When you first start dating a dude, his every little quirk goes under the microscope. Is he a good catch? Is he worth a second date? Our friends at YourTango.com recently listed a dude's height as a deal-breaker, despite the growing number of celebrity women who date the seven dwarves.
We asked around and found out the top no-questions-asked turn-offs of women we know.
Click here to read more after the jump, then leave a comment to let us know your own.
Bad Breath
They make every breath product known to man, but if nothing's helping the air that comes out of your dude's mouth whenever it opens, it might be time to move on.
"Gagging on first base is a large problem," said Andrea, 24. "One time I was on a date with a guy, sitting on opposite ends of the couch, and I could smell his breath from where I was sitting. And the worst part, he was chewing gum so I knew there was no hope for him!"
Being a Scrooge
We get that the country is in a recession, and we more than appreciate creative rather than expensive dates these days, but lack of funds doesn't give your man an excuse to forget his manners.
"I respect a guy who's smart with his money, but if he can't even buy me a drink when he invited me out in the first place, there will definitely not be another date," said Sophia, 25. "I know it sounds harsh, and I can support myself, but buying me a drink when we're first getting to know each other is a simple gesture that has a big impact. It shows me that I won't have to worry about him being a cheapskate for the rest of our relationship."
Being a Slacker
There's no bigger turn-off than a guy who has his act together, a great personality, great looks, great sense of humor ... he has everything -- except motivation. You're baffled as to why he'd bring you to his place in his parents' basement; he's baffled as to why you'd even think he wants to move out.
"Nothing is worse than a man who has no ambition in life," said Nicole, 25. "I am a very driven person. I once dated a guy who always put off getting a job. In the end we hardly ever did anything together. I got so fed up that he wasn't making moves to secure a job, no matter what the position, I ended things. And I'm glad I did because he's still unemployed!"
Tell us: What's the one trait that you can't tolerate in a new guy?
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Thursday 25 June
By aussiebroad
Long fingernails and/or toenails.
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Thursday 25 June
By Height schmeight
Height as a deal breaker? You gotta be kidding me? Maybe like REALLY short, under 5 foot? My husband is 5' 6" which is considered short for men but his schLONG and ability to use it more than make up for it! LOL
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Saturday 27 June
By seriously
What about penis size? Girls always say size doesn't matter and then go running when they see my 3 incher
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Wednesday 01 July
By ~*Sexxxy Mama*~
ohh yeah...size matters alright. It can be too small or too big.
Friday 03 July
By April
Biggest deal-breaker? Hearing a guy describe his mother as the gold medal winner in the "Bitch Olympics"! (If his relationship with his mother is THAT bad, what must he say about previous girlfriends--or God forbid, ex-wives!) Second biggest deal-breaker? A guy who tells you what you need to change about yourself if you want the relationship to continue. I was once on a date (the first and only), and over dinner he proceeded to tell me that if I lost weight, changed my hairstyle and wardrobe, I had an excellent chance "of possibly becoming my second wife". I immediately asked him to take me home (silly me, I had no car at the time. If I had, the squealing tires would have been heard for several miles!)
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Friday 03 July
By S
That's so true for me. A scrooge in any way will never hear from me again. Call it whatever you want. That's just how I was raised and believe in. I def will not go on a date and pay for my own dinner etc.
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Tuesday 07 July
By Prometheus
I go absolutely the other way on the cheap-skate thing. If I'm out with a girl who EXPECTS me to pay for her, we're done. This is 2009, you fought long and hard for equality and it cuts both ways. I'm happy to split bills, or even buy the first round of drinks if you buy the second. But if you consider it a given that I'm paying, and look at me like a cheapskate if I don't, let me know know, so I can find someone not looking to date a walking cash register. You want a partner who thinks of you like an equal, well guess what: so do we.
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Tuesday 07 July
By Alice
Yes it may be 2009, but what does that really mean anyway? I am like most women very happy to have equality but I never understood where dating fits in the equation. Even in 2009 women still want to be treated like women and men still want to be men; I don't think that is ever going to change. What does paying or not paying for dinner have to do with equality? I've dated enough losers and cheapskates who have used this same argument to get out of paying for anything most of the times because they simply couldn't afford it anyway! If you are going to ask me for a date and can't cover the bill don't bother! There is something to be said for a man who respects you enough to pay for the entire first date no questions asked. If that is what it takes to make the girl you want to be with feel special, isn't it worth it?
Thursday 23 July
By Annie
Uhh! I think a boy thinks like you do... A REAL MAN would be ashamed to ask a girl to buy her own drink or to split the bill... In fact if a girl Offers to split the bill is because you're not going anywhere else than that first date with NO "goodnight kiss" or ANYTHING... Maybe you should look for a Sugarmamma and then she can pay your drinks/dinner/etc.
Wednesday 19 August
By aff
I whole-heartedly agree with you. I'm a woman, and I don't expect my date to pay at all. But once we get to know and like each better it'd be nice that he splurges on me a bit :D
Wednesday 08 July
By Prometheus
Oh Alice. Alice, Alice, Alice. Clearly, it's never going to work out between us I'm afraid. Where to begin? With the rampant hypocrisy and glorious double-standards, the blind adherence to antiquated ideals, or the lack of reading skills? Let's start with that last one, shall we?
