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If your husband gave you a calculator for your birthday, you might seethe about it. Tiffanie Wong dealt by writing a hilarious blog post on her site, "My Husband Is Annoying."Speaking for married women everywhere, Wong's tally of how often husband Mark Joyella wears a hideous green sweater or peppers conversations with bathroom humor is an endearing look at coupledom.
Married in March, much of their relationship prior to their wedding was spent long distance, making wedded bliss an adventure for Wong in learning to appreciate fart jokes while mastering highly technical electronic devices such as the remote control.
We caught up with the Brooklyn Heights resider to ask how a couple of newlywed media types (Wong's a producer at CNN, Joyella's an Emmy Award-winning reporter who teaches classes for MediaBistro) manage to annoy the pants off of each other.
Click Next to read why Tiffanie says she started the site.
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Friday 21 August
By Zzzzzzz!
Never been married. Tried cohabitating and was a complete failure at it. That's enough to tell me it's not for me.
Very wise, long-married and coupled folks tell me ITS NOT FOR EVERYONE! And yes, there's lots of people who should never get married. If you have no sense of give-and-take, just stay single.
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Friday 21 August
By striderhamtaro
Like someone said, the calculator was obviously an attempt at a personalized gift. How much thought is required to walk into a floral shop and buy a rose? I could be wrong though, and he may be completely oblivious when it comes to buying gifts. He wouldn't be the first.
Obviously he has a significant attachment to that sweater. From what I've read in the blog, he's worn it on the days of very important events. That should tell you something, Tiffany.
It's really confusing to be a guy sometimes. We're open targets for any kind of abuse and are expected to just "get over it". Women treat us like we have no emotions, but then act surprised when we behave without basic emotions like compassion & mercy. Even the dumbest dog will start to curl in it's tail if you strike it enough times....
"Do not be misled.....for whatever a man is sowing, this he will also reap."
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Friday 21 August
By Noah
Marriage is what you make of it and it takes hard work.
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Friday 21 August
By Jeff
My suggestion to her, more exercise, less sugar and a hair salon!
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Friday 21 August
By Duckie
P.S. I forgot what triggered my comment... My Adorable One brought a vacuum cleaner for a b-day gift to by bedside as I lay in the hospital after a tonsilectomy. Naturally, I couldn't scream and I can never give anyone the satisfaction of crying so I had to laugh... So loud the nurse came to see what was happening. I don't know what went down after that as I fell back to sleep (from stress no doubt). It must of scared him because he never gave me that kind of gift for my b-day again. After a few more years passed by he forgot my b-day entirely... So it has gone!
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Friday 21 August
By surfdocer
OMG! there is a new Jon and Kate! I want to obsess over them and act like I'm a part of their lives! I already just can't live without them!!
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Friday 21 August
By Meg
These people both sound stupid. He sounds extremely immature and she knew what she was getting into before she married him. I can't believe the things that she gripes about. At least her husband gave her cards on her birthday and took her out to eat. I think the calculator was actually a thoughtful gift. My ex (also extremely immature and lover of bathroom humor) never even wished me Happy Birthday. She focuses on the negative so much it's going to drive him away. For what it's worth, the sweater isn't that bad looking. And the fact that they've traveled? I'm 33 years old and have never traveled. My ex blew all our money all the time and the wonderful man I'm with now has no desire to travel. Trust me chickadee, you could be in an abusive relationship like I was, and THEN you can complain. Don't be so harsh on your hubby. He sounds like a fairly good guy for the most part.
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Friday 21 August
By joyce
Lets face it...everyone can be annoying. I am, and you people writting blogs certainly are. I've been married for 27 years. It's a good marriage and we will be together till death do we part. However, He annoys the shit out of me and I'm sure I do him. the first few years of marriage can be tough as you are learning the many quirks the other has brought with them. However, if you learn to get around them and learn to laugh at them instead of letting the annoy turn to anger they aren't going to get in the way of your marriage or happiness. My husband is the most thoughtful, caring, loving, considerate, honest, man I know. He seriously would do anything for me and I for him. Although, he has no fashion sense, I make suggestions what he could wear to certain events, parties etc. works out for the sake of a fashionable evening.
He is very quiet sometimes in groups. I can carry the conversations for both of us and find ways to include him and get him to loosen up. with all this being said, I have learned to over look the things that annoy me and work around them. He is aware that , that is what I'm doing and he sometimes does the same for me. We annoy each other and instead of getting angry we make a joke about it and laugh it off. I think everyone needs to loosen up. If you truely love the other person and remember why you married that person to begin with you should be able to overcome the annoying parts of the relationship. No one is perfect and neither will any marriage be. People are too quick to jump out of a relationship but it's not because they are annoyed it's because they are selfish.
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Friday 21 August
By RonnieD548
Your husband looks like seth green (that aint a compliment fot either of you). Maybe he was wearing the green sweater when he met you and it became his "lucky sweater"... I say don't make him change his mind
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Friday 21 August
By tiffanie
I spell my name that way!
