Sure, it's cheaper to live with roommates, and a live-in boyfriend or husband is useful for late-night plumbing drama and other disasters. But there's something utterly satisfying about living on your own, even if it's in a crappy studio apartment the size of a shoebox. Here's why we think it's the best.
(Completely disagree? Next week we'll tell you why having roommates rules. We're fickle that way.)
5. No bickering over chores. I've had roommates who felt judged every time I picked up the Swiffer. ("You're cleaning again? I just did that last week.") On the flip side, I've also had roommates who bitched about a few stray hairs on the rug, making me feel like they're going to suggest that I should go on "Hoarders."
When you upgrade to your own pad, you can be as clean or as messy as you want. And when you find laundry piling up in the hallway or a half-eaten bagel under the couch (yuck), you never have to wonder whose it is or worry that someone is going to rat you out to the Secret Roommate Police.
4. The option to wear what you want, when you want. If you live alone and you want to wear sweatpants, curlers, and a self-heating facial mask on a Friday night, you can do so without getting looks of pity (or confusion). You can't do that with a roommate or a boyfriend around. Heck, if you want to walk around your apartment stark naked, you totally could without worrying that your roomie's smoking-hot boyfriend will pop by unannounced (just make sure you put on clothes when the FedEx guy buzzes). Believe me, it's the kind of luxury you don't even think about until you live alone.
3. No one to judge your taste in movies. I once left my "8 Minute Abs" DVD in the living room and a roommate asked if it was porn -- because you know I love leaving that stuff in plain view. Now I don't have to worry about someone "borrowing" my DVDs or rolling their eyes over some cheesy reality show I happen to really like. The same goes for my taste in food, music and, yes, even the men I bring home.
2. The freedom to take ridiculously long showers. I once lived in an apartment with four women and one bathroom. Weekday morning showers were scheduled down to the minute to ensure that everyone got to work on time. Now I don't have to worry about water pressure or roommates who desperately need to pee or walking in on someone's boyfriend in the middle of the night (awkward!).
1. The ability to create whatever vibe you want. Best of all, living on your own means you have the freedom to have exactly the kind of living space you want. You can rearrange the furniture on a whim, splurge on a nice couch without worrying about your roommate's cat clawing it, sing along to ABBA while you make dinner, or leave your Christmas lights up until April just because they make you happy. That kind of autonomy is both refreshing and empowering.
What about you? What do you love (or hate) about solo living?
Susan Johnston is a blogger/writer in Boston. Check out her musings on the fabulous freelance life at The Urban Muse.
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Tuesday 12 January
By L
i used to live with three girls all on a constant and eternal diet so they refused to buy anything that wasn't labeled "light" or "diet" yet my ice cream and chips would misteriously dissapear all the time! they would buy soda because it gave them cellullite but then my 24 can case of diet coke... barely made it to the fridge, i would have one can and then that was it. they would to dissapear!
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Thursday 14 January
By Anna
I used to have roommates who were total slobs themselves, but would complain if I left a stray hair on the bathroom sink counter. One of them was really bad, she refused to do the dishes or take out the trash, or even pick up her belongings from the living room floor, but one night she threatened violence because she wanted me to take out the trash.
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Thursday 14 January
By Freesprirt
had roommates for years (male & female) I would never go back. I love that I don't have to explain to anyone why I'm home on a sat nite. Walk around naked,you bet!, stay in bed until noon, why not?
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Thursday 14 January
By tanya
Forget roommates! Mine just stopped going to work one day! Who's going to pay her rent now! lol No shes gone and its just me and my bf and it couldnt be better!
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Thursday 14 January
By Kimy
Say what you will, but the single greatest thing about living alone is being able to pass gas whenever, and wherever you please. No matter how close I was to whatever roomie I had at the time, I always felt pressure (pun absolutely intended) to wait or move to a more fart friendly zone. Now I have a "Woo hoo for living alone!" moment pretty much every time it happens.
