what sex is:
If something enters you, then it's sex. Whether its a penis, a finger, a tongue, or an inanimate object.
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Wednesday 10 March
By Lupe
I agree. Any part of a man that enters an intimate part of a woman, is sex.
Saturday 06 March
By gardenlobster
If you can catch a disease from it, it's sex. My husband and I have this argument off and on. He claims he was a virgin when we got married even though he had given and received oral with a few girls prior to us. I always say, "well, do lesbians have sex?" The answer is yes. They're getting off, for one, and for another, STD's can be passed via oral. I work at a hospital and you wouldn't believe the number of girls that come in with gonorrhea in their mouth and throat, and the parents insist their kid is a virgin and they can't possibly have venereal disease. Sorry, Mom, but she may have her hymen, but she's not innocent. She got it from one guy and can pass it to another. Sexually transmitted means transmitted by sexual activity, and oral counts. Anal sex is sex, oral sex is sex, vaginal sex is sex. Sex toys are for sex. The key word there is sex.
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Monday 08 March
By DrCastellanos
This is an important subject to discuss because more and more, teenagers are deciding to have anal sex in order to "not have sex." Sex exists on a spectrum of behavior, but religion and biology have their own strict definitions. Of course, as humans, our sex lives are much more complicated than that of the animals. Check out my post on this very subject at:
http://reclaimyoursexuality.blogspot.com/2009/11/what-is-sex-anyway.html
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Tuesday 09 March
By a_new_renee
Lets look at this realistically... first we're talking about anal SEX and oral SEX. That pretty much sums it up for me, I mean if it has the word sex behind it then its sex. The touching, licking, sucking, and penetration of a nether oriface should be considered sex. I think that arguments about whether anal or oral are actually sex were probably started by someone who cheated and told their partner that it wasnt actually sex b/c there was no penile/vaginal penetration. Any sexual contact between two people(barring the obvious nursing mothers, obgyn visits and intimate piercing-and thats pushing it-) constitues sex. Get a grip and get a clue people and grow up already sheesh!
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Wednesday 10 March
By EMILY
If a man ejaculates .. then thats sex.. no matter how its done .. its sex
and really ladies.. how many times do we really get that *ohmygoodness...ohmygod!!!!* toe-curling moment ... so if we had to go by that counting tactic... hell most of us aint never had sex.
=)
-Em
Straight or gay... Anal or Oral ... if he comes then its done.
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Wednesday 10 March
By Dave
Keneth marino, the answer is yes. Rape is mostly a 'movie" term. most states call it saxual assault. so, if a man or woman is force to do sexual performance with the mouth, it would be sexual assault, a.k.a. rape
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Wednesday 10 March
By tyrebitre
"most states call it saxual assault. so,"
Do different states have different penalties for using an alto or a tenor sax ? I would actually consider having to listen to more than 3 seconds of Kenny G as "saxual assault" and think it should be a capital offense.
Wednesday 10 March
By Elena
Also to KENETH MARION: The man would be charge with sodomy. The definition of sodomy is a sexual act that cannot result in the conception of a child. So whether it is oral or anal the charge would be sodomy.
Wednesday 10 March
By tyrebitre
If it doesn't involve dwarfs, watermelons, something wired at least 220 if not 3-phase, a Cummings diesel, several rolls of visqueen, a salad shooter, at least one endangered species, the fire department, mayonnaise, and Coco Puffs and culminate in someone having to either post bail or get a ride in an ambulance, it may technically be sex but you aren't doing it right.
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Thursday 18 March
By WWW.CUPIDONSEXTOYS.COM
of course it counts!!
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Monday 22 March
By GreenEyes
I agree with a-new-renee. In my opinion, anyone who says it's not sex if there is no penile/vaginal penetration is nit-picking. I believe any sexual contact signifies intent, and intent is everything. If the person is single, and not in a committed relationship, fine. But---if they are married or in a committed relationship and they have any sexual contact at all with someone else, that's cheating. It doesn't have to be sex to the finish line, either. Kissing and I'm talking about a friendly peck on the cheek here, I'm talking about a lovers' kiss, touching, etc., is all sexual contact. To say otherwise is just an excuse to try and get away with it. Oral sex is extremely intimate, to say the least. So is anal sex. If someone does have oral or anal sex with someone else when they're married or committed to someone, just try having them explain to their spouse or signigicant other that "it wasn't really sex." Ha!
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Monday 22 March
By paul guzman
I WAS BORN IN THE COUNTRY OF ECUADOR.
I WISH KNOW WOMEN FOR RELATIONSHIP PREFERRED OF EUROPEAN NATIONALITY OR MAYBE AMERICAN.
SEND ME EMAIL PLEASE.
I LIVE IN THE COUNTRY OF ECUADOR.
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Tuesday 23 March
By richard
I lived in Ecuador also but I'm not so stupid as to think living there will somehow motivate someone to contact me to have sex...... well maybe a BJ and we all know from ol Bill C. that isn't sex!
In BB times, Before Bill, oral/cigars penetration etc was probably considered sex my most but since the I did not have sex with her, just got a BJ and diddled her with the cigar a bit..... it is now just vaginal/anal penetration is actually sex. The rest is just sexing up and sex acts but not actually sex.... although it maybe sodomy if forced.
Go Bill and thanks to the Dems for something good
Saturday 17 April
By sami
sex video sex
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Sunday 18 April
By Natalie
It's sex if a part of man enters a woman -.-
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Sunday 25 September
By CanadianBill
so.. it's sex when I stick my pinky into my wifes ear to give her a wet willy? well hell.. I've been having sex since I was a kid