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It sounds like a Judd Apatow flick, but a real advice columnist for a Chicago newspaper has advised a man nearing 40 who has yet to have sex that he should just stop worrying about finding a woman he cares for and call in a professional. First the New York Post gives an advice column to a prostitute, now we've got the Chicago Sun-Times advice columnist promoting prostitution? What a week for womankind in the newspaper biz.
Chicago Sun-Times columnist Cheryl Lavin prefaced her column this Monday with a disclaimer, "Reader Alert! This is my most politically incorrect column ever, and I know I'm going to make a lot of people angry. Having said that ..."
That didn't stop her from telling "Get This Monkey Off My Back" that the answer to his fear of intimacy is to get sexually intimate with a woman with whom he didn't have to be emotionally intimate. "Sexual experience equals confidence equals attraction," Lavin says.
Or it equals a guy with experience who still can't commit to a real relationship and now has a taste for paying for sex. He's paying a woman in a "career" accepted by the psychological and medical community as highly toxic to women. Lavin's disclaimer doesn't make her decision much more comforting when she notes that even where prostitution is illegal, it's still widespread. Is that aiding and abetting in a big-city newspaper?
Whether hiring a hooker will even help "Get this Monkey..." is highly debatable. What a good therapist could do in a few sessions is get to the root of those intimacy issues, maybe even find out if he's gay--hey, you never know--or a total creep.
But why let somebody else take the credit for getting him laid, huh?
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Wednesday 16 December
By tyoung2349
Way to go, give the guy a dose of clap with his first piece.
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Wednesday 16 December
By Geoff
Prostitution is legal in Nevada. She never told him to find a street hooker. The guy needs a vacation in Las Vegas, some R&R at Madam's and maybe Viagra to get it up. In the long run, it'll cost him less than wining & dining a string of women until he finally finds one who wants to have sex with him.
Wednesday 16 December
By kirsten
Oh,you boys make me giggle...hee hee
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Wednesday 16 December
By mastermindriches
Seeing a certified sex therapist is a much better solution!
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Wednesday 16 December
By Oh Please
First of all, a woman giving sexual advice to a man is rediculous and idiotic. What the hell would she know? Let's put the shoe on the other foot. A woman asks a male columnist about sex as a virgin and he replies in the same exact fashion. "Oh, don't worry about emotional involvement, hire a gigolo and have at it." This site would shut down due to the amount of angry repliers.
Dude, it your sexual experience take your time and do what you feel. If you want to wait for Ms. Right, then wait. If you feel like you are missing out on something then find a friend, different materbation techniques, a hobby. Just don't go to a prostitute. What a typical female response. "Oh, as long as a man gets his noodle wet, he'll be happy."
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Wednesday 16 December
By Apple
Mr.Oh Please....This guys is crying out for "Help Me Please".....nothing about the female species is "Typical" as you say...that is more suited for Men!!! Secondly, he has problems finding and relating to female friends...read between the lines dude! Thirdly, at 35 he wants to get his noodle wet....he doesn't know what it's like. The person who wrote that he maybe should seek sex therapy, is probably on the right track. Prostitution is the oldest profession and used more frequently by men than woman, although women use them also. All prostitutes are not street walkers, raise the price you raise the quality. So the answer was not so "Typical" of a woman for if you check your history you will see this is a profession that for hundreds of years has been fueled by men as, a quicky fixy!! Fourthly, check your dictionary, masterbation....you didn't spell it correctly are you doing it right...LMFAO...haaaaaaaaaa
Wednesday 16 December
By mastermindriches
A better solution is to see a certified sex therapist!
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Wednesday 16 December
By willybob22124
Isn't that exactly what the lady told him to do?
Wednesday 16 December
By BWAHAAHAAAA
Go for it Sparky! My guess is you will be so terrified of a naked woman willing to have sex with you your doodle will go as limp as a wet noodle. Go ahead and find a pro, I doubt it's really gonna happen anyway.
p.s.....aaaahhahahahahahahahaha!!!!
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Wednesday 16 December
By J V L
I can't believe that this petitioner's letter to the columnist is for real. If it is, the guy should hire a therapist right now. Either he's a terminal nerd, or he's lying, or he's a psychopath and normal women stay away from him, or he's a mama's boy and normal women SHOULD stay away from him.