Here's what I said: "I'm happy to split bills, or even buy the first round of drinks if you buy the second.". Now, your response was: "I've dated enough losers and cheapskates who have used this same argument to get out of paying for anything most of the times because they simply couldn't afford it anyway!" Do you see the cognitive dissonance here, Alice? OF COURSE he shouldn't be allowed to not pay for anything, but that's not what I said. You ask where equality comes in? It comes from being equal (in fact that's the first five letters of the word equality). EQUAL. THE SAME. You should pay the same amount; that's being equals (something most women claim to want in a relationship-a partner who treats them like an equal).
That leads nicely onto the hypocrisy issue and those fantastic double-standards. You said " If you are going to ask me for a date and can't cover the bill don't bother! There is something to be said for a man who respects you enough to pay for the entire first date no questions asked. If that is what it takes to make the girl you want to be with feel special, isn't it worth it?". Well, where's the consistency in that? So if the man wants to pay half the bill (i.e. his share), he's a "cheapskate"? But the woman who EXPECTS that it be entirely taken care of is just being traditional? And why can't I say that if you respect the man enough, and want him to feel special, you should contribute? Let's stick to one standard Alice, no reason to double up and be a total hypocrite?
Now, the blind adherence to antiquated ideals. You also said "Yes it may be 2009, but what does that really mean anyway? I am like most women very happy to have equality but I never understood where dating fits in the equation. Even in 2009 women still want to be treated like women and men still want to be men" implying that it's tradition for the man to pay. Do you know why that is, Alice? Because it used to be that men were employed and women weren't. Or men were employed in well-paying jobs and women in menial, low-paying ones. Men paid, because they had the money. That's where equality comes into dating. Over the past century women have pushed to break glass ceilings, lower gender barriers and reduce that inequality. Congratulations, job well done, the wage gap is now drastically reduced and much of what remains is easily attributable to intrinsic factors (i.e. women taking maternity leave or seeking more flexible hours to account for child rearing etc). So, tell me again why you think every guy you date should basically be a giant sack with a dollar sign on the side? If you want real equality, you take the good with the bad. You earn your own way, you can pay your own way. I don't expect you to pay for me, why should you expect me to pay for you?
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Thursday 27 August
By Claire
As a feminist, I would completely agree--except for that darn wage gap. It may have been "drastically reduced," but women are still making roughly 80 cents on the dollar a man makes. And that's after adjustment for "choices" such as educational level and career decisions (which themselves are heavily influenced by societal pressures that still discourage women from lucrative career paths or force them to leave careers for family reasons). In short, women are consistently paid less for the exact same work today. While I dislike being paid for on first dates and always insist on splitting (unless I'm in a relationship with a person who makes considerably more money), I believe women are still justified in expecting men to pay for first dates based on the twenty percent difference in our compensation. I hardly imagine you guys spend twenty percent of your cash on dates anyway, right?
Oh, and then there are expenses women are expected to make for the man's benefit that have no male equivalent: makeup, expensive hair products, and an extensive wardrobe. I can guarantee I need to spend a lot more money to be considered put-together enough to be datable than a man does to be considered equally datable.
Thursday 09 July
By Yvonne Kelly
states his hobby is flea markets.
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Friday 10 July
By Modern Man
I completely agree with Prometheus. The writer of this article should be ashamed of herself. It’s such a double standard, gold digging, archaic 1950’s approach to dating. The reason that many attractive women are single and lonely in America (including the author no doubt) is that they focus on these trivial things as “deal breakers” instead of trying to get to know a man and understand who he really is.
In this economy, money is tight and more and more men will spot out and avoid gold-diggers the first chance they get.
So many women have fought so hard for so long for equality in our society. And yet, now that we have it – you have people like the author of this article, who will insist on things being “the traditional way” when it suits them. You can’t have your cake and eat it too. Either we go back to the 1950’s where men controlled everything (including all the good jobs) and pay for dinner. Or we modernize, give equal opportunity to everyone for success, and bring our “traditions” up to modern standards.
A person should be grateful, if another buys them dinner. But not to EXPECT it. A women who Expects it is a GOLD DIGGER. And men will avoid her like a plague.
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Friday 17 July
By megan
Deal breaker= a man who doesnt work out. If you cannot even try to have a nice body....than why should i? thats just a personal thing for me, and i do work out 7 days a week and look decent. Also a man who makes me drive everywhere. I'm a little old fashioned. Stop being lazy and drive. And the money issue...well don't be cheap.
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Monday 20 July
By docair
I'm a very successful man,I have everything that one could possiable imagine.Except true love,One that understands that there are good days in life that overlook any bad arguments that might arise,Finding someone who is postive for what the day offers is a very hard thing to find,Exspecially when they see what I have to offer,I can't hide who I am,I thought about buying a junk car or renting an apartment,But this would be mis leading in the end.Why should I have to hide my success to win true love?
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