What does it mean to be a "fag hag" nowadays? The once-derisive label given to the female best friends of gay men was in the spotlight last week when Salon's Thomas Rogers slammed the hangers-on to homos. Today's fag hag, he writes, "feels like she's throwing around a designer label or telling me she knows a celebrity -- a kind of social conspicuous consumption ... In the past decade, gay men have become less defined and ghettoized by our sexuality than ever before, making terms like 'fag hag' feel as retrograde as, well, 'Will & Grace.'"
Maybe. But considering we're living in the heyday of fag haggery -- the Stonewall riots have given way to the Bravo TV revolution -- we figured we'd celebrate some of the women who are working hard to love the gays who love them back.
The Real Housewives (all of them)
Katherine HeiglWhen the "Grey's Anatomy" starlet rushed to best friend T.R. Knight's defense by condemning Isaiah Washington's on-set gay slur, she began TV's most visible fag hag relationship since "Will & Grace."
Click here for more fab fag hags after the jump.
Margaret ChoOne of Hollywood's first and most outspoken defenders of the fag hag: "Fag hags are the backbone of the gay community!"
Kathy Griffin What Cho began, comedienne Griffin took to new heights by launching an entire realty TV career off of pandering to "the gays" who also desperately crave her pandering.
Rachel ZoeLess a hag and more a product of her industry, the diminutive style guru with as many catch phrases as gowns and a marathoner's endurance for shopping was really just fated to be surrounded by gay men.
Tyra BanksThe woman responsible for introducing the world to Miss J. Alexander, Mr. Jay, The Aswirl Twins and the posing expertise of Benny Ninja. She's a gay icon.
Meghan McCainThis senator's-daughter-turned-blogger is leading the charge to expand the identity of Republicans to include women with big bones, big opinions and gaggles of gay friends.
Ana MatronicThe only female in the world's gayest group, this Scissor Sister found solace in the gay culture after her gay father died of AIDS when she was a teenager.
Lady GagaOutrageous styles, disco-pop hits and an expanding gay entourage solidify Gaga's position as the heir-apparent to Madonna's fag hag kingdom.
Lily Allen The Grammy-nominated Brit whose sass and foul mouth has made her a tabloid staple outed herself in the 2009 song "Fag Hag" which says, "Apart from me, you're the only other person I know who reads the travel section."
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Tuesday 25 August
By sondra
Oh, how I love my gay boys. :)
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Wednesday 26 August
By panda
I didn't think the salon article was attempting to slam fag hags at all. I think he was pointing out posers in a trend to emerging acceptance of the gay community. I also really liked the note on which he ended, pointing out that friends should be defined as just that- friends, not a sexuality, gender or stereotype...
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Thursday 27 August
By Dizavid
It's just all in good fun; I think just the word 'fag-hag' is fun, and if someone wants to call themselves that, everyone should just laugh and join in. No need to turn it into a "OMG that person is POSING!"
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Thursday 27 August
By nadene mckenzie
i dont agree with this this life style is an abomination to the Lord and all who pratice this will be cast in to the hell fire here a scripture for you leviticus 18;22
do not lie with a man as on lies with a woman this is destestable
Thursday 27 August
By topdwn96
Nadine, Nadine, Nadine ... no one is talking about what gay men do or do not do behind closed doors. These women enjoy the company of gay men. It's not a sex thing -- it's a friendship thing.
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Wednesday 02 September
By SS
Nadene,
The Bible also says when woman are menstruating they should be banished to the red tent ,how about we send you every month.
It also says children who misbehave should be stoned.
Lets not just pick things out we like Nadene.
Saturday 29 August
By Claire
oh nadene, keep it to yourself. We aren't interested. It's funny how the true meaning of the Bible has been forgotten in favour of bigotry and prejudice, which to me is very unChristian behaviour. What ever happened to 'love thy neighbour'?
On a happier note, my best male friend came out this year, and I am proud to be a fag hag, we have a great time together and he is a lovely bloke. I find it ridiculous that anyone could believe that someone as good, kind, generous and loving as he id could be condemned to the fiery pits of hell by your Almighty God.
