There are no stupid questions when it comes to sex, and with Valentine's Day around the corner, we figured having a clinical sexologist answer your most perplexing questions about all things conjugal would be the best gift we could give you.We've got our expert -- Ian Kerner, PhD, author of "She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman" -- and now we need to know what you want to know.
Role play? Oral sex? How to talk dirty? More orgasms, please?
Ask away in the comments. Then we'll pick our favorites and have Kerner answer them for you, so be sure to check back next week.
Don't be shy -- you can create an anonymous commenting handle so nobody will know your business. Besides, there's no such thing as too embarrassing around these parts.
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Thursday 28 January
By dldm11098
My husband and I haven't had sex in 6 months (since our honeymoon). I want it, but every time I try and initiate it or tell him I want it, he says no. Anything I can do?
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Thursday 28 January
By Jen
Thats a problem! There is no reason for that.. Oh well plessure yourself/...
Tuesday 02 February
By Bee
File for divorce.
Thursday 04 February
By ed
don't take this prsnl if you guys started hot and horny you should continue hot /horny. question I wan't to asked is are you over weight ?and I don't mean having an hourglass shape small, brst, wide ass and a belly pooch? I still don't mean not bad shaped lrg brst, small ass and bell pooch from having a babby. I'm saying this because he's not saying it. I'm not talking about magazine shape women, nor ladies. I'm talking about average shape women who may have belly pooch's hide it very well than the hoochy ( no disrespect to them because I learned from a well out going women that took the time to show me how to satisfy the women cumming first ! ) if non of the above then then mabe you have more vagina then he can admit to handle... ( : ... / just giving women props of the V,J,J../ are , like myself penis size, makes a difference no matter how much women say's it's not. or some don't say at all. but I still at will make the women cum first. mabe he's depressed lastly. he's all sexed out from his misstress, and I hope not may have gotten burned. it your guy is near his 20's some are still taking chances. and I hope not. my situation is different in your case you'll be freaked and wet for no reason. reply also at frumbecentral@aol.com PS. I hope it get worked out.
Saturday 06 February
By Beverly
You need to tell him to sit down with you and tell you what's wrong, because this is not normal behavior for any man, let alone one who is only married 6 months. He owes it to you to explain his reason(s) for his lack of desire for you. I'm wondering how long you knew him before you married him? His love and desire should not depend on whether or not you have a good figure, or are skinny, or are overweight. Love is not measured in pounds and inches. Love comes from somewhere inside a person, and people who think otherwise need to grow up. It's not all about looks; it's when you look into each others' eyes and there's that chemistry and electricity going on that isn't there with anyone else. If sexual desire was just all about looks, then how is it that couples who have been married 40 years still love and desire each other? Yes, it does exist. You grow old together and accept the inroads of time on each others' faces and bodies. So, he needs to open up to you about what's going on in his head, and immediately. If he refuses, I don't see how the marriage can continue. You deserve someone who loves and wants you as much as you love and want him, and you don't need someone in your life who makes you feel ugly, undesirable, and makes a beggar out of you. The comment, "Just pleasure yourself," made by Jen, is ridiculous, because it isn't facing your problem. It's a flippant answer to a serious issue you're dealing with. Your whole marriage is at stake here. He must tell you the truth, or he leaves you no choice but to end your marriage, regardless of your love for him. You cannot spend the rest of your life like this and I know you realize this. Good luck to you.
Thursday 28 January
By Juliana
I always get so turned on and ready to go - but i get going and as soon as I finish I'm just bored after words and don't want to continue. Being a female I get really embarrised when I come too quickly and then can't continue to perform.
What can I do to to keep the endurance?
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Monday 08 February
By edwardo
re-juliana
i have the same problem with my wife just by saying sex she gets all wet and ready , if i go down on her shes finished in less then 4 minutes ,penetration 5 to 10 min never more,and then iam left to hurry up get it done. sucks. i read over and over that women want a man to last as long as possible is it all bull shit? ready to look for a women that can handle me for a couple hours.
