So your BFF has been permanently claimed by her BF-cum-fiancee. And you need to give her an amazing last night of being single before she moves over to the married side. An at-home party can save you mucho dollars, not to mention the expense of de-germifying yourself after a night at the campy-but-creepy male strip joint. You can reach maximum debauchery and minimize the chance that pictures will wind up online. Here's all it takes ...
The Guest List
More so than other event, the company can make or break your bachelorette party. The guest of honor should spend this night in total comfort and maximum fun, so make it P. Diddy-level exclusive.
Give your bridepal total veto power over the invite list. Limit it to best pals and family members who can be trusted. If her cousin Liza is a wet blanket and will tell everyone what happened, don't ask her. Use online invites, which are easier to keep hidden from nosy fiancees.
Bridesmaid Dress Messes
Look, they beat up four goth girls on their way to Homecoming.
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Patriotism is a pretty...unusual wedding theme. Not sure how the racing flag comes into play.
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When they gave those bridesmaids the pouches to dangle from their arms, they didn't realize they would be used primarily as a hiding place for whiskey.
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It's weird that the "waist necktie" never became more popular.
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This is like that scene in "Gone With The Wind" when she makes that dress out of curtains, only these are made of mauve polyester and there are six of them!
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Vampires or superheroes -- what theme were they going for?
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Okay. Truthfully it's hard to complain about a dachshund in pearls.
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Prim, proper and oh-so purple.
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Gah! The giant spider on her head has been pooping crystals on her dress!
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It's very important that everyone knows your bridesmaid also has a black belt in Karate.
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Click here to read more how-to after the jump.
The Basics
Her wedding, her rules. Find out what your honoree has in mind, so she's not appalled or disappointed -- spa treatments and martinis? A stripper? A sleepover? A last-minute intervention?
Learn a lesson from Bradley and Zach et al: Schedule your fete several days or weekends before the big day, in case anyone winds up hung over, in jail or lost in the Mojave.
The Decor
This is the one time in life when phallic decor is de rigueur: If you can put a weenie on it, do. Hit up adult or lingerie shops for potentially offensive items that would normally offend your delicate tastes.
Steer clear of too many mass-produced "bride-to-be" accessories, opting instead for personalized touches like photos of your gal with some of her worst former paramours (provided she's over it, of course).
Have bridesmaids collaborate on the perfect DIY headpiece for her style, whether it's a Madonna-style veil (just affix lace to a basic headband with hot glue), or a trucker hat decorated with fabric markers.
The Food and Drink
If the lady of the evening is in full-tilt diet mode, don't tempt her with sweets and junk food; pick appetizers that are on her approved list so she at least has something to absorb the liquor. If she is eating, stock up on her favorites.
Whether she likes sugar highs or boozy buzzes, you want her loose enough for the various dares/games/tasks you are going to put her through. Create cocktails with a wedding-friendly twist, like Russian Mail Order Brides (regular white Russians with stamps on the glasses) or Cold Feet -- a pomegranate martini over crushed ice.
The Entertainment
Invite your betrothed friend to make a bucket list of last-minute to do's she wants to accomplish before she becomes a wife. If she's mum, a rousing game of Truth or Dare should help inspire her. If you're having "adult" entertainment, make sure it's a little out of the ordinary -- like a male stripper dressed in a slutty version of her fiancee's profession.












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Friday 24 July
By brown
I dont get bachelorette and bachelor partoes and the saying " last night of being single" if youve been with your other half for months or years up to the point of the wedding YOU HAVENT BEEN SINGLE FOR A LONG TIME. its stupid and ends up ruining allot of marraiges because of stupid immature friends throwing ridiculous parties!