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Saturday 29 August
By Jesie Tease
From a 13 year old, I can proudly call myself a fag hag. Gay people are usually very nice and will always find something to make you feel better. But, I love thm because they are my friends who I get along with.
And for all you people who say they'll go to Hell, you should really go out and make some gay friends. Stop making judgements because your Bible doesn't agree with their lifestyle. Though, sure, God doesn't support gays, he also tells you not to hate and not pass judgements. Everyone deserves the right to love whoever they want to, and just because a couple of religious documents say its bad shouldn't veto that right.
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Saturday 29 August
By Tayler
I agree with panda. Being a "fag hag" isn't a bad thing if both enjoy that sort of relationship but people shouldnt treat gay people as just a cool trend and should treat them as people.
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Monday 21 September
By Cl
I prefer to be called a fruit fly myself.
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Sunday 30 August
By monique
So who knoww another other meaning of fag-hag and the women it is sometimes used to describe? It's not very flattering, but I guess the media has redefined the once derogatory term.
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Monday 31 August
By Frank
I am a gay Roman Catholic and I think it is complete hypocrisy with the way people decide to interpret the bible to suit their own inequities...hypocrisy, if I remember correctly from the good ol' Catechism days, is also an abomination to God. Point is how can you in one side of your mouth, profess a God that is all loving and forgiving and merciful and on the other side of your mouth profess a God that is cruel and heartless and merciless? According to the "Bible," if a person asks earnestly for forgiveness on his/her death bed for sins committed, no matter how cruel or how heinous they were, God will forgive them, but two people who fell in love and promises to love one another and take care of one another unconditionally will be sent to hell simply because they are of the same sex? You are not talking about the God i know, rather you are talking about a God who is schizophrenic! Educate yourself on the teaching of God......not what MAN says..besides, though God may have inspired man to write portionsof the Bible that talks about love and kindness and forgiveness, it was still written by men who had....get this.....OPINIONS!!! And because they had OPINIONs, they rationalized their OPINIONS by declaring it to be inspired by GOD!! You need to stop using God for your own opinions and simplpy own up to what you think and feel...Everyone is entitled to his/her own opinion, but do not defile the Bible to tailor it to your own insecurities.
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Monday 31 August
By Frank's "Karen"
All we can do is pray that Nadene becomes enlightened. Until then, I remain...proud and blessed to be Frank's fag hag!! Amen!
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Monday 31 August
By Kassie
I'm totally with frank on that one. i too am roman catholic. it's sad the way some people interpret the bible which was written by a bunch of men who interpreted gods word. i think what god really wants is us to generally be good loving people. i think to god love is love and it doesn't matter if you love someone who is of the same sex. i think gay people have been through enough without being told they are going to burn in hell for who they love. horray for gay people and the people that love them for who they are.
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Tuesday 01 September
By Gay & a lot of fun
I think you are right, GOD didn't write those words man did, so people need to stop saying people are going to HELL & BURN for loving the same sex. GOD said to LOVE he didn't say what to LOVE, but just LOVE....
Tuesday 01 September
By barbie
I love it!!. It is great to have them on our side!!
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Tuesday 01 September
By Pax
A lot of my friends are gay & lesbian for the simple reason I find gay people to be fundamentally good , kind and nice people....more interested in helping others, more giving of themselves, less judgmental, and supportive like you wouldn't believe.
Some of us of the haggage variety may have the ability to turn a phrase that would make you and/or your granny blush but it doesn't change the fact that many the hag and fag came together because of not only our outrageous humor but because of our common goals and dreams of making the world a better place.
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Tuesday 01 September
By Dave
OMG Nadene!
Why don't you stop judging for God? Let him decide when we ALL get there to see him. I hear this crap all the time. Save the children, the world, churches and everthing else from the gays. LOL.......Get over it. Take on a meaningful project that needs attention. Something like starving and homeless people in the USA!
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Wednesday 02 September
By will
gays are nasty men and women and should be chained up and sent to a big gay island.
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Thursday 03 September
By susan
Nadene, Peace be with you.
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