Thursday 28 January
By Sexy Times
I have been examined by a doctor and all is a-okay with my lady parts but I still feel pain when I have sex. The pain feels further up, close to my cervix and it can get so bad that I want to quit halfway through knockin' boots. The doc hinted that it could be that my boink buddy is well endowed (affirmative)... what can we do so I'm moaning from pleasure, not pain.
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Friday 29 January
By Gwen
You can get a rubber cock ring that fits at the base of the penis. If it is thick enough, he won't be able to go all the way into you. Also, have you tried telling him not to go in so deep?
Thursday 04 February
By ed
i would like to be in that gent's shoe's.. i had women friends who had this problem and, let him know the problem, and as horny as you may get the horny your man get. i wish my women did, and im a regular guy. but have no problems in the boots knocking. your probly told that you'r dry at times need to get ton's of lube. just jokeing (lube will help than take a day both of you and intimately drop that sweet lady by tyress, ( the screwd @ chopped cut) and see how much of him you can take. do this slowly and fully lubed up you/him lube yourselves together you do him and he do you, don't let him automatically put his lubed fingr/ are fingers inside you as he's doing this, most time guy's to eager to hit it and everything go out the window and solve nothing. and you miss lady don't go to freak mode getting man all hot and he stroke you'r back out. as he's on top take one hand with lube on the fingers of your choosing or both hands stroke him as you look in each other's eyes lick you'r lips kiss him still stroking his ( jimmy) your hands give you and him the judgement of how ( deep is you'r love ) at which while you are doing this with you stroking him down there and remember don't for get to touch yourself if he see you touching yourself ( your vj ) and moaning constantly he'll mentally prejudge how deep he go. in time you'll be well on you'r way of sexual comfort thats another thing his stroke needs to be shorter when he's on top he's in there real deep, when you're on top your taking too much of the stroke you can't handle. that's a good thing to wan't your man as he do you . this time take it easy show him while on top how much you can take with out hurtting, and again when he's on top. keeping the lube , cause if you are, your mouth will be too dry to keep, so the lube is handy, thats also my ladys problem needing wetness, we guy's hear moaning from our women as Kriptonite( if misspelled forgive me) for some of us we love you for it helps us to climax. some climax sooner than others but it helps, this excercise can be done dogg-style also reply frumbecentral@aol.com
Sunday 14 February
By M
I used to have that problem, and I figured out that my birth control was causing the pain. Some birth control pills can dry you out and make sex incredibly painful. I would look into switching pills...
Thursday 28 January
By afansaad
Thank you for the interest. I appreciate the Lemon Drop for coming with this idea when the valentine day is near.
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Thursday 28 January
By gwen
do guys have an equivalent to a girls quefe?
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Thursday 28 January
By victoria
how do you prepare yourself for your first time? (especially without telling your partner that it is, in fact, your first time?)
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Friday 29 January
By DrCastellanos
For Victoria....Why wouldn't you want your partner to know it's your first time? One of the best ways to prepare yourself for your first time is by having a trusting and honest relationship with a partner that has your best interests in mind. If you are trying to conceal such a detail from him, you are starting off by having secrets or deception. Why would you want this to be the foundation of your relationship with him?
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Tuesday 16 February
By Jackie :)
I agree with the comment before mine. If you want to have an honest relationship you can't go about it that way, and why would you want to it's a very important decision. And you can never take it back.
Friday 29 January
By Moe
My relationship with my husband started off as a sexual fling, and sex was a top priority for quite some time. Fast forward to years later, and we're constantly fighting because he can't keep up with my needs. Is it normal for married couples to engage in sex once a week or less? My expectations are stuck as they were years ago, and I don't see the problem with wanting it at least every other night. Also, could a large age gap be a contributing factor?
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Friday 29 January
By Melissa
I'm in a similar situation to Moe's and I also have stuck expectations, except there is only a five year age difference in my case. I I want to here more about this topic!
Tuesday 02 February
By jackie
When you say "sexual fling" do you mean like a cheating type situation? If so, it is not uncommon for the lust to die down when the cheating factor goes away.
Friday 29 January
By Richard Rehm
How do I initiate sex for a new partner? Iam shy and not aggressive, and so I don't get any sex, except 'off hand' ! Help!
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