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Chicago Sun-Times columnist Cheryl Lavin prefaced her column this Monday with a disclaimer, "Reader Alert! This is my most politically incorrect column ever, and I know I'm going to make a lot of people angry. Having said that ..."
That didn't stop her from telling "Get This Monkey Off My Back" that the answer to his fear of intimacy is to get sexually intimate with a woman with whom he didn't have to be emotionally intimate. "Sexual experience equals confidence equals attraction," Lavin says.
Or it equals a guy with experience who still can't commit to a real relationship and now has a taste for paying for sex. He's paying a woman in a "career" accepted by the psychological and medical community as highly toxic to women. Lavin's disclaimer doesn't make her decision much more comforting when she notes that even where prostitution is illegal, it's still widespread. Is that aiding and abetting in a big-city newspaper?
Whether hiring a hooker will even help "Get this Monkey..." is highly debatable. What a good therapist could do in a few sessions is get to the root of those intimacy issues, maybe even find out if he's gay--hey, you never know--or a total creep.
But why let somebody else take the credit for getting him laid, huh?
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Wednesday 16 December
By ryoka157
For those of you who never watched 'Bugs Bunny' as a kid, I'd expect you WOULDN'T remember Bug's common line of 'Whadda maroon!'
If the guy is 35 and a virgin, might I recommend he join the priesthood? Then he could stop lamenting his virginity and focus his efforts elsewhere. Unless, of course, he's a virgin because he's creepy. Then I wouldn't want to visit his parish any more than someone wants to visit his bedroom.
But yes, if he really wants to hire a prostitute, then fly out to Nevada. The prostitutes in the legal brothels are VERY well-cared for, and are guaranteed clean (law requires they get tested for STDs weekly, and HIV tests monthly). No licensed prostitute in Nevada has contracted HIV in the 25 years prostitution has been legal. And if he IS gay, they're currently legalizing male prostitution in Nevada as well.
Still, I agree with the suggestion he go see a shrink. Or perhaps talk to some female friends, and ask for a very blunt, honest opinion as to why he's still a virgin. They might tell him 'Well, Norm, it's because you weigh 600 pounds', or 'It might have to do with your disgusting teeth and your lack of hygiene', or 'The fact that you end up breathing through your mouth and drooling every time you lay eyes on a pair of breasts doesn't help'...but at least he'd know.
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Thursday 17 December
By crumbs444
HAHAHA if this stupid columnist actually thought that letter was sincere.
HAHAHA if i actually thought she thought that letter was sincere! She was just having fun using a prostitute like tiger on tour
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Thursday 17 December
By duh.
the last person i would want to be with is someone whos been with a hooker. so yeah, go sleep with a prostitute for your first time, and probably last.
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Friday 18 December
By Edwin Kamau
Many people have this problem but they don't say it. good you said it go have one pro it will change your world
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Friday 18 December
By david wayne osedach
There are enough prostitutes in Chicago in every color and variety to keep this guy busy for life. Why stop with just one?
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Saturday 19 December
By Mark Plus
We have women's emancipation and social democracy to thank for the rise of sexually frustrated beta males like George Sodini. (Apparently Japan has a lot of sexually inexperienced men who never leave their parents' homes, have fallen in love with anime girls printed on body-sized pillows and display similar dysfunctions.) Just google the new meme, "beta aversion." A surprising number of women want to get inseminated by alpha males like Tiger Woods ("cads"), then have the rest of us help support them and their bastard children through the social safety net, which serves as a surrogate for sexually less appealing beta males ("dads"). With the best of both worlds, why would they want to put out for beta males ever again?
And I say this as a 50 year old virgin, so I understand the problem first hand.
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Saturday 16 January
By The Libertarian
Your over-generalized critique of women and their preference of men for procreation vs. social standing appears so bitter and misogynistic that I question it's overall sincerity. Nevertheless, your argument that the quality of mental health in Japan and here in the States is subpar compared to other industrialized nations in the Eurozone such as Germany and Austria. George Sodini is the 800 pound gorilla in the room, indicating that real change is needed!
Saturday 16 January
By The Libertarian
It is hypothetically possible for guys to be late-bloomers given our culture and gender roles. Men are typically expected to be confident and show initiative regardless of what they're seeking when attempting to pursue women. This is especially detrimental on guys who were bullied or abused while growing up. Therefore, they'll likely have a lot of hang-ups and confidence issues about sex and women in general. Visiting a so-called sex-theripist (i.e. phycologist), dating sites, and religious institutions are not solutions to ending sexual frustration and dysfunction. Sex is indeed a component to intimate relationships, but it is also something that is pleasurable and can occur spontaneously with a random person. I'm a libertarian by nature and advocate that government entities should avoid telling people how to live their lives, especially with anti-prostitution laws. I say that no law should preclude individuals from purchasing or selling sex. Those who find prostitution immoral, perceive prostitutes poorly, and/or think that people who experience difficulty initiating sexual encounters are "losers" should simply avoid enlisting the services prostitutes at there own choice, while abstaining from imposing their views upon those who think otherwise. Perhaps, eliminating prohibition of prostitution will facilitate putting tax-payer dollars to better use, such as investing in public education and/or infrastructure.
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