3. Should you be open to dating a much older (or younger) man?79% of glamour.com readers say YES.
4. Spanx: Should you wear them on a date?
59% of glamour.com readers say NO.
Yes: "You'd wear a push-up bra, right? Sure, Spanx can be awkward if you're hooking up -- go take 'em off in the bathroom -- but men get it. One time I admitted I had mine on, and the guy laughed it off as a girl thing." -- Amy, 33, Grand Haven, Mich.
No: "I saw my girlfriend's roommate in Spanx getting ready for a date. How would a guy get that off? I guess it's meant to curb women's insecurities, but don't they know the real deal is always hotter?" -- Jeff, 31, Knoxville, Tenn.
5. Should you take your husband's last name?
62% of glamour.com readers say YES.
(As debated by glamour.com commenters)
Yes: "You're joining together as family; different last names only separate you." -- main1006
"Your maiden name is your father's name. That defeats the whole sexism argument." -- ebyt
No: "[I don't want] to be known as someone else. My husband fell in love with that girl, that girl graduated and passed the bar, that girl should get to keep her name!" -- seeniname
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Friday 23 October
By Vladimir Ivanov
Kids inherit fathers name because people always know who is mother and not always know who is actully their father. That is why it is important for woman to have the same second name with her husband. In some situations second names are merged together. But in all cases it means that man took his responsability in marriege.
In contamporary society taking into account problems related to changing second name I am as a man consider that if you love your wife you would never push her to change name in documents around.
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Wednesday 28 October
By Nic
-No offense intended...but, at least use the dictionary or spell check if you're going to articulate such a precise opinion-Please?
Saturday 24 October
By Kristin
My maiden name was my mother's maiden name; I did not know my father. I was not married to my two oldest children's father and they both have my last (maiden) name. When I did marry, I kept my last name and added my husband's as a hyphenate. Two reasons: at the age of thirty, I was not thrilled about changing my name completely and I wanted a connection to my children. My youngest child has his father's last name. This way I am connected to all my kids by name. I remember my stepfather used to get upset when the school would call asking for my mother as Mrs. (her maiden name).
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Saturday 24 October
By Cindy
My husband considers his name a sentimental gift to me and I am proud to use it.
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Saturday 24 October
By wow ms. Anoymous ur a slut
just to say to the woman who ended up in a divorce, that was YOUR own fault. its not because you friended ur ex. u are the slut who decided to back to your ex. you should know that you need to be careful when being friends w/ ur exes.
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Sunday 25 October
By alice Harneit
When I married, I took my husband's name and I am now sorry that I did so. I should have kept my name and added my husband's name (hyphenated) We have only one father and he does not cease to be your father when you marry. In addition, the name ceased to exist because my nephews changed their names and they were the only ones left that could pass it on to the next generation. It broke my father's heart but, being the sweetheart that he was, he silently carried his hurt to his grave with him.
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Sunday 25 October
By Jen
Is it just me or are these not really sex questions? Should I friend my ex on facebook? oo how racy.. Should I wear spandex on a date? how naughty!
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Monday 26 October
By Aubrey
My fiance is taking my last name. We talked it over and ultimately he made the decision. His reasoning is that, through years of being together, his family can barely stand me. My family has not only been very supportive of us, but loves and has all-but adopted him. He feels like it's my family he's becoming a part of rather than the other way around.
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Tuesday 27 October
By Brown
I insisted that my wife take my name. Even though we were engaged, I told her that if she kept her name, then the marriage was off. To me, it is something I believe in. I believe that a wife who wants to keep her name shows a desire to retain her independance. IMHO that is not what marriage is about. In a marriage, one does not keep thier original identity. The two become one. So when a wife decides to keep her name, it is the beginning of a relationship where the two people live in the same house but keep something separate from each other. Taking a husband's name is [IMHO] the first step in creating unity. It is a sign from a wife to a husband that she accepts him; that she accepts everything about him. To me, being married to someone with a different name shows the world that there is something still separating the husband and wife. [Not that the world's opinion matters, but the demonstration to the world that the spouses are separate matters]
In marriage, I give my life to my wife. I don't ask that of her, but she should have the name of the man who is willing to sacrafice himself for the good of the marriage. When me and my wife disagree, I feel it is my job to further consider her position. If we cannot come to an agreement, I feel that it is my job, as a husband and a leader, to give in to her desires.
In short, you take my name, I give you my life in return.
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Tuesday 27 October
By felicia
In reply to Mr. Brown,
You stated you would not have married your wife if she did not take your name because that would signify her independence??
Oh boy Mr. you, have issues.
I,agree a woman should accept her husband to be's last name but out of respect, and that respect is mutual. In marriage the act of marriage is uniting as one and is sacred in gods eyes It does not matter your last name be the same. Your wife is still an independent seperate person as are you. it is important, to not forget you can both be independent and seperate individuals ,that is what brought you, together. In the sanctity of marriage you, become one but it does not mean you lose your, true identity.
Tuesday 27 October
By Lee
My wife never changed her name and I didn't care because I'm not an insecure, oppressive, childish jerk. Our 3 children all have the same last name which is a hyphonated combination of BOTH of our last names. This "Brown" guy is either Amish, retarted, the result of a seriously crazy mother or someone in a psych hospital who snuck access to a computer when the staff wasn't watching.
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Tuesday 27 October
By Doctor Jerry
I guess it wouldn't hurt to give a kid an option when he or she is old enough to decide. After all, if the mother's maiden name is something really cool and sophisticated like Rossilini or Devonshire and the father's last name is something nerdy like Snodgrass or Nordblunk, who wouldn't opt for the maternal lineage?
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Sunday 01 November
By Virginia Serpent
When I married, there were 5 other woman with my husband's last name and my first name showing up on the credit report with serious credit problems(In ONE CITY ONLY!). If I had changed my last name, I would've been plagued with credit problems or would have to write credit explaination letters every time I asked for a new credit card, car loan, house loan or anything that required a check of credit. Naturally I kept my original name and now only share it with four other woman throughout the whole united states. By all means take your husbands' last names, but check the credit reports first!!!
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