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"My new boyfriend is amazing. The only issue is that I am still friends with my ex-boyfriend and this bothers him. I totally love my new guy, but still enjoy spending time with the ex. There are NO sexual feelings.

"My new guy wants me to introduce them so he can approve. I feel like he doesn't trust me. Am I being silly or should I let him meet the ex and see that there is nothing going on?"

Shari says:
This is a conundrum to be sure. You don't want to make your current honey feel like you're not respecting his feelings by sharing part of yourself (above the waist, of course!) with your ex, but you also don't want to put the kibosh on your connection with someone who knows you so well.

I say the answer is booze. Have the three of you go out to dinner. Break bread, split a bottle of wine, talk about how happy you are right now in your life.

Show your man that there's no threat and later that night give him the BJ of his life. (Your boyfriend, that is, not your ex.)

Click here to read a guy's POV after the jump.

Mitchell says:
I might stop here and vote for the Shari plan of "Booze and Blowjobs" for all issues going forward.

This is a tough one, and it tends to come up a lot for people, especially once you, ah, get older and have some of what we'll call "history."

Seriously, you either need to get them together or it's gonna end ... and end badly. Trust me. I have been in your guy's shoes and honestly, after the first few times she tried to avoid the situation, my level of trust in my girlfriend was gone. Once that goes, it's only a matter of time before everything else goes with it.

I don't see the big deal in introducing them. Think of it like two big dogs who bark at each other from across the park. They look like they might kill each other, but once you get them together and they can "sniff" around a bit, they'll be fine.

Chances are your man has some issues going on in his head, so if he is worth it to you, then do this tiny little favor. If your relationship is solid, he'll trust your judgment and appreciate the gesture.

So get the two together for a (quick!) drink (no need to drag it out and let them start comparing notes on your mom). It'll show both of your guys that you're comfortable in your new relationship.

Shari Albert and Mitchell Fink are Lemondrop's resident love advisers. Click here to read more about them, and leave your burning relationship question in the comments.