The columnist could have given better advice...like go see a shrink. But hire a prostitute? With this guy's luck the first girl he 'hired" would be an undercover cop and he'd wind up in the slammer. Yeah, that's a first-time memory to savor!
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Wednesday 16 December
By Rheinheart
Wait so because hes smart...or cares about his mother women should stay away from him? Get over it, whats between your legs is a commodity like everything else in this world. So many women already give it up to the highest bidder in roundabout ways, why not rid ourselves of the middlemen..legalize prostitution.
Wednesday 16 December
By Jo
AMEN!!
Wednesday 16 December
By Alex
Legalize prostitution darn it! Its not fair that this poor guy has never seen a &*^%^% his entire life. I've known a few guys like this, completely clueless when it comes to the opposite sex, they literally shut down as soon as they get near a woman in a social situation. Not only that but having this monkey on their back affects many other areas of their lives. A woman on the other hand (even an unattractive one) can go out on any given night and come home with someone, as long as shes not too picky. Even the playing field...give this poor guy a chance.
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Wednesday 16 December
By Colin
Wow. What I wouldn't give to be a virgin at my age. Think about it. I'm 46, male and know what women want. If I were sexually pure I'd seek out the same and get married only after getting to know that person as a person. Start a friendship that would last for the rest of my life and cherish it. It's things used to be done and the only couple I know that's been together for their whole lives as friends are 83 years old. What I wouldn't give to have that.
Oh, my advice to this guy is go to a Christian College. There are many female virgins there who can only dream about guys like you. Of course they only want a man who already has a eternal relationship with our Lord and Savior, Jesus the Christ. Happy B-Day Lord!
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Wednesday 16 December
By Evelyn
My friend was married to a preacher. He went to the dentist and got his teeth cleaned which released some deadly bacteria and he died three days later. She was left a widow with 3 children. Her mother knew a man, a devout Christian (the ONLY kind she wanted) and introduced them. They hit it off and got married. When they married he was a 51 year-old virgin. She said it was a little awkward to have to show him some things, but they are doing fine and she has given birth to two more children and they are happy together. So, you don't have to go to a Christian college to meet a nice, decent Christian girl, there are women out there of an appropriate age for all men, you just have to know where to look and network, network, network... let your family, friends and co-workers know that you are looking and what you want.
Wednesday 16 December
By Jon
"Legalize prostitution darn it! Its not fair that this poor guy has never seen a &*^%^% his entire life. I've known a few guys like this, completely clueless when it comes to the opposite sex, they literally shut down as soon as they get near a woman in a social situation. Not only that but having this monkey on their back affects many other areas of their lives. A woman on the other hand (even an unattractive one) can go out on any given night and come home with someone, as long as shes not too picky. Even the playing field...give this poor guy a chance."
--- NO! Losers need to SUFFER!
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Wednesday 16 December
By meg
Agreed, Oh Please! The columnist completely ignores that this is a complex emotional issue that's obviously become a point of frustration. Better advice would have been to tell him to check out online dating (maybe a Christian one - they're into that; he'd be a model of self restraint) to just start meeting more women his age with similar interests/goals...the '40 year old virgin' I know is a really sweet but shy guy and any woman would be lucky to have him, he just needed to find a girl outside a bar/work who would realize it (and he did, online). As far as sharing the info goes, she should have told him not to worry about it - if he is going for a casual encounter, most women would be fine with him saying he's relatively inexperienced - no need to get into the nitty gritty of the last 20 years . And if it's someone he builds a relationship with, hopefully she'll appreciate the lack of STDs, such as HPV and ovarian cancer risk, that he'll be passing on.
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Wednesday 16 December
By Colin
It's a wonderful thing to be a virgin. There are plenty of female virgins at Christian Universities and Seminaries. Start a relationship with our Lord and Savior, Jesus the Christ, enroll in a school like Dallas Seminary, and God will be delighted to "hook you up" with the girl that will be your best friend for life. You have such an opportunity if you only seek God's council. He longs for you to be happy and blessed or you would'nt have been born here!
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Wednesday 16 December
By Ted
What's so bad about a roll in the hay with a nice, clean HOOKER
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Wednesday 16 December
By exoticdoc2
What a complete idiot. Fire her.
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