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Monday 18 January
By gamay9
Kimmy: You cracked me up so much that i almost lost my lunch. Now, I have to fart.
Monday 18 January
By gaspasser
you can really crank out some gems to and then admire them try that with a roomate
Monday 18 January
By spectch101
As gross as that sound it is the God's honest truth! We all need to pass gas but rather be alone doing it.
Thursday 14 January
By jk
more reasons to go it alone right here: www.myveryworstroommate.com
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Thursday 14 January
By redcamgirl1
I definitely love living alone, for almost all of the reasons already listed. Love not having to answer to anyone, or clean up behind anyone.
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Thursday 14 January
By emily
I work with a lot of people and I love to come home to peace and quiet. With the exception of a talkative cat, I can listen to myself think or read a fun book and eat popcorn. No need to rush in and try to fix dinner to please. I have lots of wonderful friends and family so being home alone is never lonely.
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Thursday 14 January
By Janice
Living Alone is a Wondeful experience. My husband and I raised 2 wonderful boys. Both are now married and have their own homes. My husband, now ex husand has moved on to his own home and now finally I have the whole house to my self. Not hhaving to cook everynight and pack lunches and tonns of laundrey, I am still walloowing in the FREEDOM of the downsize. I thought I would miss them more but girls, this is Great ** I visit w/them and notice how theydon't leave clothes laying around their house and dishes everyware. When youget home late from work and just the cat comes running, Life is * Great *
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Thursday 14 January
By lbc
The biggest hassle of living alone for me are the leftovers that pile up in the fridge. I love to cook but can't figure out how to downsize recipes for 1or 2 servings. On the other hand I get to have it all if it is really tasty . I also get all the closet space, no arguments about tv. I really loved kimy's post about the flatulation issue. I am a bit that too and it can be a bit tricky with someone else around.
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Friday 15 January
By viciousangel
get a small deep freezer if you don't have alot of freezer space in your fridge, and a good set of tupperware or a foodsaver!! freeze the leftovers in 2 person portions and have great food anytime, with less work.
Friday 15 January
By Rebecca
Dude, it's called a freezer.
Monday 18 January
By briteyez44
I haven't been able to downsize my recipes either - I end up portioning the leftovers and freezing them - quick microwave dinners or lunches
Monday 18 January
By R Reedy
Get this cookbook: " One is Fun" by Delia Smith. All recipes for single servings and delicious. Was a huge best seller in England. I have lived alone for 20 yrs so food waste/leftovers can be a problem. Try this cookbook.
Friday 15 January
By Emily
I live with my fiance and I do all these things and more in front of him.
You can't do those things, I guess, if you're in a new relationship, or a very superficial one, but I'm in neither. Dumb.
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Friday 15 January
By Jenny
OMG, I got laid off (for the 2nd time) last September, & I've had to give up my apt & move in with a relative. It could be a lot worse, I'm grateful. But the things that are different! Wow! Living alone, I could eat out of any container I wanted, not having to worry someone else might want some. ........And yes, the gas issue was a perk! So was walking around in just a tank & underwear (I get warm & uncomfortable too easily), ......and keeping the blinds closed all the time (because of what I wore at home), ......and only hearing whatever music *I* wanted to play, ......and burning scented candles without worrying if anyone else like the scent, ......and not washing dishes much (sorry, but I hate doing that), .....................haha! I could go on and on and on! .......It's more expensive, but SO worth the money to me to live alone! When I am back on my financial feet again, I will again live alone, with the ONLY exception if I find that "perfect" guy for me. :o)
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Monday 18 January
By navygent
Don't feel bad it happens everywhere. You'll get back on your feet again.
I rented a house recently and while I love my g/f, what's mine is hers, I can not..eat in the living room, have mats all over the bathroom floor I guess so I can slip far enough and grab my toothbrush before I land on my arse.
But I've been alone alot in the military, and after a while it gets old, if we meaning the current g/f were not together, I'd eventually find another woman who would as such insist on moving in and rinse, repeat.