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Lesley Arfin is the kickass author of "Dear Diary" a longtime contributor to Vice magazine and one of the raddest girls we know. So it makes sense that we'd go to her for advice. Got a question about love, relationships or that burning sensation? Ask Lesley.

Q: I just made plans with someone I dated a few years ago -- it didn't work out then, mostly because of my issues. I have reason to think he was pretty hung up on me, and now he's casually asked me to go to dinner, even though he has to drive almost two hours to get here.

My question -- am I wrong to think it might be a date-type thing? His Facebook status says he's "in a relationship" but he's never mentioned a girl to me.

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OK, first of all, I totally hear you about the Facebook thing. What a stupid mindf--k that is! It's like, it doesn't mean anything, but it kind of means everything.

I think make him own whatever he wrote on Facebook. Even if he "doesn't mean it," it's there.

Sounds like you're just going out for drinks with an old friend. If you're confused as to it being a date, why not ask him? Do you not want to go if it's not a date? Ask yourself that honestly and proceed.

If he has a girlfriend and he's planning to cheat, I think screw him and his "meeting up for dinner." If my boyfriend was going to meet up with an old flame and didn't tell me, I'd assume he was cheating. But then again, my boyfriend's Facebook status says "single," so what the hell do I know?

xox
les

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