Want to learn the secret to knowing if a dude is into you? According to YourTango, a simple, mutual glance is all you need. If the eye contact continues throughout the night, odds are he's wishing it was more than just your pupils that were locking.We've all been there. One minute we're getting busted staring at a random boy at the bar, two hours later we're making out, and soon he's our boyfriend.
But of course there are other attractive forces at work. We asked some of our girlfriends what attracts them to a dude for the first time.
Click here to read their responses after the jump.
It's all in the clothing
"It might sound superficial, but I tend to be attracted to guys with a similar disheveled yet put together style," said Megan, 22. "It's not that I wouldn't give someone who dressed a little differently a chance, but if he's dressed to my liking, odds are I'd be a lot less likely to turn him away. And, if we started dating, I could check clothing makeover off my list of things I hoped to change in him!"
Scents of attraction
"Eye contact may initially cause me to swoon, but if he smells great, I end up falling head over heels," said Kristina, 25. "If a guy who I hit it off with smells nice, you can probably find me following him around for the rest of the night just to get a whiff!"
Something called personality
"A few weeks ago I noticed that this guy kept looking at me while I was out with my friends," said Melissa, 23. "On the looks scale I'd have to say he was average, not someone who would normally catch my eye, but we eventually struck up a conversation and actually hit it off. So I would have to say when it comes to being attracted to someone else, for me it's not always a physical thing because looks can definitely be deceiving."
Four eyes
"I've got a thing for men in glasses," said Sara, 22. "I'm one of those girls who find 'nerdy' a major turn-on. Glasses give a dude a more sexy, sophisticated and intelligent look even if there's really nothing between their ears!"
So tell us: What's the first thing you find attractive in the opposite sex? What's the least important thing?




















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Tuesday 28 July
By erin
I agree with Kristina. But I don't need fancy cologne. The smell of Old Spice High Endurance is totally sexy to me
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Tuesday 28 July
By S
Intelligence and Respect is what attracts me. When a person is nice and respectful and can connect with you on a personal level like share the same values and outlook on life then I can move forward and be attracted to the person. I'm all about being treated as I deserve and well. I agree with Sara minus the glasses. Nerds don't always look like nerds. Glasses or not it's all about the person. Also, I have to be with a man who believes in chivalry or else it would not work out.
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Saturday 08 August
By christopher
Women say this, but they sleep with the guys who treat them like crap. I have no idea why, but they do.
Wednesday 29 July
By Keren
the first thing i notice about a guy is there hair. it has to be sexy.
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Saturday 08 August
By andy
What if he has no hair?
Sunday 02 August
By mymarie59
for me its the way a guy looks into my eyes. Usually I can tell if there's chemistry between us just by his eyes.
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Monday 10 August
By Alex
The first thing I notice is hands. There's nothing sexier than a man with rough hard working hands.
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Saturday 08 August
By southerngirl
Same here............ it's the hands that I notice! Gotta have strong, thick hands that are signs of a hard working man...........
Saturday 08 August
By MYTAKE
From this side, a man's, initially I like a steady look into the eyes, a brief but genuine smile, a turning of her head to whatever she was involved in, then a glance back. It's classic and it's sexy as hell, showing intelligence with the eye contact that isn't furtive or sultry or ditzy or anyting not genuine, just a desire to know what you're about.
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Saturday 08 August
By emma
i realized that i am attracted to guys that have similar taste in clothes and even have similar features. i am blonde and blue eyed so i tend to be attracted to guys with light hair (light brown, red, blonde) and eyes (blue, green). i guess this is why so many couples tend to look alike. i would say my stereotypical type of guy looks like a jude law/david beckham mix. i love they're hairstyles and how they dress. then again personality and interests are the most important!
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Saturday 08 August
By Debborah
I like a hairy guy. If I see hair coming from their shirt, or see hair on the chest and back at the beach.....I'm a goner! I'm just a hair freak I guess. To me, it's a very masculine trait. So is baldness. That doesn't bother me in the least, as long as there's hair, hair. long beautiful hair everywhere else!
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Saturday 08 August
By robtheblogger6
Oh this is bullsh*t. Women these days are shallow c*unts. They expect a guy to look like a GQ model and ditch him if he doesn't spend all his money on her.
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Saturday 08 August
By Eddy
I love you man !!! Your my new hero. You tell it like it is with no BS.
Sunday 09 August
By Julie
Gee, Rob...you sound bitter.........is that why you feel the need to use such filthy language? From a woman's perspective, I'm guessing you aren't in a relationship.......and it's no wonder, with such a bad attitude....
One last thing..........DO NOT GENERALIZE.......NOT ALL WOMEN ARE LIKE THAT. GROW UP!!!
Saturday 08 August
By loonieflirt08
Wow, I totally have to agree. Nice but casual clothing, nice smell, pretty eyes and a great smile are all total turn-ons.
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Saturday 08 August
By Olllie
It has to be their voice always the voice
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Saturday 08 August
By ren
Wow, what a stupid list. I can understand and even expect something trite like "personality" to be on the list, but the others really just demonstrate how individually picky so many women are...then we complain about men only caring about looks and sex. What, so it's okay for us to be shallow, unrealistic and generally just pick men based on the wrong things just because there are 10 million dumb criteria on our lists vs the two dumb ones men have on theirs? No wonder so many women whine about wanting a man and not having one.
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Sunday 09 August
By s
Actually men are much more unrealistic than women. Men have a higher reputation of watching porn and owning stashes of playboy magazines etc. Also, women majority of them feel incompetent and not good enough for men. Men are a huge part of why women have low self esteem and get crazy over jealousy about being prettier than one another because men make women feel that looks power everything. Not all women feel jealous of each other because men make them feel that way but I feel it's more of how others view then rather than how they view themselves. Not saying we all don't want to be good looking but most people want it for the approval of others.
Christopher, I stopped dating jerks for a whole year. I think I am doing fine. I am looking and wanting more. Men say a lot of things and do the opposite as well not just women. men say they don't like slutty women but always go for one. Also, the sluttier the woman looks it seems the more attracted they are to them.
Sunday 09 August
By Max
I agree with Ren. There's a saying I heard from a good, kind-hearted guy who was cheated on by his long-time girlfriend. "Women ask where all the good guys are. If they're not being looked over, they're being screwed over." Two things are true about women. They know they want what they can't have, and they really don't know what they want. See the paradox? The fact is, it's really just easier to be an attractive, in shape, college-age guy. And you get extra points if you're in a fraternity. Girls may deny, deny, deny this... but I watch this happen every weekend.
Saturday 08 August
By kitty witte
Respect and honor. Gentlemen, it is so rare. If you have this in your fabric and character you will zoom to the top.
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