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If you've been holding out on saying those three magic words to your boyfriend, well, maybe you should wait a little longer. According to new research, guys are actually more likely to say "I love you" first than women. (Although if you thought the "three magic words" were "pass the mayo," you're a girl after our own hearts.)Yes, men fall in love more often, and it takes them less time to say so -- about seven months on average, according to the study. It's thought that the discrepancy occurs is because women mature faster than men emotionally, and are therefore more realistic and in touch with their emotions.
In other words, when a dude says he loves you, he might just be a little carried away or not have any idea what he's actually feeling, whereas when a woman says it (typically after around eight months), it might tend to have a little more substance.
Not that it matters, once he says those words you've got him trapped! MWAHAHAHA! Kidding ...
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Wednesday 18 November
By Ellen
I think this is true. My current bf dropped the L-bomb on me several times before I said it back, and it was the same with a guy I dated in college. The only difference there was that he only said it when he was about 20 beers and 10 lemon drop ;) shots deep.
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Wednesday 18 November
By drdave327
I get it!!! howard.. coward... I laugh with thee.
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Wednesday 18 November
By Amanda
7....MONTHS? According to whom? Does this mean 7 months from having met someone, or 7 months after establishing the relationship? Who would stay in a relationship with someone they didn't love for more than 6 months? I know many, many couples who move in together earlier than that!
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Wednesday 18 November
By sherrystclair
Sorry, but I usually got proposals from one kiss. gift
lol It runs in our family. women are spirited white witches. There's more to snagging a mans heart than chemistry. Universal power!
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Wednesday 25 November
By Michael
LOL, is that a fact?
Wednesday 18 November
By watdafuk
Especially if he thinks it will get him in your pants.
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Wednesday 18 November
By cessnatx
I'd have to disagree with the 7 month thing...more than likely that's what the poll said....guys under say 23 maybe longer because they don't want to be in love...when a guy is ready that's another matter...usually a guy will not date someone who he thinks he can't be serious with (now I'd have to qualify this with...we're talking guys who are honest natured...the user types is another thing...you act serious and he's gone)...so that's a private detail a woman might bear in mind...but 7 months..? give me a break
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Wednesday 18 November
By Jack
First guys lie to get the girl in the sack. Then they don't call and the girl says I love you why didn't you call. This is all on the first date. In 7 months the guy wont even remember who this was. HELLO.
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Wednesday 18 November
By Jayson
I don't think so to me its like women are like I love you in a few weeks and I'm just like thank you. LOL its funny but its true but maybe thats just me. It takes me a long time to say I love you but if I say it I really mean it.
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Wednesday 18 November
By John
men don't fall in love fast.....they fall in LUST fast.....they just want to get laid!!!! It's that simple....don't romaticize it.
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Thursday 19 November
By NoGirl
Gotta agree with John, guys fall in lust - - well probably several times a day - - in love??? maybe with themselves.
Wednesday 18 November
By Norene
According to some anxious to finalize.....the three little words every woman wants to hear is "I can't breathe".
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Wednesday 18 November
By GB
The real question is when do they actually mean it??? Those three words are nothing more than a mechanism to obtain sex...
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Wednesday 18 November
By eric
you ladies have been in some messed up relationships apparently. Almost all of you think its a ploy to "get you in the sack"....i guess thats true...from 18-21 MAYBE...but give me a break, most of the time, the woman is the one trying to get in the sack
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Wednesday 18 November
By Jay B.
This whole story is a bunch of crap. Why is the man's "I love you" any less value because the woman says it one month later, on average. When I say it, it's not because I want in the woman's pants. There are way too many women that want nothing but to give it away for free. If that is what I wanted, why would I say I love to one I dated? By nature, I'd say that when a man finds "the one" he will say "I love you" because he's tired of the hunt and sees the woman that is his dream woman. If the woman takes a month longer, maaybe she has been hurt more, or is just being cautious. I sure don't want a woman that "puts out" just because I say "I love you." I want "til death do us part."
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Wednesday 18 November
By delmis
and all this time i thought girls were the complicated ones, lol.as far as howard goes,why not try to make him jealous?just a thought = )
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Wednesday 18 November
By CPU64
I think that this "appropriate" time to say I love you is pure and unadulterated BS created by women.
Normally love is what brings people together. Why would there be a need for a period of time before its OK to say you love someone? That is garbage.
If I say I love someone its because I do feel that way. Why would I want to be with someone I didn't think I was in love with.
Women like to stereotype guys and freak out if the dude actually tells her how he feels, then breaks up with him.
Guys, thank women for turning the word love into a simple "pass" into the next level in a relationship. No wonder guys are reluctant in saying these words. It could make or break the relationship. Which is stupid.
If I find someone that I am interested in, its because I'm interested in loving her. Call me pathetic for wanting to be honest, but its pointless to be in a relationship with someone you love, but aren't allowed to say so, until a certain date.
I've been in love with a select few girls in my lifetime, and the only one who wanted to go out with me, dumped me for a guy younger than she was, because I told her how I felt. Funny they were sleeping together within a few weeks, which to some girls, [sex] seems to be less significant that the "L" word I guess. Yet I never lost my feelings for those who rejected me...
How is it that you women can complicate something as simple as falling in love?
Some here say that guys use it to get in girl's pants, yet aren't they the guys who always have girlfriends?. While guys like me who will actually respect and long for a relationship, get rejected into the "nice guy" trash bin.
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Thursday 19 November
By amanda
nope. doesn't happen. "nice guy" is 99% of the time code for "I am too lazy and scared to speak to a girl, so it's her fault I don't have a girlfriend." Every girl wants a "nice guy", but you are never interested in us. It's always the attractive ones who come up and talk...your ideas are a self-fulfilling prophecy!
Thursday 19 November
By Betsie
First of all, no where in the article did it say "appropriate". It said that the "Average" time for a guy to say I love you is 7 months. Get off your pity party high horse, grow a set and quit whining like a little girl. Is it maybe that you are too much of a nice guy and women don't see you as a man but more of as a little brother (or sister by the way you whine)? You are also sterotyping women in the sence that "How is it that you women can complicate something as simple as falling in love?" It could be that the human population is just stupid and sex has become more important than companionship and love. I understand that you have been hurt by grow a set and move on. Women don't say "I love you" first because when they do the man become a chicken s*** and leaves, so thank your fellow "y chromosome" humans on your heart break.
Thursday 04 March
By CHERYL
AWWW.....THAT'S SO SAD....I CAN UNDERSTAND BECAUSE I'M TOO NICE, FEEL VULNERABLE WHEN I START FALLING IN LOVE AND BECOME TOO OPEN AND MUSHY WITH MY FEELINGS. AN INDIVIDUALS PREVIOUS JOURNEY OF LOVE EXPERIENCE HAS ALOT TO DO WITH IT ALL TOO.....IN MY OPINION....