We've all been warned about characters we should avoid bedding, but what happens when you hit the sack with a great guy -- only to discover that the sex stinks. There are plenty of things that can speed up a relationship's demise -- like cheating, fighting and bad chemistry. And considering just how important sex is supposed to be, it's no wonder that a bedroom problem can doom a relationship.
So if you're feeling a guilty thinking about calling it quits with your current flame because he is lacking in the sex department, you're not alone -- we talked to three girls who ended things because of bad booty.
Click here to read their stories after the jump.
"He Stopped Trying"
"My boyfriend and I had been dating for a year-and-a-half when I started to notice a decline in the amount of sex we had and in the quality of sex on the rare occasions we actually did it," said Katie, 25. "My boyfriend seemed to think wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am sex was enough to fulfill both our needs.
"I spoke up about my issues with our sex life a number of times, and when nothing changed I had no choice but to break up with him. While sex wasn't the only problem in our relationship, I couldn't get over the fact that he was so selfish in the sack and my needs always came second."
Speedy Suitor
"I was casually dating this guy who I thought I wanted to get serious with, until I found out he couldn't last more than three minutes in the sack," said Michelle, 22. "I gave him a few opportunities to improve his moves in the bedroom because I thought the more we did it the longer it would last, but that wasn't the case, and I don't want no one-minute man."
Fetish Freakout
"My ex-boyfriend and I had a great sex life until four months into the relationship, when he asked me to talk dirty to him, which is something I'm not comfortable with," said Sara, 24. "I guess he thought it was time to spice things up but I was so turned off that I ended the sex session right then and there and explained to him there was no way I would do that. In return he confided in me that talking dirty was his biggest turn-on. We had sex a few more times after that, but it wasn't the same, so we decided to cut our losses and end things."
Tell us: Have you ever ended your relationship because your sex life was less than great? When did you finally decide that you'd had enough?












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Tuesday 14 July
By Edie
Sara sounds like a wet blanket that did her bf the favor by ending things.
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Saturday 29 August
By Mrs. Max
Bad sex has killed many of my relationships. Let's be honest, if it's good no problem, but if it's bad PROBLEM! Yes I know it isn't all about the sex, but in reality bad sex = "Friend Zone". Never to engage in sexual contact again and we all know it. I'm glad that I'm married to a man that knows exactly how to please me sexually, that dating thing made me get disgusted. It's amazing how many men don't have a dayum clue and swear they're moving the world...SMH! I've also heard the horror stories men have told about women who aren't exactly doing it for them but it's a hole so why not, until somethng better comes along. Oh well, my sex-life is great, do something if yours isn't (((wink))).
Tuesday 14 July
By Edie
OK - I feel bad about my mean comment. PMS
I should have been kinder.
Sara and her BF were clearly not a good match. She did both of them a favor.
you like what you like!
To each his own...
blah blah blah
ok then..... back to youporn
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Wednesday 15 July
By Terri
My man is wonderful!!! Hes gorgeous, sweet, considerate. He cooks everyday..cleans..does the trash..makes my java..brings me water..anything I want...except...he doesn't like sex! Oh, hes great in the bed. He will do oral anytime..and do it well. But he was abused as a child and thinks that may have affected him. He started out with crazy excuses about an hour before bedtime ( he had been in cleaner that day and his hands smelled of it so no sex tonight baby...or you think you might start your period soon so no sex tonight honey, or you look tired so no sex tonight my love.) just a million different excuses not to have sex. Hes not gay. And I know he truly loves me deeply. Hes even told me he talked to the girls at work and most of them would rather have a good man that holds them after a hard day or cooks for them...and no more sex would be perfect for them! I told him..sorry, but I'm not dead from the waste down yet. I felt mean afterward but I guess I was hurt he was hoping I would be more like them. I am crazy in love with him and other than that little problem..we are perfect together. But I don't know what to do with this problem. I cant forget my sexual needs...especially now that I've faced it..i...ts all I seem to think about now, lol. Oh and this too....he will go all week with just a quick bath..no shaving...totally bummed out when hes home with me..but when he gets ready for work...he showers, shaves, trims his hair perfectly, does his nails..puts on my favorite cologne! Then off to the "girls". Yep, I kinda resent it. I talked to him about it..he just kinda laughed at me and said he doesn't want to stink at work. I love him..but I do hope this is something that I will be able to handle better in time.
