You can go online to figure out whether you should see a doctor about that rash -- should you also go online to figure out whether your ex-husband is a sociopath? Probably not, but in Mary Jo Buttafuoco's new memoir, "Getting It Through My Thick Skull," she diagnoses ex Joey Buttafuoco as a "very good sociopath and liar," because he meets Wikipedia's definitions of antisocial personality disorder. (Well, and the fact that he enlisted a teenager to shoot her in the face.)
This news immediately got everyone Googling stuff like "sociopathic tendencies," presumably as they tried to diagnose the special men in their own lives. After the jump, find out what qualities make up a sociopath.
According to the DSMR-IV (Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders), a sociopath demonstrates a clear disregard for the rights and well-being of other people, as well as meeting three of the following characteristics:
(1) failure to conform to social norms with respect to lawful behaviors, as indicated by repeatedly performing acts that are grounds for arrest
(2) deceitfulness, as indicated by repeated lying, use of aliases, or conning others for personal profit or pleasure
(3) impulsivity or failure to plan ahead
(4) irritability and aggressiveness, as indicated by repeated physical fights or assaults
(5) reckless disregard for the safety of self or others
(6) consistent irresponsibility, as indicated by repeated failure to sustain consistent work behavior or honor financial obligations
(7) lack of remorse, as indicated by being indifferent to or rationalizing having hurt, mistreated or stolen from another
Is it just us, or does this sound like every ex-boyfriend you've ever had?












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Wednesday 29 July
By Linda
My ex was a sociapath. Oh.. what a charmer. Weird as hell, he was a womanizer too! Consistenly wanting to argue, quote the bible and turn everything around so he would look abused, He cheated, lied and stole from everybody he was close to. Even his mother.
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Wednesday 29 July
By Susan Cox
#8 - Their motto is "What's in it for ME!"
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Thursday 30 July
By Kim
@ Linda
Yikes, I feel for you! Your ex sounds like a real sociopatch ..Lieing and stealing from his own mother?!
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Monday 03 August
By Paige
I have at least 3 of those characteristics. Uh-oh.
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Monday 03 August
By alice
they are all sociopaths
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Saturday 15 August
By Marie
Amen Alice!!! I agree 100%...my husband ran away to another state with his Mother!!!!
Monday 03 August
By Denise
My ex TOTALLY fit the biil for all 7. He was a CRUEL man who beat the Devil out of me daily. When I finally left him and had the nerve to Divorce him, he went through several policemen at the Courthouse to try and get to me......I hid from him for a total of 9 years. only to find that last year he raped and muredered a 13 year ols girl and threw her under his bed. I tried to keep him in jail, but to the law I was just a spiteful ex-wife. This is a Good List to PRINT,LAMINATE and have on hand for friends, daughters and any woman mystified by her BAD BOY!!!!
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Monday 03 August
By Denise
Sorry for the misspelled words I get shaky and nervous just thinking about him.
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Tuesday 04 August
By Denise
Sorry for all of the misspelled words. I get shaky and nervous just thinking about him.
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Monday 03 August
By Pat
it's some real sicko's out there, I am married to a good man, yeah, we argue from time to time, and, yes, we do get tired of each other too, howeve,
you know what they always say....?
you know what you have at home, you don't know what you have in the streets.....?
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Wednesday 05 August
By BIX
JOEY BUTTAFUOCO IS A FIRST CLASS LOSER , HE IS FAT , SO FREAKING UGLY , A SOPRANO WANNA BE , AND HE DOESNT EVEN KNOW THE MULLET IS OUT OF STYLE LMAOOOO.
AMY IS NO PRIZE EITHER :-)
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Wednesday 05 August
By susan walker
dear joey want to tell u what a slimmey person u are .maryjoe finally woke up to see what a airhead she was to u ruin not only her life but also your children life i am proud that your ex came out to show u what a sleezy person u are you get what u weap
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Friday 07 August
By blueheron
I hear all these women bitch about their sociopath ex-husbands. Who married these guys???? Maybe we need to come up with a new word to describe the affliction of a woman who marries a sociopath. Remember, baby, it always takes two to tango.
Hasta la vista!
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Monday 10 August
By Susan
I lived with a sociopath for 7 years. A certified one, diagnosed by a psychiatrist...it's not like I decided he was one. He truly was.He would get caught doing something stupid, and by the time the arguement was over, I would be the one apologizing. These people will tell you the sky is green and the ocean is blue...and you would believe them. The lies came faster than the truth, and he would actually believe them. I left him 13 years ago, and he still calls me. After 3 years of not picking up the phone, he STILL doesn't get it.
Wednesday 19 August
By Linda
ya know what....it took me years to figure my ex-husband out. He claimed to love me more than anything....and at times, I felt it. But at other times, all he was concerned about was himself. Not me. Not our 3 kids. Not financial issues. If he got mad at someone at work, he would say F-U...(to put it mildly) and quit his job. Then, by the time I figured out how mentally disturbed he was, I was afraid to leave him. He woud say things like, "I will just blow my brains out like your dad did." Like my dad. I will never forget how bad that hurt. I finally divorced him last year, with 3 teenage kids, not working full time, and $950 rent. And do you know how much Ca maxium cash aid (welfare) is? It is $821 for 4 people. And for some reason, I have not gotten that even once...lol...and no child support. They will do what they can to get it out of him, but.....it has been a really bad year and 1/2....but I have my kids.
Tuesday 01 September
By Michelle
None of these people are crazy, nor did they 'marry' the people they are describing. You will know what everyone is talking about if and when you encounter it, and I pray you never do.............................
Monday 03 May
By joseph
Gee...go after the victim...sociopath much?
Monday 19 September
By Shelly Meyer
You obviously don't understand what a sociopath does. They charm you and make you believe they are good people until the "I Dos", then they turn into a monster. Yes, I was probably naive at the time I married my son's father (not only is he a sociopath, he is Satan in carnate). But He led me to believe he was a good person until a week after we were married, then his true colours showed.
Saturday 08 August
By besoldadd
My ex has all of the above listed characteristics. Then that's why she is my ex. She even stole from her grandmother and mother. Still is lying, stealing and cheating with her new boyfriend. Some people never change. But then sociopaths never do. If you are in a relationship where the other wants to keep tabs on everything, when are you coming home, where are you and so on. RUN DON'T WALK from them as quickly as you can. YOU ARE WITH A SOCIAPATH
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Wednesday 19 August
By g. zarcone
Amen to that.