After a day of stepping barefoot on sharp little toy trucks and bending over approximately 27,000 times to grab small items, what some moms need is a good stiff drink.More and more moms are coming out of the closet clutching cosmopolitans and wearing lampshades on their heads. A whole culture of women who have kids and a fondness for daiquiris has sprung up on the internet, with blogs like Mommy Wants Vodka and Why Mom Drinks Rum supporting the cause.
There's also the awkwardly named Facebook group "Moms-who-sometimes-need-to-go-out-with-girlfriends-&-drink Secret Society," which grew to almost 200,000 members in three months.
Hmm, nobody's writing trend stories about all the dads drinking beer in their La-Z-Boys night after night. As long as moms aren't getting "Mommie Dearest" drunk and chopping down bushes in the middle of the night, is there anything unusual about tossing back a few after 16 hours of wrestling toddlers and folding underpants?
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Monday 10 August
By Gail
What does the "NEW BLACK" mean?? What is that slang for???
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Thursday 16 July
By mellowmom
The "new black" means the new trend - as in black, at least used to be THE color to wear, now brown is in vogue - has nothing to do with the color of your skin ... so don't get all up in arms!
Saturday 11 July
By formerlyblue
as long as it doesn't interfere with raising children, i don't have a problem with people drinking...but when it takes clothes, food, happiness, away from kids, then it's time to re-think the drinking.
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Saturday 11 July
By boredwell
It's not about the drink or drinks but drinking to get drunk to forget the cares and woes of being a mom. Sure, parenting is intensive labor, mostly a thankless one, at that with little or no downtime. But those who reach for the bottle, the 40 proof one, to calm down are just looking for an excuse to sedate rather than meditate on the cause and effect. Kids can sometimes make us pop our corks but it shouldn't drive us to the unwind via the corkscrew.
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Tuesday 14 July
By Chickadee
I'm a mom with an extremely hyper 18 month-old and I drink almost every night but not to sedate and forget about being a mom. You can't forget that you're a parent. It's just to relax, when you spend all day every day chasing a toddler around making sure that they don't get into things that they shouldn't, that they don't pull on the dogs ears too much, that they don't decide to make the toilet bowl into a makeshift swimming pool... you need some way to just sit down and take a breather. Sometimes you need a drink (or a few) to help the process because you're so busy thinking about the incredibly long list of things that you have to do the next day as soon as that little guy decides to wake you up. That's how it is for me at least... I do understand that if that comes in the way of raising your family properly and taking away from the children then it shouldn't be done but I know plenty of dads who come home and have a few drinks... why can't us moms?
Wednesday 15 July
By chloe
In the 80's I was the president of PTO for my childrens school. Our PTO had a large committee that did all the preparing of fairs, events, etc. We would meet at each other's houses and drink cosmopolitans while we worked. We were a fun group and would meet at least 2x weekly. Got alot done, had alot of fun. Nothing new here, my mom and her friends did this all through the 60's.
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Friday 17 July
By Pia
Cosmopolitans in the 80's? Are you sure that drink existed then, or were you drinking martinis?
Friday 17 July
By Pia
Chloe are you sure you were drinking cosmopolitans in the 80's? Maybe regular martinis, but not cosmos!!
Thursday 16 July
By Erica Heyne
You must be joking? I can understand my mom having a few shots and calling it quits, but no, she doesn't know when to quit!! She hurts herself, by falling and stumbling. She yells and loses her temper. She throws out accusatory words and starts fights, then becomes the victim. I have had my mom in my face, pushing at me, screaming at me, because I "lied to her" because i "got smart with her". Everytime my mom drinks herself into a stupid drunk (70% of the time), we are left picking up the peices and comforting her. Fuck that. I hate the person my mom becomes when she drinks, and I thank god that she has cut down on her drinking. It hurts my heart to see her drunk, and I get so mad. So, no, Mommy does not need to get drunk. Just take a drink or two to relax.
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Thursday 16 July
By gayle
I don't have a problem with moms having a cocktail or two. But lets keep in mind that there are some who have addictive tendacies. My mother inherited her fathers drinking problem and she was a mean drunk. Drinking for her lead to pot. Then cociane. If it wasn't for the fact that my mother has COPD, I do believe she would still be getting high. So it all depends.