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Wednesday 15 July
By Lora
Terri-
If he's not gay, he sounds like a keeper! Pressuring him & using other things to assuage him won't work. I kinda learned the same thing. My hubby & I have been together 5 years & married for 4 & he sounds very similar in nature to your man. I was kinda in similar situation where I am more aggressive & would have done it daily with him, except he doesn't roll like that. Turns out he is a a very sensitive soul & had to deal with a lot in childhood, as well as mental illness that runs in his family. I kinda knew what I was getting into when I said "I do" and I meant it, but I thought with being married, it'd losen him up...but it didn't...for 2 years I kinda felt rejected when my hints & advances didn't yield as much fruit as I thought was "normal"...but then I remembered & thought about all of his MANY good qualities that you can NOT find in 97-98% of the men who ARE straight out there...and that got me to feeling more appreciative of all he is & made me want to help him through any sexual/mental frustrations & upsets he was having. I put aside my needs & wants for a time to recognize what HE was needing & wanting. And the more I did that, the more I discovered him spiritually. Our communication built up rather than hitting a brick wall & one night during an intense conversation, just with so much emotion going on, something clicked between us & from that point on, it's seemed like we've become one complete person in many ways...I became more "docile" and nurturing & he became more connected with me & more "open", dare I say...aggressive with all levels of us bonding in our love, whether it be verbal, spiritual, or physical communication.
If you hang in there for him & take off the pressure, I think he'll find the security he may be needing in order to "go there" with you. If he's a sweet, loving, handsome soul, like my hubby, part of the mental block may be the giving of himself to someone who'll end up leaving him??? Time for you 2 to really have a soul to soul, as opposed a heart to heart...when you appeal to someone's soul for THEIR own betterment & not seeking your own needs, you can NEVER go wrong.
Good luck & God bless!
Sunday 19 July
By Tyler
Jeez. Sorry to say this but he sounds like an asshole.
Friday 17 July
By sleepdogg
Your problem is easy to fix Terri just give me a way to get a hold of you and that ignored fine ass and ill pound away at your horny sexXxy holes day or night!
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Tuesday 21 July
By Joice
I am wondering if there is an easy way to find my soul mate or sexy partner! I find that it's not difficult to find my Mr.right when I saw MillionaireCupid.org, There are many sexy beauties and wealthy singles on that dating site, U may have a try!
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Sunday 26 July
By sunshine
I'm a sexy girl, looking for friends maybe love. I love to hang out and have a good time..not into drama of fake people.. So if you're real and want to have a good time, why don't you find me out at __MillionaireCupid.org__, I am waiting ya~
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Wednesday 29 July
By TC
yes sex has messed up my relationship once but as of now hell naw i love ma sex life!!!!