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Tuesday 04 August
By kitty
I totally agree with you..its such a stupid concept and I dont even understand the reasoning behind it. Especially for men here they say its their last day of freedom-well then dont get married if you feel that way. Have a party but is it really necessary to have strippers/hookers and etc.?..lol
Thursday 06 August
By Mitzi
I agree with you 100%. My fiancee did the bachelor thing before he met me. He said, "been there, done that." It's so stupid to have one last night to CHEAT on your fiancee (that's what it is...strippers giving lap dances to your future HUSBAND is cheating). We're not having bachelor/bachelorette parties. We're in our 30s and if a man isn't ready to get married, he'll want to do the stripper thing. But when it's time, all of that stuff seems stupid. Why cheat to celebrate a marriage?
Monday 10 August
By brown
again, i am marrying my fiance next year 2010. we are going to do the jack and jill party. where we all party together. it was her idea, and i love it. ive lived my life of single hood to the fullest. i dont want a stripper or so on etc etc. ive bee nto enough bachelor parties and we all know what goes on... but ive also run into to bacherolette parties an dthe women may be worse. if a man or woman wants a night or weekend out alone with the crew then go, but dont come back if its for a one last hurra!
Tuesday 11 August
By _buttercup_
i absolutely agree! i simply do not understand the purpose. and i get mad when someone tells me it's a "tradition." of what? *sigh* i do trust my fiance. we have discussed the issue of having and not having a stripper, and he knows how i feel about it. it's his male friends i don't trust! because even if he tells them that there should be no stripper, i'm sure they will get one! we'll see.
Saturday 29 August
By Jennisy
i completely agree. i don't agree on those parties.
Friday 24 July
By amelia
I had my bachlorette party with a company Fashion Fix. It was a Fashion Party. All my girlfriends bought me honey moon clothes and it was awesome. It didnt cost anything for the company to come other than a deposit to hold the date. All my girlfriends shopped together and had the best time. Then we hit the Bars dressed to kill. Great Party!! www.fashionfixnj.com that is the site
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Friday 24 July
By Chrissy
Well... As far as those bridesmaid gowns go... Only a handfull of them were really bad. I thought the 4th-of-July wedding theme was actually pretty cool, and the dresses weren't bad! Neither were the goth-ish ones.
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Saturday 25 July
By Sarah
Those bridesmaid dresses really weren't too bad - the "worst" ones were simply outdated. You can't make fun of old styles.. they were probably beautiful when they were worn.
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Wednesday 29 July
By nichol ruby
I am a Pure Romance consultant and our parties are PERFECT for CLASSY events like what this article talks about.
We are super fun... located ALL OVER ... and the parties are FREE. If you want to throw one, just go to www.pureromance.com and there is a link to find a consultant near YOU>
You even get a free gift and 10% of the party total for hosting!
Always classy... never trashy!
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Thursday 06 August
By The Rev Dr Feelgood
I have been offering a great bachelore/ette party idea for several years now...I call it a "let'snot and say we did party", or "another way to take a trip without leaving the farm"....I am talking about haveing a HYPNOTIC BACHELORETTE party!!! Let's face it, the biggest concerns about these parties is that someone might get a little drunk and do something shall we say "regretfull". Well I do a comedy hypnosis party and I get people under and they THINK someone is naked or doing something naughty. One thing I like to do is ...if the guy is under. I tell him he's won a lap dance from miss nude world...then if SHE is also under, I tellher SHE IS miss nude world ...even if she is not under I let her do the dance...then right before she starts I tell him we just found out his fiance is in the audience...OMG... those women can be unmerciful on the guys and he won't touch her thinking she's watching in the audience...this can also be visa versa... non the less we do wild stuff and no one gets naked , hurt or too embarassing they can't joke about for years...The rev Dr feelgood... try it
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Wednesday 12 August
By Jamie
that sounds like a good idea... i think that i might suggest this type of thing with my fiance, that way we wont have to worry about what the other person is doing....thanks for the idea...!!
