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If you've ever felt guilty about faking it because you finally figured out 12-across and really needed to get back to your crossword puzzle ... eh. No biggie. According to one study, at least 25 percent of guys have done it, too.The study was conducted by polling students at the University of Kansas, and found that while women tend to fake orgasm to protect the feelings of their partner, men do it because they just don't feel like having sex anymore -- usually because they're bored, drunk or realize that nothing's going to be happening anytime soon. The easiest way for a guy to fake one during sex was through the use of condoms, because who asks to inspect one of those after it's been "used"?
On the plus side, at least faking it keeps people from ridin' dirty. But couldn't everyone just start being more honest and saying they're bored? Think of all the extra housework that could get done, people. Your dishes could be clean right now.
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Wednesday 06 January
By Liz
Women dont just fake it so as not to hurt the guys feelings..........we also get bored, and if we see that it aint gonna happen,the best thing is to pretend,get it over with and hope it will be better the next time....
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Friday 22 January
By Gil
I personally dont think faking it the "BEST" thing to do....Maybe once in awhile if you really dont want to hurt the guy's feelings (me being one) but I think honesty is a better policy.
Maybe it doesnt work out so well the first time or whatever time, and you fake it to protect his feelings....Well if you're honestly bored, and you never seem to be getting anything out of it the next 12 times, you're going to have to tell him EVENTUALLY "Hey...Not for nothin, I know you're trying, but it just isnt doing it for me.."
You cant fix your mistakes if you dont even know what they are. I've talked to my girlfriend about it and she had been keeping the truth from me for a little while until i caught on and made her be honest with me. Ever since then we havent had a problem.
Gotta knick it in the butt before it even starts =P
Thursday 07 January
By tom
OK, a guy can fake it. HOW? and WHY would he want to?
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Monday 01 February
By hispeed67
just pretend to 'finish' and lay on her. she isn't likely to check her ejaculation to see if it is anything other than pee.
Sunday 10 January
By Brie
I agree w/Liz. One of the main reasons women fake it is because we're bored w/it or know it's not gonna happen. May as well fake the ending rather than just saying, Ok I'm done w/this, lol.
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Wednesday 20 January
By nora boccella
well all I have to say is I fake it, I make it seem much better than it really is, its a win win situation, he feels like a stud and I get to go back to my movie.lol
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Monday 25 January
By Anna
I think what women do can be mislabelled as 'faking it'. I never fake having an orgasm, I may sound like I am but that's just because i'm actually enjoying it.. I just don't need to have an orgasm all the time to enjoy sex, half of the pleasure is in getting my partner off. I don't see the point in faking it, and a guy tried to fake it with me once but it was pretty obvious.
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Saturday 30 January
By angie
i think i have a problem i have only had maybe 2 actual orgasms and the reast of the time i fake it the only kind of orgasm i get are clitoral orgasm y it doesnt matter the size it just doesnt happen y plz tell me
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Saturday 30 January
By Heather
Faking it is acceptable to a point. Sure, we women do it because we're bored/concerned about the guy's confidence level/just want it over with, but at some point it's got to stop. If it's never going to happen with a guy, that's a dealbreaker. You have to have the level and confidence and trust with a person to BOTH have an orgasm.
My fiance told me that he has faked it with other girls, and it really just makes me laugh. Is it just me, or can other women TELL when a guy has an orgasm? With him, I can always feel it.
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Thursday 04 February
By joe
ladies this if for you, ima guy. dont fake it and then tell him u enjoyed it. if we ever found out u faked it that wouldnt be good, a man is only as good as his performance in bed.
TELL US how we can improve or tell us while we are doing it what you like.
guys HATE HATE HATE dishonesty. it wont hurt our feelings if you be honest :)
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Thursday 04 February
By Juice
The only time it makes sense for a woman to fake it is when the dude is really trying to go for hers and she knows its not going to happen. Its likely best for her to just yell it out right there (and if your're worried about "feelings" then tone is everything). Whether dude goes out on a high note or just kind of whimpers away lets you know a little something. Unless the game is on; in that case, you got to commend him for trying to stick with it...
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Friday 05 February
By Mike
As a guy happily married for 25 years I can say I fake it with some regularity. Women have all the power in the bedroom, if you don't want to have sex we are not going to have sex. So if your in the mood and I'm not into it I'm going give it my all anyway because who knows when I may get another chance?
