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It's no big surprise to us that men are a lot more narrow-minded about who turns them on than women. According to a new study in which participants rated photographs for attractiveness, women differ among themselves about what they find attractive. However, men are a unified front: They're all holding out for Megan Fox in their fantasies and their real life. At least that's what we gleaned from reading this, the most depressing sentence ever written:
"Men's judgments of women's attractiveness were based primarily around physical features, and they rated highly those who looked thin and seductive." Great, 'cause we needed science to tell us that guys all swarm like bees to the thin, busty, blonde girl in the bar.
On the other hand, some women gave high attractiveness ratings to the men other women said were not attractive at all. We guess that's why you see so many hot chicks with ugly boyfriends and never see it the other way around.
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Thursday 02 July
By viva
Men are always attracted to what they cannot have. Even the most attractive, sexiest, Megan Fox look-alike gets cheated on. Men would cheat on their attractive wives with someone less sexy than their wives...in looks and the perfect body.
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Friday 03 July
By J
Men base attractiveness on their evolutionary needs to reproduce, as do women. It's just that the criteria for each is different. Men choose women who look like they are at their best for reproducing, thus looking at physical features. Whereas women are looking for a mate who can provide for their well being as well as their child's, and the judgment for that can change from woman to woman.
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Friday 03 July
By S
Guys always want more. No one is ever perfect or good enough for them. I do not find Megan Fox so pretty. I think she looks rather sleezy but anyway. Many guys seem to prefer slutty looking women over the nice looking woman. Also, the sluttier the better. They just want the attention. It hardly matters how nice, great, smart etc. If you're better than them it actually intimidates them and most can't handle it.
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Sunday 26 July
By Ashley
I find this to be true in a lot of cases as well
Saturday 04 July
By Jeremiah
Sorry to burst your bubble ladies, but this guy has been in enough long-term, supposedly committed relationships to understand that women are indeed fickle. And how did each of these relationships, including my marriage, come to an end? Oh yeah... if memory serves me right, every single one of them cheated on me. And with men (I use the term loosely here) who, in all honesty, weren't worth it.
I'm not bragging about myself, simply making a point. There are still guys out there, myself included, who know that women are worth more than looks alone. Personality. intelligence, and attitude are equally as important to us. So if you are one of those lucky women who possess these traits, then allow me to give you some advice.
When you find a guy who actually cares about those traits as much as he cares about your looks, DON"T SCREW AROUND ON HIM! Cuz we're also the kind of guys that can make you regret you ever did, especially when you ditch us for a self-absorbed neanderthal.
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Wednesday 08 July
By ?itches are full of ?ullshit
Men all want the same thing?
?ullshit!
I am always astounded at the diverersity among the objects of desire / affection that my fellows choose.
Everything from the stuck up status conscious ?itch to the skanky bimbo that one would expect to see dancing on some greasy pole.
I almost always shake my head inside and think that I wouldn't take a date with any of these examples. I am just grateful that we all like something different. It would be terribly inconvenient if we all liked the same ones! . . . the constant fighting and unpleasantness!
The mania for the vapid hollywood starlets escapes me.
When I look at the "hottest" young babes that the media seems to be trying too hard to convince us that they are great, I just can't get over the shallowness that stares back from their empty gazes.
Maybe I'm being unfair to Miss Johanssen, Miss Fox, Miss Alba and the like. Perhaps the photographer is guilty of catching these ladies with remarkably blank stares, when in fact they possess remarkable depth and character.
On the one hand I can recognize that these women are attractive if only on an abstract level, without them actually turning me on personally (much as I can recognize handsome gentlemen without finding them attractive either)
Give me any day a down to earth woman of strong character who also still knows how to be the lady. After all if I just wanted one of the gross and uncouth "fellows" why would I need to find a woman?
"the sluttier, the better"? ?ullshit! No thanks!
My ideal: a dignity and pride that goes with that strong character revealed in a certain noble carraige, fresh natural beauty - athletic but demure, and an intellectual peer or superior (just so she doesn't look down on me for not being as clever as she is) And no psycho headcases. I am too nuts as it is.
After all as I am more frog than prince. . . I should of course be realistic about my expectations.
Indeed it is women who show the most "consistent" criteria about what they consider attractive.
Why do women find men of such "unconventional" or even unattactive physical appearance satisfactory? Well the answer is quite elementary!
$$$ & Power turn the ladies on - even with bald top and belly paunch.
How else would tasteless sleazes like Donald Trump pull off an uninterrupted series of supermodels.
Think of Sex in the City. In reality Mr. Big looks more Jason Alexander or Ned Beatty than Chris Noth. Afterall a Viagra fueled weekend in a Tuscan villa makes up for the washboard abs and full head of hair.
Everybody knows the Alpha Machers and the Big Swinging ?icks rule the world.
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Thursday 27 August
By Claire
I can't entirely agree with you. Sure, power is more of a draw for women than for men, but judging from myself and my friends, girls actually have very broad tastes. I myself dated someone who would not be considered very conventionally attractive for the better part of three years. I myself am not gorgeous, but was generally considered quite the better-looking half. Many were surprised to find that I had always been very attracted to him, but that he had been unsure about me. Why? Well, I was into skinny adorable nerds. And he was into skinny nerds too--the prettiest ones, always. Though I was prettier than most of his friends thought he could get, I wasn't the prettiest. And I thought he was perfection, though he certainly wasn't. Power? Money? Like me, he was a broke college kid without even the "power" cred of popularity, notable physical strength, or a distinguishing brilliant talent. He was just my type. And most of my friends completely disagreed--because it's all about taste, and women rarely agree about that.
Thursday 20 August
By rebirthofaman
While this article is unfortunate...it is true. We as men are very visual and can truly appreciate a very beautiful woman. For a lot of men it is some sort of badge of honor to have a beautiful woman on his arm. Some could care less if she can read or have command of the King's English. Regardless of how we look, we are looking for the total package in a woman. Brains,beauty,and booty. The one attribute that can not be lacking is beauty. Sorry ladies
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Sunday 29 August
By Michelle
All men may wish for beauty, but beauty is not a requirement. If it were, the species would die. All women do not qualify as beautiful. There are a lot of uglies out there, and even more averages. They don't have any trouble finding men to marry. I see them with their husbands every day.