Wednesday 12 August
By Samatha
Hysterical, I've been to parties with hypnosis as the entertainment and they were great fun, not pre-marital parties but it sounds funny. It is even funnier to tell the people "what they did" and make up things they may feel guilty about and see how they react. Clever idea, better than the strip joints.
Tuesday 04 August
By Terra
My best friend was pressured into choosing her older unmarried sister as her Maid of Honor. This woman and her other older single sibling decided that it would be fun to make us go on a 'scavenger hunt.' It involved some really funny things like "Find a guy to serenade the bride" but the majority of it was encouraging girls to find male strangers to do things like "kiss one of the bridal party" and other really inappropriate things. They took us to a sports bar that admits minor to find people.
Everyone besides those two and the bride are under the age of 21 and the bride had requested a non-alcohol focused party. After they gave up on the scavenger hunt because everyone including the bride was really uncomfortable, they took us back home and started mixing drinks only those three could drink. The wouldn't leave the bride alone, making her drink (it was two nights before the wedding and she didn't want to get drunk or anything so soon) way more than she wanted, they went to bed then we started having real playing games and watching movies.
Oh and did I mention, that night she slept on the floor and the night before her wedding she slept on the couch because said sister wouldn't give up the bed. We tried to talk to the sisters but they threw fits and the bride didn't want a fight.
MoH's and bridesmaids, don't forget who's wedding it is. Seriously.
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Saturday 08 August
By retodded
Stupid suggestions from a stupid person .
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Wednesday 12 August
By samantha
Aren't you just a barrel of laughs retodded
Tuesday 11 August
By Marla
I agree with the article, Bachelor/ette Parties can start any marriage off on the wrong foot. I set up a lot of Bachelorette Parties where the bride-to-be is honored in the privacy of a home. We show all the Adult products including lingerie and everyone takes their stuff home that night! Check out www.Adulttoys4love.com. It's fun and safe!
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Wednesday 12 August
By kate
How is attaching a plastic penis to everything you can find, "More Class, Less Trash"?
I clicked on this article hoping for something that wouldn't encourage women to act like a ridiculous Girls Gone Wild episode, and yet...
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Wednesday 19 August
By mommyndaddy
Why not throw a Pure Romance party? They are perfect for this! There are no strippers, no cheating... just good silly fun. Buy some toys, lotions, potions for your big wedding night. The best part? It's FREE to host one and not only does the hostess get a free gift, but she also gets 10% of the party sales total towards her order. This is not a spammer thing.... I'm a wife and mother of soon to be 4. There is a LOCAL consultant near you just like Avon or any of those other companies. We are CLASSY and FUN! www.nicholruby.pureromance.com
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Monday 31 August
By a great friend and even better best man
You people don't get it. First of all, bachelor parties are very necessary, mostly for the entertainment of the groomsmen, and usually not a choice for bride or groom. It's not about having "one last chance to cheat on your fiancee" because if that's how you feel, you can always cheat on your WIFE or HUSBAND later (yes women cheat too, in fact, I've read AND witnessed that women are more likely than men to cheat during a bachelor/bachelorette party). One of my best friends and former roommates just got married last month and we threw him a fantastic bachelor party. Everyone had a blast, the groom said he would never forget that night (partly from our efforts, partly by chance, but many memories and stories were made), and yes at one point we were at a strip club. Big deal.
If you consider a lapdance cheating (HA!), you clearly have issues with sex/sexuality. I feel sorry for your husband. Look at it this way, if you can't trust your fiancee to behave for one night away from you, your marriage is going to suck. SUCK! What if he/she has to go out of town for a week on business? Are you going to be a wreck wondering what he/she is doing with whom? Make them phone in every hour? Tell them they can't go on the business trip even though it will hurt their career. If your fiancee is happy, satisfied with you, and truly wants to get married, there is no risk of cheating (besides, who wants to cheat with a nasty stripper? If you're going to cheat make it worth it).
Long leashes people. Tie people down and all they can think about is breaking free.
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