If my wife is being too aggressive and hurts me or if she wants to get me off with no lube and I start getting skin burns I'll fake a finish to get her to stop. And lets be honest here If I told her she was doing something wrong or hurting me It could be weeks or months before she came around again. I know my wife is not special in this. I've heard it from a lot of other guys, we fake it more than you think, you just like to think we can't or that you know us too for us to do that, even as you do it to us.
My wife and I have been married long enough to learn how we act and react, she likes to inflict a little more pain than I care for, I'm not into it but if I don't play along I know there will not be any sex for a long time. So I fake it, she's happy and every other time I get it more or less how I want it. Then I can get back to my movie or work or whatever else I was doing.
Lets face it, guys rarely will say no, most of us do want it more than you do and we are not going to risk pissing you off and getting denied when we do want it latter.
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Wednesday 10 February
By shannon
If you aren't going to have an orgasm during sex don't fake it. you can either not have one or if you have an open sexual dialogue w/your partner you can use a vibrator while having sex. why should the guys be the only ones getting off? I can't climax just from intercourse. It has to be clitoral. My husband almost always makes sure I have an orgasm first, then we have sex. Or sometimes if we have sex & I don't climax I will use a vibrator afterward, We, as a country, are much too uptight about sex. Enjoy yourselves btw the perfect vibrator for use during sex is the eroscillator, it's thin & fits down there perfectly.
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Thursday 11 February
By babymonsta
how can a guy fake an orgasm? really? either you can see the sperm in a condom , or feel it coming out of the vagina or see it any other way!!!! there is no way a guy can fake!!!! unless he has on a condom i guess and runs to the bathroom right away and flushes it!!!! Lol.....this is too funny!!!! I know my husband doesnt he dont need to!!!!
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Monday 15 February
By deksoner
faking it is ez. don't even need a condom, just pull out and spit on her back.
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Wednesday 17 February
By hardon
Well..... why would I fake it? I get so busy trying to push all of her buttons and keeping rhythm that when she finishes I'm not ready yet and after that it is over.
If a woman isn't into it, it isn't fun for me, I'm not talking about screaming raise the roof sex, but just a feeling that she wants it and that I'm the one she wants it from. Sympathy sex doesn't work at all for me.
As for faking it.... KY makes a hell of a mess.
One woman I dated would get offended if I didn't finish, but when we would have sex, the things I liked to do to get warmed up she wasn't into, (oral sex, for both of us) so after she got hers, she would ask what she could do to help me, meaning, do you want me to act bored on top or bottom.
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Sunday 28 August
By Lilly monster
Well i just caught my husband faking it i mean he was drunk but it still upset me i recently gained weight bc of thyroid cancer and this is the first time we had sex infront of a mirror so i feel as though my body turned him off.... even though he says its not me.. idk what to do im pretty heart broken we just got married 2 months ago is it me?
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Tuesday 11 October
By Seamac
No, every guys is in control of his own orgasm, so is every woman, whether or not they want to take responsibility for it. It's nice to have a partner who helps but nobody can really make anyone else feel anything that they didn't *want* to feel in the first place.
It's unreasonable to expect anyone to perform on demand. If one of you is excited and the other isn't, fine you can play along but faking it is a lie like any other and should be replaced by healthy communication.
That isn't to say that you have no role in helping your partner get excited. If you're excited and they aren't and they fake it though, then they're robbing both of you of that opportunity to improve your intimacy, not just robbing themselves.
Ask him what he likes. If he's too self-conscious to admit it, try some really ridiculous things which don't involve his penis. When he realises he's not going to get off that easy (lol) he may be more willing to be honest.
Tuesday 11 October
By Seamac
Guys fake it just as much as women do, and for mostly the same reasons:
1) fear of intimacy.
o Most popular escape route: premature ejaculation (doesn't even feel as strong as a hiccup, most women will get all disappointed and you're off the hook.)
o The Tell: If he's not back up and ready to go in 1-2 minutes after a couple kisses, he's avoiding it.
2) Afraid you'll think something's "wrong with him"
o Most popular escape: Go 'til she's getting close herself, fake ejaculation with a few kegels and moans. After more than a minute or two this can even produce enough juice to fill the tip of a condom.
o The Tell: The juice is clear.
3) Afraid your partner will think she's inadequate
o Most popular escape: same as #2
4) She's a monster, when will it be over? I wanna be able to pee tomorrow, and Xbox is calling!
o Again, #2.
Now the problem is guys, you do #2 often enough and you start to get used to it. After a while you forget what a real orgasm was like, intimacy becomes a lie that gets more and more tiresome, and you find yourself believing that you're impotent (prostate juice has near zero sperm count). Then you cheat and BAM, find out you're not really. lol.
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