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Friday 21 August
By jw
Friday 21 August
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We cannot change what 2.9 million years of evolution has done to Homo Sapiens. Even if two consenting adults make it to the 10 year mark, they're faking it. :)....
You poor miguided soul, we have not been around nearly that long and I have been married to the same woman for 50 yrs and am not faking it. I actually love and like my wife. It has not always been smooth going but the rough spots make for even better good times. I feel sorry for you, you must be miserable.
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Friday 21 August
By joyce
for you that said you'd rather look at his sweater than her face. I think she is cute. For you that said the marriage wont last. I would bet it will. For you that said: Women don't care about funny. You are wrong. women like to laugh. Women like men who are not so tense. Funny makes better personality,
for you that said women only care about money, your wrong we care about more. Money, size, fashion, personality, looks, size, height, weight, size, lol we care about the same things in a relationship as men do. We want stability just like men do. Now there are always those women whom I guess do just care about money but in a real loving relationship most of us care about the other stuff. I do know men who are in relationships for the money too. I know women who just don't know how or don't care to be a good wife. Wont cook, wont clean, wont work, want to be pampered and treated like a queen and that is there life. I on the other hand choose to be a good wife and for the most part I treat my husband like a king but on the other hand he treats me like a queen but we have things in perspective and I still do my part in the marriage and he does his.
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Friday 21 August
By BILL
My husband and I (we're gay) have been together 26 years. So much for the hatemongering Christians. I wish ALL couples happiness.
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Friday 21 August
By Dave Baum
Look, marriage isn't perfect. I do not care how much godly bliss there is to it, it's never perfect. People is people. We get sarcastic, selfish, and annoying to one another. But, there is two keys to having a good marriage. Understanding and friendship. And, if you can not 'stomach' what a person says or does, that means that you never 'understood' them. Maybe, they like annoying each other. Some do that and fight .Because, if they didn't they would be bored. And, if you are bored, that means there's no friendship. The lust part is only when the naughty bits get all worked up. That chemistry thing..ya know.
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Friday 21 August
By Annoyed Newlywed
I am a newlywed (April 2009) and my husband annoys the crap out of me (as I'm sure I do him as well) but I wouldn't have it any other way. Just because we have habits that annoy each other doesn't make us love the other any less. I love him in spite of his annoyances. It's refreshing to see the honesty of this article, to see that NOT all newlyweds are blissful 24 hours of every day. And as for the people who commented that their marriage will be done in a year or so, who are you to say that they won't last? All marriages will last as long as you love each other, are faithful to each other and try to make each day better than the previous.
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Friday 21 August
By ms steward
The calculator comment was leading into the atricle...not a comment the woman made about her husband....it funny how people really don't comprehend or just don't read the entire article ...interject their thoughts (things that are not mentioned in the article) into the article. Read it and take it for what it is. ....She never said she didn't love him...she never said she wanted to change him...She simply made an observation and shared her true feelings about it....Her husband thinks it's funny...and he has the right to monitor what she posts...which says ,she respect him...The post never would have existed if he hadn't given his approval...The reason many marriages fail is because people pretend that the little things that annoy them are cute or don't bother them....by not saying it....it grows and turns to resentment..This couple is being honest and open....Being annoying is not a deal breaker for most people....those little annoying habits can become enduring after a while....that's not to say they are no longer annoying but because they are apart of that person ,you would miss it if they were not there....My husband snores... (and it's annoying) and even though...I can sleep more now....I'm still very aware of his snoring.... and it is annoying still ..after not getting a good nite sleep the first month after marriage.....I left him a note saying I'd rather not sleep and have you beside me than not sleep because you are not beside. I married him flaws and all(he has many just as I do) but we do talk about them and joke about them....some (like the snoring) we joke about with our friends and they do the same....this couple shares theirs via the net...it's the age we live in...Their marriage will last as long as they remain in love,talk about what annoys them, compromise and laugh about the things that are just not that crucial...oh we've been married 25 yrs....I 'm crazy about him and he's crazy about me...I'm still tired though from not being able to enjoy a deep sleep...lol...
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Friday 21 August
By nate154
Man, her husband sounds hilarious, lol, "NO DEAL!"
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Friday 21 August
By hey cheryl!
who cares! (and why am i even bothering to reply...because it's just STUPID!)
they are both annoying and boring.
get a life...and KEEP US OUT OF IT!
(whine to your mommy! i'm sure she'll be sympathetic...after all, don't we marry our dads?)
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Friday 21 August
By Kath
I find this blog to be absolutely hilarious! I cannot stop laughing. She says the things we all think, and I love it!!!!! Keep up the good work!
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Friday 21 August
By Yaya
After 10 years you're faking it? lol if that statement don't beat all. I've been married to the same man for over 20 years- I am a very happy camper and if you ask him, he'll tell you the same. My parents have been married a little over 50 years and my grandparents were married over 70 years until they both passed. I definitely needed a laugh today-thanks whoever said "after 10 years you are faking it" lol
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