We enjoy eating out and digging in as much as the next person, so when we read this list of 100 Thing Servers Should Do on the New York Times Web site, we couldn't help but add our two cents. (In fact, a few Lemondrop gals are former waitresses, so we can honestly say we can see it from both sides.)Here's what we kindly ask of our servers to ensure a pleasant meal:
1. After we've been seated, if more than 10 minutes have gone by without any acknowledgment from the staff, we reach a mild level of annoyance. We get it: you're busy. Just stop by and tell us so.
2. Some friendly chit-chat is OK, but if we're not reciprocating your waiter-ly advances, cut it out. We came to talk to the people we're eating with. (Note: If you resemble a young Clive Owen and feel like comping dessert later, by all means, continue gabbing.)
3. All waiters should have one recommendation -- but if yours happens to be the most expensive item on the menu, you'll definitely lose our trust right off the bat. Suggest something yummy in the mid-price range.
4. No matter what sugar mommy/daddy vibes you may be getting, don't put the check in front of us and don't put the check in front of our date. Put the check squarely in the middle of the table -- just far enough so we can make a convincing "attempt" to grab it.
5. Finally, under no circumstances, should there be snarky, under-your-breath comments or eyebrow raises when we order more than our dates. We're hungry.
P.S. We know customers are annoying too. Here's a take from the server's perspective.
Tell us: What are your biggest restaurant pet peeves?












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Monday 09 November
By Morgan
I absolutely cannot stand sitting in front of an empty plate for 20 minutes waiting for my check, or sitting in front of a the bill with my credit card sitting in it for another 20 minutes waiting for you to come pick it up. The point is to get us out of there so you can seat another table and get more tips!!!
Also I usually don't mind when something goes wrong - it's usually not your fault. But just APOLOGIZE! I won't dock your tip if you say "I'm sorry about that, let me fix it for you." But if I say "Um, this was supposed to be well done and there's a pool of blood underneath" and you just say "Oh, okay." I'm gonna be pissed.
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Monday 09 November
By Hannah
I hate it when after I get my meal and while eating it the waiter comes around 500 times asking 'Is everything okay?'!!!! I know they need to check on us but some do it waaay too much! And it always seems to be when I'm in mid-bite or right after a big bite they come around. That just really drives me crazy. Not coming around at all can be just as annoying too. There needs to be a good balance that shows you are taking care of us but not mothering us.
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Tuesday 10 November
By Leslee
My family and I went to a restaurant on a vacation in Oahu. The scene of Hawaii is very laid back, and that's fine, however, we waited an hour in line (there was only ONE family ahead of us) because there were about 3 waiters serving the entire restaurant. When we were finally seated, our waiter was very apologetic, however, my dad chided her, asking if the service would be as long as the wait. After we ordered, she brought us our food in 20 minutes- putting one slice of deli meat on his turkey sandwich- and sarcastically replied back to him that she was sorry the service took oh-so long, as she threw the plate on the table.
She certainly did NOT get a tip :)
BTW- this restaurant is called the Hapa Grill and it is located in Kapolei, Oahu.
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Tuesday 10 November
By carah y watkins
WOW! I agree with those rules, I would be ready to kill however if i EVER sat anywhere for 10minutes waiting for the server and I used to be one! I get antsy is someone isnt by with in long enough for me to thoughly look over the drink menu and begin to glance at the appitizers! Just say "ill be right with you"; im o.k. with that but totally ignoring me, under no circumstances o.k.!
and the chatty cathy thing- thank you someone for saying that. I like friendly staff, but the kind whom put a chair from an adjactent table and staddle it backwards to take my order, When I'm with other people and I've never even met them! WAYYYYYYYYYY to much, you tip will be docked if you continue, because you are annoying me.
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Monday 16 November
By Sarah
I hate it when the server tries to be the "star" of the date or meal. I don't want to know your name, and I don't want to talk to you - just take my order and bring me my food! And, don't flirt with my husband/boyfriend!
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