Friday 17 July
By gayle
My mothers drinking lead to her doing pot and then cocaine. If she didn't have COPD I truly think she would still be getting high. Did all this affect me? Yes!!
My mother was a very nasty drunk. She would say horrible things to me and then the next day beg for forgiveness claiming she didn't mean what she said. Liquor is a truth serom. So when she was drunk and she called me stupid , ugly and worthless, she meant it. Just because dads have a couple of beers after a hard days work, doesn't mean that us moms should do the same. The hand the rocks the cradle, rules the world.
Thursday 16 July
By figwort
I grew up in the 50' and 60's. My mother started with nerve pills, then to drinking, then to psycho. drugs. It was totally mixed messages growing up. Any of you women that think you are not effecting your children, I can assure you, you are. It may take a few years to catch up with you. I am thankful that I raised four children without drowning myself everynight into drinking. Get out of denial girls, it is a problem that you are not dealing with. If you don't believe me, ask your children to be truthful with you how you act every night after a few drinks.
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Thursday 16 July
By Andrea
My mother was a drunk & died from it when I was about 13 and I can tell you first hand, IT SUCKED! I'm 48 years old and to this day I still hate her with every fiber of my being. How unfair is it to your children that you get so smashed that you can't even make them breakfast, lunch or dinner? Or that you hit them, belittle them, neglect them because you're too drunk to know better? Or better yet, that you just don't care about yourself. Do you know what it's like to have no mother? I just wanted her to like me. I would have settled for being liked by her. How, how, HOW can you do that to your children? How can you do that to yourself? It's not funny and it NOT fun for your kids so get your act together and act like a grown up. You have the biggest responsiblity in the world and the best gift, a child. You should be cherishing them and your time with them. Why did you have them in the first place if you don't want to take proper care of them? The damage you do to them is just so wrong. Please stop. Please.
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Monday 20 July
By Ann Wise
Andrea;My mother died from alcohol when I was 18 and just about to graduate from high school. I truly feel your pain! However, having said that ... some years back, after I went to visit her grave and scream at her, I decided that now it was MY choice to be better and to learn from her sad choices. Everyone had issues in their childhood. Some far worse than others. The problem is when we continue to let those issues affect our lives in a negative way as adults. I finally decided to "let it go" and get things right with ME!! I am 56 soon to be 57 and although I can't change the past, I certainly can let it rest! There are far too many wonderful things TODAY that I cherish. I was so bitter and angry with my mother for so long that I nearly drove my children nuts by trying to be June Cleaver all of the time. Now I am at peace with my life and that of my children and my dead mother. Lessons learned were valuable! No hate here. I have more important things to do! Good luck and keep smiling Andrea!!
Tuesday 21 July
By Sharon
It's so unfair for children to have to watch their Mom get loaded! They're so innocent - all they want is your love.
I "sedated" myself when my kids were young and it progressed to the point that my liver failed. This behavior can be deadly for certain drinkers! You CAN stop, even tho you think you can't. Please ask for help!
Thursday 16 July
By BLUESDOG
to heck with alcohol. legalize marijuana.
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Monday 20 July
By LeeW
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Thursday 16 July
By Julie
Look, the new black? totally inapropriate. and not to get off topic or anything...But I smoke a fat one to rid myself of the "mental woos" of 16 hour days with my child. Plus, theres no hangover. But it looks like the 50's all over again...stay-at-home moms who drink to "relax" in the evening. Or pop a pill to get rid of that headache...Legalize it! sit down with a close friend, who can get good pot, and just smoke. talk it out. Alcohol actually makes more problems...
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Friday 17 July
By Tammy
As a recovering alcoholic, my hat is off to anyone who can drink with impunity (no consequences). The days of chugging one are gone, and this ol' gal is grateful to be alive.
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Thursday 16 July
By jonnyboy
Well as long as she doesn't get to drunk to get me another beer, and bring it to me in the lazy boy she'll be fine.
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