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Things in your relationship are winding down or just not working out. Do you subconsciously start looking around for a new dude? Or, to put it another way, are you one of those girls who's had a boyfriend since she was 14? According to MSNBC's Dr. Gail Saltz, it's maybe not such a good idea -- by finding a replacement before you've even broken up, you've abandoned the notion of trying to fix the problems in your relationship, while also denying yourself the time once you've split to figure out why things went wrong or consider what to look for in your next relationship.
Still, it seems like most women in relationships add interesting men to their mental Rolodexes under "Maybe someday ... " Doesn't everyone keep those unexplored sparks burning in the back of their minds as a relationship plan B?
If you and your partner broke up tomorrow, do you already know whom you'd date next?
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Thursday 20 August
By Heather
I feel so happy! For the first time in my life, I really don't. If my girlfriend and I broke up tomorrow, I have no one on the back burner. If you think hetero women do that, they really have nothing on us lesbians. Holy crap, we always have someone in the wings. (How many puns can I use in this comment?) Anyway. I must be growing emotionally. Yay me.
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Thursday 20 August
By L. Lohan
Heather,
Single? cooool. Want to get together and bump 'ginas? LHo
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Saturday 29 August
By Rissa
Actually, i have plans to be with a guy i was with in high school. Me and my boyfriend of 11 yrs are still together. We have 3 kids. But our relationship is dead. After high school, my ex moved away to the big island of hawaii, but whenever he comes back here to see family, he visits me. And its like we continue where we left off 15 years ago. He also has a family of his own too. He has 7 kids. Anyway, he is currently serving time. And he is doing his time here in Honolulu. We look forward to being together when he comes out. He is my soulmate.
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Monday 24 August
By Lwordfem
Heather,
I was in a 10 years relationship with a woman (lesbian all my life) and i never had the thought about having someone on the side wing.However,after the break up going on to 3 years now GIIRRRL..... I have dated, dated, dated and dated!I didn't know what i was missing! If your not sure about the person your with depending on the length of time that is , why not have a backup! LOL
Now,it's been 1 month only but I think i've found someone that might be my match ...but nevertheless mentally i'm ready for what ever comes my way.
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