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Sunday 16 August
By Ivy
my fiance loves sex, and from what i gather, he knows what he's doing... but it's ME with the problem... ive always had a very negative outlook on sex, it has to do with how i was raised and also some bad pest experiences... and still to this day this guy goes months at a time without getting any... i dont know why he's still with me. D:
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Wednesday 19 August
By wondergirl
My fiance has totally changed his sexual appetite with me. When we first began dating we had sex pretty frequently. As the months and years went on, the sex became less and less. We talked about it, numerous times, and he said that our relationship was much more than anything he had ever had and not just based on sex. Our connection and soul mate status was much more meaningful than sex. He knows I have a big sexual appetite. He apologizes for the lack of, but he talks to other females online that are "friends" about sex, meeting them (don't know if he has since we've been together), etc., but he says they are just talking. Hummmm. Gotta wonder. I am really getting frustrated with the entire thing. He does have some health issues and stress issues that I do believe is causing some of the problem, but it's really beginning to make me wonder if he was a sex machine before we started dating, why stop with me? We are not really young, but young enough to have great sex when the "mood" strikes. It makes me feel that it's me and that porn is the only way he can get in the mood for me. If that is it, why are we together? He gives me everything I want, takes care of me, and says he loves me more than he has ever loved anyone before. then WHY??????? I don't pressure anymore. I get disappointed too much. I've just let it rest but that doesn't make me not want him any less. I'm not a cheater and I hope he isn't cheating and is too tired for me because of that. I HATE online chatting now. I used to like it, but it is causing major problems for us. He wants to keep his single status with these people and not let on we are engaged. That's a problem too. I am totally confused in the fact that he is a great provider, I thought committed, but now I'm wondering. What do you all think. I could go on and on about this, but it upsets me to keep thinking about it. Thanks.
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Monday 07 September
By Tabitha
I have been in a relationship that has recently been on and off. Not only does my boyfriend have a foot fetish. He also refused to have sex with me because he wasnt "ready". But really he just decided that sometimes he was other times he wasn't. So we would have sex and he would make me feel guilty abot it later. It has lead to us breaking up three times or so.
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Thursday 08 October
By idris m jimada
love is a big thing in human being heart
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Saturday 24 October
By anononymous
Well i noticed all the examples used are the 3 stereotypical case scenarios but what if say the guy was lasting TO long for the girl?
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Sunday 14 February
By Stacey44
I had THE WORST SEX of my life last night with a guy I was actually considering dating seriously. We'd been out on several dates, hit it off and I really liked the guy...until I found out he sucked in bed. He had a really small penis. I mean REALLY small...felt like I put in a tampon. I could barely feel him. I was so disappointed when I saw how small he was (size absolutely matters!) but hoped he might make up for it by being extra good in the oral department. He failed miserably there too. I'm perplexed about his lack of skill because he was married for 9 years! I feel sorry for his ex because I can't imagine anyone enjoying what he was puttin down. It was pathetic. Needless to say I won't be seeing him anymore. There's no way I could live with that.
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Monday 22 February
By happy80
He sounds like my ex, is he from az?
Monday 10 May
By BigY
Sarah Sounds fine to me. Dirty talk = distracting, unbelievable (not in a good way), if not laughable. I'd rather have Sarah then a bunch of ooh baby porn crap.
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Thursday 27 May
By bohica
Yes, bad sex can ruin a relationship. Since my divorce, I've "dated" two guys and both of them sucked, sucked, sucked in the sex department. Both were WBTYM guys and both had been married before and fathers! I sure didn't understand why they were so damn lousy in bed and I felt for their ex wives. Because the sex was soooooooo bad, I ended the relationships. I tried over and over to "teach" them, but nothing ever got any better. Just plain awful. And not worth it.
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Saturday 23 October
By Lucky13
I have been with this guy for 6 months. He is incredibly good to me. Sending flowers, buying jewelry and just a "great" person in general. However, one problem....sex between the two of us is awful. I have YET to have an orgasm without finishing off the process myself. I have tried to tell him what I want. I've even gone so far as taking his hand and litteraly showing him where and how to touch me. He just doesn't get it! Granted, he is getting what he needs and then it's pretty much done for the night. Don't get me wrong...he will spend all night trying if I wanted, but it just doesn't happen...so I usually take care of business myself or I resort to the dreaded Fake Orgasm, just so he doesn't get his self esteem squashed. He's such a good man and he completely adores me, but how can I truly adore him back when I am not being satisfies sexually? Am I putting too much weight into this. Should I just be thrilled that I have found someone who is faithful and so good to me?
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