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Guy on Guy Hey, how did this copy of "Weekend in Bernie" get in here? Having an interest of gay or bisexual porn may not necessarily mean your fella's in the closet, but Kerner notes that "if all he's interested in is guy-on-guy, then you might want to think about how it fits in with other pieces of your relationship."
Does he have other types of porn or are there scenes with chicks? It could be a fluke or another of those fantasizes-about-being-watched things. But if there are other warning signs, you -- and he -- might need to come to grips with the truth.
So What Now?
No matter what you find, try not to freak out -- after all, it's his fantasy life. If he had other issues, you'd have known about them long before you found his treasure chest.
"In general, porn doesn't necessarily represent what he'd like to do, just things that turn him on, and porn is often an extreme version of these turn-ons," explains Kerner. "In general, women don't have to worry too much, unless he's really overdoing it and doesn't have any sexual energy left for the relationship, or if you can't talk about the kind of sex you'd like to be having and all the novelty is happening for him via porn."
Finding his secret stash gives you a peek at the naughty wish list he's never been brave enough to share. Consider yourself lucky -- he'll certainly be doing the same when you turn him on like no woman ever before!
Tell Us: Ever found something intriguing in your guy's goodie drawer? What'd you do with that erotic information?
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Tuesday 23 June
By Becky
In a title: "painful anal"...
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Tuesday 23 June
By qwerty
Throw that one back in the sea, Becky.
Wednesday 24 June
By Janine
Ok, what? I have never, ever known a straight man that enjoys man on man sex!! If a girl finds this, then YES he is gay or bisexual. There is no debate about this in my opinion.
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Friday 03 July
By S
I agree with Janine. What a good excuse "men are twisted". As Janine said, the guy is either gay or bi or got some issues.
Wednesday 24 June
By Tim
Well, Janine, you have to take into account that many guys can be twisted individuals. I have a friend who will go through a person's computer without permission if he's left alone. I have another friend who knows this, and he places random "Shock" images and videos as a subtle way to chastise him for doing this.
From what I hear, the shock images/videos include extreme gay porn, "goatse", and other various shockers from around the internet.
I'm just saying there could be other reasons for it, but if he has a shrine folder, then maybe that's the right road.
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Monday 29 June
By ed
I think women are always threatened by knowing that their man is involved with porn, so few women would have an objective reaction to finding a stash. In my case, porn represents things that are fantasies and not necessarily what I'd like to do. My woman has twice brought up the subject of fantasies and in each case was just appalled by the fact that I had a fantasy that was outside her small comfort zone. So when a woman finds a porn stash her reaction can often just be a reflection of how narrow-minded she is
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Friday 03 July
By S
I think guys are threatened by a lot of things women do and not even purposely. Guys just hold double standards and women are expected to put up with the BS and not feel any insecurities or anything. Once a woman does something "out of line" or "unacceptable" she's called names such as whore, slut, bitch etc. If a man is hurt and bothered then he has an excuse to cheat but women are supposed to deal with all the "rules" that apply to men. It's ok for men to do whatever. I wonder how a guy would feel if his girl had a whole bunch of porn of other men not couples.
Wednesday 05 August
By ishtarjmd
Not entirely true. My guy has a large stash of porn. Some of it is on his IPod. I'm not threatened by it. In fact I've found that if we watch it together, even while not pawing or doing anything else sexual, the sex next time is amazing. And he usually initiates. I have my own stash of porn (You're silly if you think women dont watch it too.) and he knows what kind of things I like. We've watched it together too. Theres nothing wrong with fantasy and nothing threatening...as long as you have a woman secure in herself.
Saturday 04 July
By ed
to "S": very good point. Double standards can be a source of trouble but both guys and girls can, and do, hold double standards. Sometimes they don't even realize it. Double standards will always cause hurt and that just sucks -- for both sides. How do you avoid this? That's a million dollar question.
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Friday 24 July
By jessica
So Janine, you're saying if a woman watched girl-on-girl porn, she MUST be a lesbian? Ignorant comment.
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Thursday 13 May
By Hmm...
But that's not what she said at all. Actually, that's the exact opposite of what she said. I think you skipped over the word "not" somehow... ::P
Wednesday 28 October
By Donna
My husband get turned on by kinky stuff. I found him reading incest stuff on the web. He also plays really weird virtual sex games on line with people from all around the world, but he won' t let me see or participate. He spends six hours a day doing these things.......I'm gonna leave him. Porn can be an addiction for some and he would rather pretend for now than be in the real world. It's sad. The worst part is that he thinks he has a big unit and he's great at sex. He not...I just lie to make him feel good.
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Wednesday 23 June
By Kitty
Okay, I would be completely fine with my boyfriend watching some porno as long as he wasn't freakishly obsessed like yours! Six hours...a day?! That's waay too far. He sounds like a total creep! If he won't let you see what he's viewing then that should be an automatic warning sign. Get him off the computer and tell him that he needs to work on his sex skills with you, not the internet. And don't lie to him! That's the worst thing you could ever do -- most /real/ men want the truth even if it hurts.
Thursday 29 October
By Donna
My husband erased all comments that were sent to me from my comment. If you could please email me again I would really be grateful. Hanging in there.
Donna
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